When a person has to make difficult choices between romanticism and cynicism in sex, best carefully to avoid striking manifestations of both. The first is a good idea to leave for a date, second for General views on the structure of the universe, but in the sex better to focus on a more natural behavior.
Romantic sex is very bad. Usually this word polite girls describe sex with such special partner in bed confused about the same as from cats in neurosurgery. Even this cat nature has generously endowed microcaliper. (To the adjective "romantic" in a sexual context was used by men, I never heard, though I cannot be sure that such an incident has never occurred in the history of the evolution: nature, as we know, likes to experiment.) Tenderness, understatement, subtlety experiences, the lightest touch of the fingers to the neck, and lips - to the immortal lines of love lyrics sex it all works very slowly. That is, until unbuttoned the first button on the boots, all of this will fit perfectly, but on the urgent need to change something.
Good sex is tango, the most unromantic dance in the world. Even in breakdancing man doesn't seem to be such a powerful disrespect to the partner, and the woman to the rules of good manners.
Piety, raptured solicitude towards the lady is pink whale, which is a romance. But what girl would want this animal splashed on the scene at the critical moment? So the event had at least some sense, it should be a beast, but rather related to the leopard, tiger, or at least the boa. In General, something charmingly dangerous, deceptive beautiful and clearly predatory.
It may be objected that the concept of "romanticism" can be interpreted much broader than this dare I do. That romance involves not only the sighs on the bench, but the adventurous side of life. Well that is all this evil-vampire-pirate aesthetics when corsage beauties dissected dagger and ecstatic curses to drink wine from the respective furrows. Yes, perhaps. But for this, you know, it is desirable to be a movie character, who still takes a hundred and fifty in case the wine will flow the wrong way, and the dagger breaks.
But cynicism is worse romanticism. Under the cynicism necessary to understand events such as laughter, sports approach and called things by their right names. No, you are beating each other with pillows, to uncontrollable laughter and to tell your partner exactly what you want, up to the creation of detailed drawings with the correct angle and amplitude of the frictions. Casual eating not only medical terms, but the very simple and clear words in the South and, say S, which in our language is so simple to explain everything from the weather to the subtleties of the rocket.
But such a simple and sincere approach is the most reliable way to turn sex into the most boring thing in the world. Usually, such tactics come couples in the third year of a joint life, and, as the owner of two children, a dog and an unfinished PhD, I blame not take it. Fun, friendly, candid sex can bring high-quality physical satisfaction, but the emotional component somewhere quickly evaporates. And to bring it back, former lovers very often you have to produce on the back of their eyelids extraneous images. No matter how Scarlett Johansson in deshabille and almost doctors houses unbuttoned blue shirt. That is to resort to the methods, though common, but defeatist. And well, if these ghosts will remain disembodied, although the chances of it was a bit even more harshly related to marital infidelities societies.
Because this is human nature: being literally obsessed with sex, we hardly find in him the sense, if not add the proper amount of sacred meaning, significance and hidden fear. And if we don't feel (at least a fraction of a second) that the smile this beauty kingdoms will fall, and from our loving Union were born the gods, then sex will be... No, as a man, I naturally believe that even bad sex is good, but to sing a very large and very loud birds, even we need something more than "well, baby, now turn around." What can we say about women.
So the Golden mean between cynicism and romanticism lies in the area in which NOT ALL things are read aloud, in which the views speak louder than words, our bodies ourselves resolutely and admiration gives way to desire. Don't wait for me to describe this mysterious region more and more understandable: many before me tried to do it, since the time of king Solomon and ending with the group The Beatles, but a perfect description of the kind so no one yet has made.
Source:
Elle
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