Why are we always late?

Psychologists say that the relationship we formed not when we give birth to a child and desperately trying to juggle career, family, friends, and fitness as very early - somewhere between the ages of three to six years (it is believed that it was during this period that the foundations of personality and our fundamental understanding of life). Understand what motivates us, can, in theory, to change our relationship with time. The more that time does not exist - it is, in contrast to the rain and taxi, Convention, invented by people.


Question # 1: do I Want to go there?




Sometimes even with very responsible people sometimes impossible - they don't have time to be at the right time in the right place. But they have a convincing alibi - tube, protracted negotiations, sick child or something. And there are times when force majeure becomes the system: the genius of punctuality starts chronically late for work or appointments with a particular person. Not consciously - but something always happens, grabs her legs, lies at the threshold, does not go. Mysticism? Maybe, but most likely, you just don't want to go on this work or to see a specific person. Unconscious sabotaging the process, and we begin to do everything twice slower, obviously incorrectly estimated time taken for the extra things that go wrong road, etc.




Question # 2: what was I thinking?




Many are in a hurry, not to think about what they can't control. Personal life, the tricks of the relatives are all very important and absolutely spontaneous, unpredictable. So girls switches to a lot of simple things that can be done completely independently. So what if half of them had nothing to do? But they give results that suggest that it is you are in control of life, not it - you. But it is always possible to check myself, asking "If I hadn't thought about work and about how the end of the day to catch another three meetings than would have been occupied my thoughts? " They would have been occupied endless internal dialogue with her boyfriend, who also runs a lot and because little talking? Well, talk to him - first to himself, and then, work out, awake. It is long and does not give instant result but is clearly more important than on the way from work to go to the store on the other side of town and buy this toothbrush, which never sold.





Question No. 3: How will apologize?


There are people who are late, because I want to be the center of attention. Unconscious goal of their actions is not only to draw attention to themselves, but also receive psychological "stroking" in the form of forgiveness. The reason for this childish manipulation - heartache, which sits somewhere deep inside. The story is sad, but it does not prevent you rage on manners of these people. Don't worry, you can re - cease to be their mom and dad, let's behave like adults. You beg for forgiveness and cherished "it's no big deal! "? Not sorry - angrily explain how hard you had to wait, as you are because of them everywhere late. Exchange with the manipulator places - let it once in your life you feel that another person can also be frustrating.





Question # 4: how Much time?


Early in the morning in the courtyards of apartment buildings you will often see the stage. Mom drags kid in the garden and saying, "hurry up, what are you trudge like a turtle! " She doesn't know that educates man, who all his life will be late.




Small children have a very vague idea about what time. They also don't really understand how it is arranged adult life, why the mother should now rush to work, however, and the "work" for them a completely abstract concept. The mother explains that her fire, earthquake and people are waiting, so hurry. He didn't understand why, but remembers: "Rush is right. The way to live." As an adult, he organizes his life so that you and I had all the time somewhere in a hurry. Appoints three meetings in different parts of the city for the next two hours, and on a difficult day plans in addition to the dentist and drinking with classmates. He hurries struggling. But nowhere no time.





Question No. 5: How many points on the Richter scale?


Being late can be different. It is one thing to come fifteen minutes later, the other to be late for the plane. You are probably familiar with the one who is late on a Grand scale: man-disaster lives on the edge between "pan" and "lost." Time for it - another reason to tempt fate (and the nerves of their friends and colleagues) for strength. Such people psychologists call "frontier" is a good name, just explains their life on the knife edge, on the border of what is permitted, on the edge of a precipice.





Legal and fines for being late to work?


To re-educate them - it is meaningless, because most often they deny the existence of any problem. According to them, with them all in order, and the delay that threatens to disrupt a scheduled within six months of the event, is a trifle, it happens. Unconsciously these people tend to get into a difficult situation, because only they feel comfortable in it. In extreme circumstances they feel, "I", which in a calm situation does not see the need to stick out.




The universal response is: At your disposal eternity!




Time everywhere he who does not hurry anywhere. Can still remember the advice of the writer Andrei Sinyavsky: "Well, when late, a little slow step". Time is really not in the sense that without us it doesn't exist. But we exist here and now, with all of our desires that we seek to realize. Some desires are more important to us than all the rest - as a rule, we deep down know what it is. If you agree with them and focus on them, tactfully ignoring the other, we will have much more free time. And for girls, as you know, is not a problem to think, what to spend - even time, even money.

Source:

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