Why we argue about sexRemember that we tell you about the sexual attraction of men and women as is typical of these groups. Individual sexual attraction may vary from person to person, but in this Chapter we discuss libido, typical for most.
Single woman can have a strong sexual attraction, and that man is weak, but it is the variances that do not reflect the overall situation. In the General case, a man distinguished by strong sexual desire, but most women it weaker. Research Institute Kinsey showed that 37% of men think about sex every 30 minutes. Only 11 % of women think about it just as often. Men are continuously entering the large amount of blood testosterone supports a strong attraction, that's why, when it comes to sex, he is always ready. Almost forty years old woman complains that a man constantly puts pressure on her, forcing to have sex, and these differences cause alienation from both sides. She often accuses him that he "uses" it. Only at the end of their thirties sexual desire women compared with men and often surpasses it. This attraction is the way that nature encourages a woman to use the last chance to have a baby, before the advent of the menopause. A man forty years have often been quite astonished at this change of roles. His sexual desire may be weaker than women in the same age, and self-confidence stronger. Many men begin to complain that they are forced to act according to the order, and not the desire. Now, so to speak, offensive leads the other party. We recommend you read the book "Good love, good sex," Dr. Rosie king and "Mars and Venus in the bedroom" Dr. John gray. And in that, and in another book provides tips on what should be the strategy and tactics to smooth out differences between male and female levels of sexual desire. Most couples are not aware of the objectivity of these differences, and everyone expects that the partner understands what he needs, although the nature of this is not provided. Men and women have different power of sexual desire, and most couples leads to each other with different strengths at different times of the week, month and year.
Of course, it is fashionable to say that the modern man and woman are equally interested in sex, or to assert that in normal pair partners are ideally suited to each other, but in real life it does not happen. Despite sung by poets feeling, despite the romantic notions of love, sexual desire is the result of exposure to chemicals on the brain. Testosterone is the main hormone that causes in us the feeling of sexual attraction, and, as already mentioned in Chapter 7, love is a combination of chemical and electrical reactions. Those who think that love is born in the mind, partly right. For women psychological factors, such as trust, intimacy, and General welfare, provide in combination the background, after which the brain begins to produce hormones. In men, this set is injected into the blood at any time, in any place.
Sexual attraction and stress
A strong influence on sexual attraction women have the events of her life. If she threatens dismissal, if the work absorbs it entirely, twice increased payments on loans for house, kids get sick, it got wet in the rain, lost dog, about sex cannot be and speeches. She could think only about how to reach the bed and go to sleep. If the same thing will happen with a man, he needs sex instead of sleeping pills to discharge during the day, tension. Thus the day ended, and she offers, she calls him unfeeling barbarians, it is frigid special and goes to sleep on the couch. Sound familiar? Interestingly, when men are asking, what is their relationship with the partner, they talk about them in terms of the day when the question was asked: for example, whether she stroked shirt, whether prepared Breakfast, whether he massaged his head. A woman in such circumstances, begins to talk about the period: whether he was attentive the last few months, did chores and how often she spoke to. Most men consequence of differences in the responses do not understand. All day he behaved like a perfect gentleman, and she refuses him sex - and all because he allowed himself two weeks ago to speak frankly about her mother.
How many times in life we have sex?
The survey pairs, held in Australia in 1997-98, has allowed to establish the average frequency of sex in these par. Those who participated in the survey were selected randomly, the survey was conducted anonymously, and so the answers were likely true. Don't forget indicators average. It happens, and 65 years sex up to six times a week, and sometimes twenty years, yet never tried, but this is the exception rather than the rule. It is interesting to note that the statement 81% of couples they were happy with their sex life. Should be, it took a lot of persuasion and negotiation to this happiness did not prevent excessive sexual desire men. In Western countries, the percentage of satisfied sexual side of marriage usually does not exceed 60%. In one American study found that all white men have approximately the same number of sexual intercourse. Latin women have sexual contact more often than ebony or white women (they have approximately the same number of relations). Nigritana likely to reach orgasm when meeting a man for 50% more than white women. Asians, as it was found to have the lowest number of relations, which corresponds to the lowest level of testosterone.
Sex and the mind
In American demographics magazine published materials group of scientists who were examined in 1997 10 000 adults and found that between mind and sex drive, there is a certain correlation: the smarter you are, the less you want to have sex, and the less you have it. Intellectuals, behind which in addition to higher education and the graduate school, had 52 intercourse in the year compared with 61 intercourse among people with higher education, but without graduate school, and leaving school without exams, the average frequency was 59. Men working from 9 to 5, had 48 intercourse per year, while men with a 60-hour working week, this figure rose to 82: probably increased the level of testosterone in the blood causes the man to work and to seek sex. Jazz fans have sex by 34% more than the fans of pop music, and the lowest number of relations observed for classical music lovers.
In men testosterone is injected into the blood five or seven waves per day, the highest wave is when the sun is approximately twice higher than any other these days - wave testosterone before going on a hunt. In the evening, when a man peeping into the fire, the level of testosterone in his 30% lower. "One morning I woke up at 6 o'clock due to the fact that his wife was pushing me in the back of a broomstick, " said one of the listeners after our lecture, " when I asked her what was the matter, she said: I tried this for a change! "
How sex improves your health
Evidence that sex is a great tonic for your health, received innumerable. Cupids that you do in an average of three times a week, burn 35 000 kilojoules, which is equivalent to the power consumption of the runner at an annual distance of 130 kilometers. Sex increases the level of testosterone in the blood, and it strengthens bones and muscles and provides you much needed cholesterol. Specialist in problems of sex Dr. Beverly Whipple says, "Endorphins, which relieve pain in the body during sexual intercourse into the blood, and with their help it is possible to get rid of headaches and arthritic pain character". Immediately before orgasm, the blood receives the hormone (DHEAS) daydreaming-asteron improving sensitivity, strengthens the immune system, inhibiting tumor growth and strengthening bone. Women during sex is released in large doses of oxytocin, which is associated with the desire to touch her; also increases the level of estrogen in the blood. Dr. Harold Bloomfield in his book "the Power of five" showed how the increased levels of estrogen leads to the improvement of bone tissues and the cardiovascular system in women.
The body releases these hormones to protect the heart and prolong life, more sex - for longer life and less stress. A list of the beneficial effects of intensive sexual life all the time updated.
Monogamy and polygamy
The term polygamy means that in the same period of time a man or woman have more than one partner. By now you probably already came to the conclusion that by nature human beings are not monogamous. It is known that the distribution of the Judeo-Christian ideology more than 80% of human societies practiced polygamy, mainly in order to survive. Monogamy means that one man is constantly associated with only one woman that is natural for some animals, such as foxes, eagles and so on. In monogamous animals male and female individuals usually have about one weight, and parental responsibilities they perform equally: 50:50. In polygynous species, males are usually larger, have a more vivid color, more aggressive and almost no parental responsibilities. The males of polygamous animals sexually Mature much later than females, which avoids conflicts between older males and young inexperienced individuals, who are less likely to survive in the marriage battle. Men physical requirements correspond to the characteristics polygamous individuals, it is not surprising that monogamy leads to constant conflicts.
Why men are so promiscuous
So how modern marriage combined with the style of life of individuals, which by its nature is biologically illegible male? Sexual immorality is programmed in the brain of men and is a legacy of its evolution. Throughout human history, wars have been associated with the destruction first of all men, and therefore, the continuous reproduction was a vital necessity. Men after the battle returned much less, which led to the emergence of a large number of widows. The harem was an effective tool, allowing the tribe to survive. The birth of a boy was considered a great success as men to protect the community always lacked. The girl was carrying a disappointment because of the constant surplus of women in the tribe. This situation remained unchanged hundreds of thousands of years. As a legacy of those times modern man still has a great hypothalamus and gets a huge dose of testosterone, which ensure the fulfillment of his ancient instinct of procreation. The reality is that the man, like most primates and other mammals, not biologically inclined to complete monogamy. Sufficient proof of this could be a huge industry, focused almost exclusively on a specific need men. Almost all pornography, erotic videos, prostitution, Internet files, with the sign of X are designed for men, which shows that although the majority of them live in monogamous marriage, the brain requires a polygamous stimulation. However, it should be remembered that, in discussing the cravings of men to sexual promiscuity, we are only talking about biological inclinations. We do not promote sexual promiscuity, we do not select arguments in defense of the right to treason. We now live in a world radically different from the world of the past, and our biological nature is often at odds with our expectations and requirements.
The fact that the action produced an instinctive or conditioned by nature, does not mean that it will benefit us. Nature laid in the brain of the moth program, instinctively pulling at him to the light, allowing it to navigate at night by the moon and stars. Unfortunately for himself, the moth also lives in the modern world, which differs sharply from the one in which it evolved. And flies in the trap for moths and mosquitoes, invented by man. The instinctive action and biologically determined, but the moth falls into the trap and instantly burns. Understanding biological inclinations of man helps him to make a choice and thereby avoid the self-immolation due to instinctive action.
There is interest in respect of the small number of women as loose as men, but their motivation is different. Stimulation program of brain sexual arousal in women, the purpose of which is to protect the nest depends on different criteria and associated not only with the desire to have sex. Most women strive to establish a relationship or at least look forward to the possibility of emotional connection before they have the desire to connect with a man. Most men don't understand that a woman, once aware of the presence of emotional connection, be happy, yielding to him in the next three or six months. Except for a few of nymphomanic, most women experience an acute need for physical intercourse during ovulation, and this desire can last or few days, or a few hours.
Most men, if they are not bound by any restrictions, can infinitely do mindless relations to ensure the survival of the tribe. A survey conducted by the American Institute of health, showed that 82% of young men aged 16 to 19 said that they like the idea of participating in orgies with strangers, but only 2% of girls considered this proposal attractive.
The effect of the rooster
Cock - lust individual and can mate with the hens up to 60 times at a time. However, it does not mate with the same chicken more than five times a day. After five times the cock completely loses interest and is unable to achieve erections, but being admitted to the new chicken begins to trample it with the same enthusiasm as the previous one. This phenomenon is known under the name "the effect of the rooster".
The bull loses interest in the cow after seven copulations, but the heat is restored when meeting with another cow. Even after ten new cows he still retains an enviable enthusiasm. Sheep will not climb on the sheep more than five times, but with the new continues to deal with unrelenting passion. Attempt to disguise old beloved bag, worn on the head, or perfumes yields no results: sheep can't. You couldn't fool him. In this way nature provides such a wide dispersion of the seed, to the extent possible, to place the maximum number of conceptions, which is associated with the survival of the species.
A healthy young man has almost the same abilities: he can about five times, but the sixth he usually is not possible. However, introduce him to a new woman and, like a rooster or ox, he will quickly begin to grow interest (together with the relevant authority). Male libido such a strong feature that, according to Dr. Patrick Decay of recovery Institute potency, Los Angeles, and eight percent of men are obsessed with sex, while for women the figure is 3%.
Why men love that women dressed like prostitutes
(but not in public)
The male brain is required variety. Like most male mammals, the brain is programmed to search for the greatest possible number of healthy partners. That's why men are so fond of new type of sexy lingerie in a monogamous relationship. Unlike other mammals man may deceive himself, believing that he has a harem of different women, although it is one and the same wears different clothes and lingerie. Full analogy with the bag, which was trying to disguise herself. Most women know, what is the effect of dressing, although few people know why it's so strong.
Every Christmas in the Department of women's lingerie in Department stores men milling about like sheep, trying to choose sexy gift for their loved ones. In January their favorite stand in line in the return Department purchases the same Department store. "It's not for me, " they say. - He wants I was dressed as a prostitute! " The prostitute, of course, professional selling sex, she listens to the demand of the market and packs itself so that the transaction took place. In one of the American studies have shown that women using sexual underwear, less likely to suffer from male adultery compared with those who prefers routine. Here's one way to satisfy male desire for variety without breaking monogamy.
Why male three minutes is a miracle
The entire process - from a cold start to orgasm - that of the average man takes about two and a half minutes. For a healthy woman it takes on average 13 minutes. For most mammals, the mating process is very fast, because as long as individuals are busy procreation, they are vulnerable to predators. Giving the opportunity to do it "quick", nature thus cared for the conservation of this species.
Depending on age, state of health and mood, many men can have sex several times a day, maintaining an erection for time intervals of different length. This is a great achievement compared to African baboon, whose process of copulation takes from ten to twenty ; seconds and requires only four to eight forward-reflexive movements. But the baboon pales before the wild rat, which has registered 400 copulations for ten hours. However, the first place in the animal Kingdom holds the mouse Shaw, owner of record: more than 100 full copulations per hour.
Playing with testicles
"In order to do this, you must have big balls! "is the well-known expression, which recognizes the link between the size of the testicles and self-assurance. In the animal world the size of the testes in relation to body weight is the main indicator for determining the level of testosterone. However, the size of the testicles is not necessarily related to body size. Gorilla, for example, weighs four times more than chimps, but chimps testicles four times harder than gorilla. At Sparrow testicles eight times more than the eagle, comparing their weight with body weight, and accordingly, the Sparrow is known as one of the most lustful little creatures. Here we come to the point: the size of the testicles determines the propensity of men to change or to monogamy. African chimpanzees Bonobos has the largest testicles among all primates and continuously savecomplete with all female animals that fall into the field of view. Powerful male gorilla, who has his own harem, can be considered a good year, which was one copulation. The ratio of the mass of the testes/body weight among primates is somewhere in the middle. This means that men produce enough testosterone to not lost the desire to sleep with every woman, but quite a few that keeps them within the strict rules of monogamy, insisted on women, religion and society in which they live.
In this light, it is understandable that political leaders such as bill Clinton, John F. Kennedy. Bob hawke and Saddam Hussein, have, in all probability, the testicles are larger than the average size, although we have no possibility to get so close to them, to examine them to make sure. This implies that they have a sexual attraction should be signicantly higher than that of the average man, and so they need regular discharge. Society chooses man with large testicles and a high level of testosterone in the blood at the high post, and then requires him to, he acted like a castrated cat. In reality aspire to power and receive the personality with high level of testosterone and, therefore, a strong sex drive. Ironically, this desire sometimes leads to the fact that they have this power lose.
Radically the problem of male adultery can be solved in only one way - castration. In this case, the man will not only be monogamous, but he also won't have to shave, he will not be bald and will live much longer. Studies have shown that the average life expectancy castrated men is 69 years, although their intact counterparts she is 56 years. The same ratio holds true for your cat.
We can expect that future generations of men will have a potency lower than that of modern man. From generation to generation, the size of the testes and sperm production is steadily declining. There is evidence that our ancestors, the size of the testes was significantly greater than that of modern man. Compared with other primates male produces significantly fewer sperm per gram of muscle mass than his cousin the gorilla or chimpanzee. Now the male produces sperm approximately two times less than the man of the generation of the forties of our century. The light in our time, men appear much more feminine than their grandfathers.
The testicles also have brains
Dr. Robin Baker from the School of biological Sciences, Manchester Metropolitan University UK conducted a remarkable study that showed that the male brain subconsciously determines the behavior of women when it comes the time of ovulation. His body immediately computes and then produces the number of sperm required at any given time to ensure that the probability of conception was higher. For example, if a couple has sex every day, man made in the period of ovulation is about 100 million units of semen every time. If he had not seen her for three days, the number increased to 300 million units at one time and up to 500 million in five days - and all this even if he every day savecomplete with another woman. Nature causes the brain to count the number of sperm produced in order that it will last for conception and to furnish any other competing sperm, if it exists.
Man, zaglyadevshis to another
Stimulation of men is through visual images, women through the auditory perception. The male brain is configured in such a way that draws attention to the forms: that's why erotic pictures produce a man so strong an impression. Women who have a range of sensory receptors that perceive information, much wider, I want to hear sweet words. A woman so much like to hear the compliments that even closes her eyes, when her lover whispers gentle nonsense.
The Miss universe competition gathers a huge audience, consisting of both men and women, but television surveys show that men in the audience far more than women. This is due to the fact that the competition is an acceptable form of meeting men's passions to gawk at the beautiful female form. In contrast to this contest, the contest Mister universe collects tiny audience and therefore rarely broadcast on television. The reason is that neither men nor women are not interested in the passive contemplation of the male form, because the attractiveness of a man depends on his skills and physical fitness.
When passing by a woman with a great figure, a man whose peripheral vision is weak, turns behind her head and falls into a state of trance. If the couple walking down the street, and within sight, rocking her hips, appears to Miss the Mini-skirt, a woman with her excellent peripheral vision registers its appearance much earlier men. The woman quickly gives the mind a comparison between himself and a potential rival, usually making the output is not in their favor. When finally the man to notice her immediately follows the order: "Not zasmatrivatsya! " Women in such situations usually arise in the mind of two distressing thoughts: first, she mistakenly believes that a man may prefer the woman; second, it seems that she is not as attractive in comparison with pop rival. Men are usually attracted to the curves of the body, leg length and other female form. Any woman with acceptable forms and proportions not pass his attention.
The fact that a man ever look at women, does not mean his desire to immediately get her into his bed, but is a constant reminder that he is the man, and in the process of evolution is the duty not to miss any opportunities to increase the number of his tribe. In the end he doesn't even know this woman and to think seriously about the long-term relationship may not. The same principle applies when viewing a reversal in erotic magazine. When in front of him is a photograph of a naked woman, he does not evaluate, what good is she as a person, knows how to cook or play the piano. He looks at the curves, shape and physical condition - and only. For him the admiration of beautiful hips and fresh ham in the window is the same character. We do not justify blatant vulgar looking women who sin some men; we explain: if a man staring at a stranger woman, for his constant love is not irrelevant - just in terms of their biological device, it can not otherwise. Incidentally, it is interesting to note that in public places such as beaches, swimming pools, woman, according to surveys, more often look at men than Vice versa.
What men do
The man stared at the other, especially in a public place, it is better not to make excuses, but to make his woman the best possible compliments, for example, to say, "Yes, she has excellent legs, but I bet that she doesn't have your sense of humor, expensive... compared to you she must be in another, the lower orders...". This kind of approach to the situation, especially in the presence of friends, can bring great dividends, if men have the courage to use it. Women need to realize that man is biologically unable not to stare at certain feminine shapes and curves, and this fact does not threaten her. Easier it would be to see a woman that attracts attention, first, and first to speak of it, Men must remember that no woman does not approve, when her man to ever look at another.
Men, women and sex
The theory of sex including 2
Based on the book "the Language of relationship (Man and Woman)"
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