The times are not chosen, they live and die. But in this case the question is not in time and in human nature and the laws of the universe. As we often hear from men: "Women are materialistic," and the response from women: "Men are greedy". What is better: to be selfish or greedy? Who is right? In matters nothing ever happened "just because", as in life itself. There are quite objective reasons for our prudence. Men should pay, and also there are several significant reasons.The power of intuition
Long been proven that women are much more sensitive than men, and in relationships she always feels where they should be. The woman is the "neck" not because it is "more important", but because more sensitive to a decision it is enough for 7 minutes, and the man - from 3 hours to several weeks. Attention men facing outward. But her attention is focused within a pair and actually elect. It is easy to check, for example, when a couple is in the restaurant, the man looking at all around, draws attention to the people at the next table, talking with the waiter, while the woman is entirely focused on partner and removes her eyes from him only for the sake of flirting with him, not because he is interested in the environment, and, if she tells you that saw new shoes or has run out of money on the phone, the reason is not that it is, in modern language, "breeds" of the gentleman, "pressing" through his shoes, and that she wants to get these shoes from him! This is just an excuse for the necessary investments
Investing in relationships
In relationships, as in any project, from both partners should regularly and intensively to do the investment, the lower the intensity, the slower the development.
The woman puts in relationship emotions, subconsciously knowing when to answer the phone and when not to respond when you say a kind word, and when to inflate sponge. She does this not because capricious and changeable nature, and because he feels that at the moment this man wants to experience this emotion. As is often the case that a man specially provokes a woman to anger or jealousy, and then happily revels obtained by the reaction of. Lady nourishes partner's emotions, whether positive or negative. And it's not because a man infamous provocateur, but because inside every person has the need to influence the environment and other people. Seeing the results of their influence, we feel that manage the life that our desire something means that we are not obedient puppets in the hands of fate or other people. When you do this consciously feel it a maximum of 8 - 10% of people, the rest do not understand the motive for his behavior: "Why I provoked her to the scandal said that she does not like to hear? " - or Vice versa: "Why I fell in love, because I do not like her? "
It also happens that when a man upsetting the woman, trying to make amends, he brings a bouquet of flowers or expensive gift. If her emotional field resentment and gift equivalent, on her face immediately you will get a smile and she quickly forgives. Because what happens substitution emotions. But, for example, if a man hurt a woman on 10 points, and gave her a gift, that is, the replacement emotion, 7 points, part of resentment will remain inside her, like a straw in the Cup that overflows. This is not because the female leads mathematical calculations in your head, as you know, logic doesn't control emotions, she just can justify their. Just spent emotions should be refunded, otherwise the relationship is a one-sided game, when one invests, and the other is not, or they put unevenly. Thus, the stock of female emotion to this man ends sooner or later, and in relationships comes either abrupt or gradual cooling. If a man does not receive the emotions of a woman, he goes to the one from which he received, and she will be left alone to lick his wounds and accumulate new emotions that next time (which happens often due to inertia) as illiterate them free of charge to give to another man, who also will squeeze it like a lemon and leave to another.
If a man need in influencing the external world implements by calling and getting women the right emotions, the woman this need implements embodying their desires through a man. If a woman begins to fulfill his desires, even congratulating itself on holidays, and the man becomes vysokopoligonalnymi, after some time their personal life will cease to exist as such, and dealing with the opposite sex will turn into a friendship or "rare perepechi for health". That, of course, health will not add, but sharply lowers a woman's femininity, and male virility.
Energy balance
From the ancient knowledge of the East, Taoist and Indian practices we know that a woman receives energy from space, the subtle world, the energy field (can be called anything, its essence does not change). And the man gets energy from women. No wonder even in Russia so checked brides: if after copulation with a woman you've planted a seed, and by the fall of a good harvest, so the woman for you.
Female - fertile land, dropping the seed which a man receives the harvest, our ancestors - as grain, our compatriots as financial profit. Every woman is fertile land, and if it is compatible with a man, her energy he builds his Newspapers, factories, steamships. If new novel male business begins to crumble, and profits decrease, it means there is a mismatch in this pair. But man must always understand that if a meeting with a woman, he has improved things, it means he'll get 10 times more than he gave her.
Man gets energy women during sex, giving her physical energy. So often after copulation he physically squeezed out, drowsy or very relaxed, and the woman may be very active.
Woman - "fertile land" not only in bed but also in communication, telling her about his plans, ideas and desires, male plants them in her like a seed that will sprout again, if the partners are compatible. Hetaera were specially trained to be "fertile ground" for many men, the modern woman, alas, is not always suitable for everyone. But when she find "your" man, harvest can not be avoided even with the economic crisis. But if his case went to the mountain, and he was not bothering to take care of her needs, and she is silent about their financial desires, her energy can quickly be exhausted, which is detrimental to her emotional state and his business.
Every adult man knows that, in order for the business took off and life will become bright colors, you need to fall in love, or at least to have many different partners, which can be "recharged". Every woman knows that when new novel she pohorosheet and lose weight, as the man opens it he needs energy potential that transforms it, because through it begins to flow energy of the subtle worlds, but the woman gives it and thus lose weight. If a man will cease to pay for the received energy, the female body includes a protective reaction and begins to gain weight, but a woman can dramatically pournami, and her spoiled nature. In her subtle and physical bodies included protection system, a sensor which indicates that the energy balance goes to zero or even negative. That may also result in a breakup.
Money excite
All that is important to us, is sexual. Human values are derived from the survival of the individual as a person and the individual as part of society. And everything to do with the survival instinct, is part of the "basic" instinct. The person who decides for us a vital task, becomes a Savior, calling us the best feeling. But nowadays almost all problems can be solved with money, even emotional and psychological problems can be solved by paying good psychologists. Money has become almost universal key decision tasks of life, and, of course, the carrier of this key generously shares them on for one simple reason - it helps to survive.
Bring money and freedom, and independence, and respect, and a variety of opportunities, and power. They also have energy potential, which can increase a woman that takes them through the same cycle of energy.
Intangible payment
Of course, not everyone in the world kept the money, but this does not negate the fact that a man should not invest in the relationship. If there is no money, he should invest in a relationship, first, responsibility and care. Man must create her atmosphere protection: calls attention to signs, help in her case, etc.
It is important not to cross the line, which passed the Americans and the Europeans, resulting in a nation universal soldier - polourensis-polyarchy and separate army sexual minorities. So it is always better to pay, because free of charge turns out to be more expensive.
Expert opinion
Andrei Gusev, candidate of psychological Sciences
Should be glad that finally through turbulent flow feminist talk about "equality" erupted sober and, most importantly, honest voice, the voice of the simple principles of life-oriented "traditional" family values women.
As a result, however, turned out wonderful in its immediacy surge of nostalgia for the "Oeconomicus". But first step is the hardest! Suddenly, gradually, along with talk of a return to "traditional" values, there will be a new women's movement, acting under the slogan "Bring us family in slavery! " or something in this spirit.
Let's start with the premise that investments are well compensated wasted on a man's emotions. This philosophy at first confessed practical all future victims of domestic violence, and how it fits into two phrases: "Beats, it means love" and "But he then apologizes! (hereinafter usually follows a long list of purchased as compensation of things). Moreover, in some cases the lady herself unconsciously or not provoke the beating, hoping for at least a full update of your wardrobe. The only bad thing is sometimes like lovers "investment" kill.
Lightweight version of such a relationship is perfectly illustrated one of my client on the example of the relationship of his mother with her second husband: "He, in fact, very greedy, and the mother thought to divorce him, but then he bought a jeep, and everything was perfect." As the saying goes: "it's all love! ".
Against this background, not totally justified seems to disengage source of female emotion from the gross physiology and transfer it to the "subtle plans", which strangely is fueled by financial investments. Of course, few would argue with the fact that women's needs, whims and "subtle plans" keeps the whole world progress in the sphere of material production. And distraught strict guidance men are still willing to move mountains for beautiful ladies, as usual, "the fool who fell for the stupid things his own way". Later, however, comes the moment of enlightenment, and as a result, appears the famous Pushkin archetypal image of the old woman with nothing - a warning to all lovers of endless material stimulation missing feelings.
By the way, so organized "incentive system" has at least two logical consequence (in advance please forgive me for the used hereinafter the "Zoological" terminology, especially those readers who do not like to own species). Now, to begin with pay attention to the following fact - a woman choosing a man, according to his youth and inexperience of their sees it as almost exclusively an "attractive male", but after a short time, namely, immediately after the appearance of the offspring she abruptly starts to love it almost exclusively "hunter hunter". However, most men, as a rule, not enough time to rebuild and continue to see in the beloved almost exclusively "attractive female".
After some time, the man, despite all his "emotional underdevelopment", in the end begins to understand that it has exclusively as a means to increase the energy potential". And that he is not as such interested in the winner of the "subtle plans and bring them home "mining". He foolishly and bioenergy narrow-mindedness makes one very disappointing to conclusion that at any moment it can change to a more successful hunter. And then, deep in the heart of men settled the fear with which he begins to fight, using the same logic "energy investment program".
This may be another factor. The fact that in modern society itself is the beauty of a woman is equal to capital. So the woman at first itself is quite a good investment. But then start to happen naturally, but very unpleasant biological processes of ageing, i.e. the "low battery". One friend nonpoor people talked like that he can't live with a woman over the age of thirty he was beside her feel old. And because he consistently married young.
As for the unenviable fate worn abandoned wives, then this is the harsh truth of any energy exchange is used batteries after a certain number of times it is still thrown. So the slogan: "Lord! Marry only for the young beauties and you'll be happy to watch as they age and fade! "it's the logic of such bioenergy "paradigm".
By the way, the article missed one "source of energy" - the social status of men. Oh, believe me, there is no better aphrodisiac than the status of the General, professors or wife of the Emperor. However, as with any financial stimulus, its action is very short.
And here comes another unpleasant consequence, directly associated with the cute European heart illusion that "in the East everything is different". Indeed, the "East - a delicate matter, and in many cases guided by wiser principles than European civilization. But here's the question: are our "energetic ladies" these principles to adopt in all their pristine glory? Because apart from the European version of the "kaleidoscope wives have to agree with harems. Recall that in connection with polygamy in Eastern practices have emerged theory about the necessity of careful treatment of the male seed, which you so generously share with their partners Slavic men. So Eastern men "investment Fund" has a very specific physiological and anatomical reference.
In the end, we gradually approach the resolution of another long-standing cultural mysteries - why are so enduring prostitution. Indeed, far easier and more honest "invest" in different representatives of the opposite sex is rigidly fixed "tariff rate" than to live next to one and the same person, applying at least half of your property. Sorry for the banal - but it's just cheaper. By the way, in many civilized countries, one of the factors that significantly reduce the desire to legitimize the relationship is that the man in the case of divorce "pluck as sticky". For that and came up with all kinds of marriage contracts, in order to somehow protect savings.
And another one, the "artistic" side of the investment approach to the relationship.
Finally became clear why all classic love couples throughout the history of mankind tragically die at the stage of a romantic relationship. Because then the love starts to be measured meat or money. The authors are men vaguely understood this, and therefore dealt with in love long before, as the tension in the pair will be determined by the size of her husband's salary. No wonder that men invented such meaningless terms as courtly love (the same "contactless" passion of medieval knights to the wife of the Seigneur, the same - "beautiful lady", podvigina them on pointless heroism), erected in the heroine ograbivshij his life wives of the Decembrists, and ponastavi a bunch of brand from the point of view of the "investment law" unexplained female characters, starting with Juliet and ending Margarita, which bioenergy of narrow-mindedness of his rescued my poor Master from the clutches of Woland.
Unfortunately, the times when women were forbidden to divorce and used them as a "common household Pets", is almost over. Now another problem! As women gain economic, social and political independence in all growth there was a question about why he, a man, strictly speaking, necessary. A host of successful businesswomen moths alone. And with man it is impossible to live - it "does not match", and without him sucks - studies show that loneliness women carry much worse than men. And then there's the biological clock running out... Here in search of the "dad from a test tube, and then grown in the same "in vitro" conditions potential clients of psychotherapists.
I want to ask: "Girls, don't want to grow up? Maybe it's time to rethink your relationship with the opposite sex? Maybe it's time to say goodbye to infantile idea of meeting with "rich Prinzen", which is sure to make you their "investment" in their own powerless appendage, and finally to go back to basics and start to love a man the male, not the breadwinner?
Expert opinion
Ilya Sabshin, psychologist-consultant
Two friends talking in the café:
- Yul, you are, he told me to go to a New year in Thailand! Why in Egypt called!
"Yes and don't say, they all suck. And tells me he will give me a car "Toyota Corolla". Well, what is? I'm going to send it away: again no money, let him seek someone simpler.
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From the questionnaires on the website online Dating: "Terrified of the thought of that and to me this can be the canoe and with backpacks on the month in Karelia, the invitation for a date in a restaurant chain and a bouquet as a gift from one of the roses. One flower and "Il Patio" - it's good when you're a student, and when a man forty years old, it looks... how pity... I want a lot from life and want to be loved, wanted more... and money is freedom".
On the advertising poster factory jewelry beautiful woman says: "Love? Give! "
Psychology of consumption penetrated with us everywhere, she even climbed and flourished in the field of close relationships. Many young women figure out what was happening, he concluded that a man should pay! And the more money it can get, the better.
Such a functional point of view on men would not be worth discussing, if not attempts to prove its correctness. And if the reasoning is "normal" materialistic women simple to naivety, explaining the more advanced ladies seem more convincing. But only seem to be. Actually women, who have the relevant knowledge, just use a wider range for the proof of correctness, legitimacy and validity of its female desires to adjust them to the level of objective necessity and patterns.
The phrase that "a woman always neck", "her enough 7 minutes for a decision" is an incorrect generalization that go past the main human individuality and personal features of the individual women and individual men. "The woman is not capricious, and subconsciously feels that a man wants to feel this emotion. Apparently, if her intuition was wrong, then so much the worse for men.
A woman wants to get shoes from men, "because their relationship will now be useful such attachment on his part". You are not funny?
"From the ancient knowledge of the East it is known that a woman receives energy from the cosmos, and man - woman". Before us a link to a special authoritative source (analogues: "studies show", "experts"). The author of these lines for more than 15 years practicing Eastern energy practices and can attest that the quoted statement is completely false. But someone apparently wanted to make it exactly as written, but because: "If the facts don't fit the theory, so much the worse for the facts".
The fact that in our time, money solves everything - disaster of our time, and diagnosis. Most importantly, in the consumer relationship of woman to man is not love, because love is sincere selfless desire the good of another person. I will say, does not happen? Unfortunately, Yes - today it is easier to meet "Maybach" near "the chocolate-girl" than sincere unselfish love. But how brilliant it was said: "Everyone chooses for themselves: a woman, a religion, a way". Will try not to make a wrong choice, because a mistake will cost you dearly...
Author:
A. Andrianova
Source:
Our Psychology
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