The behavior of your young man recently changed, and not for the better? Your phone is silent.
More recently, your boyfriend called you several times per week or even several times a day, and now calls come less and less. He justifies that busy at work or on the parent giving
What is hidden behind this:
The initial release of endorphins and other hormones gone, and now he fears life, routine, and that relationship goes too far. But to throw you, he is not yet ready. So from time to time he calls to make sure that you're still waiting by the phone.
What to do: Become less available and very busy. Once he realizes that you are not going to encroach on his personal time, he will feel with you more freely. There is a good chance that your independence will spur him to a new level of relations.
Wrong tactics: Constantly call him and ask where he has gone. The consequences of this are usually changed his phone number or block of yours.
Your sheets in perfect order.
He rarely engaged in sex with you. Of course, over time, the frequency of sex decreases most couples, especially those living together for quite a long time. But if sex has been reduced to almost zero, the probability that he is having an affair on the side, is higher than ever.
What is hidden behind this:
A possible reason for such a decline are health problems, trouble at work or serious domestic problems. But it could be worse - he was tired of monotonous sex with you.
What to do: Wait some time, to exclude temporary problems, not having nothing to do with you. Then cook him a surprise: a new sex game, erotic massage or unexpected sexual position. If nothing helps, it is better not to waste time and just remain friends".
Wrong tactics: With his hands on his hips, asking, "forehead", what's the matter. Men are nervous creatures, and when it comes to sex, such questions for a long time knock them out of the rut. It is possible that after such a question, he will run away forever.
He reluctantly makes plans for the future.
Or in his plans there is no place for you. And it is not necessary that the plans for a life together. With the same reluctance he can make plans for next Sunday - and then God forbid to buy two tickets to the theatre without his knowledge.
What is hidden behind this: For him to plan in advance any event, is to open oneself of responsibility and admit that you really exist a certain relationship. And he is afraid.
What to do: Again, better to be unavailable for some time. Plan together with him for a few events but for which it is not. If a guy really cares about you, he will understand the allusion.
Wrong tactics: To beg, to establish firm rules or reject events, suffering alone. And it is better to abandon plans for a long life together. It is only from your mouth you will hear the fateful phrase: "Honey, what do you think, how many children to have? "how cute was already gone.
He speaks about the fact that he needs more "freedom".
And you, one thing is clear: he spends with you less time.
What is hidden behind this: Sometimes such "freedom" is just a synonym for the word "farewell! ". But sometimes a man, really, just need more personal space. These guys get, the less I see, the more I like, and with the gradual development of deeper relationships they abandon their precious freedom.
What to do: Give him the same freedom. Let go of the leash as much as you can afford without compromising yourself. Sometimes unobtrusively remind him of his existence. But if a guy is more "captain", than you can bear, let him go forever.
Wrong tactics: Don't give him any freedom. And then he'll go in the "free floating" and could "sail away" just for a little bit.
You're beginning to irritate him.
You suddenly do everything "wrong". Even the fact that he liked. From the past leniency is not gone.
What is hidden behind this:
It from you just tired. Often the guy deliberately begins to show aggression to the parting was not so painful for girls.
What to do: If you're confident in yourself, don't take criticism on your account. As the saying goes, "like water on a duck". Although his behavior is, unfortunately, likely means the imminent disconnection. Well, you why the need for such relationships? Forgive and let go.
Wrong tactics: To cry, to apologize for his behavior and try to fix that in principle fix is not necessary.
You just feel it.
Sixth sense tells you that between you that something is wrong.
What is hidden behind this: Perhaps it's just paranoia and your self-doubt. And perhaps your relationship has some kind of problem. Not worth it just to dump the intuition from the accounts.
What to do:
Try to talk to him openly and find out that its not happy in your relationship. And then try to fix the problem. Only the backwaters conversation very carefully - men can not stand such conversations. So be friendly and give him to understand that even though you and I really want to be with him and will do, but will not hold him, if he is uncomfortable with you. Well, if you're uncomfortable with it, it is necessary first to understand itself and to try to understand, do you need to be with this person.
Wrong tactics:
Apply a "preemptive strike" and to throw the first guy without any reason. If it later turns out that it was still just "paranoia", restore the old relationship will be very difficult, if not impossible.
Source:
Encyclopedia of women's life
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