What to do if you use it?

No one will argue that man is a social being. And no matter how we tried to show his independence, is almost impossible for the team to exist in isolation. The role of the environment in every person's life plays a huge role. Remarkably, when this influence is the plus sign, it is harder when it prevents to achieve Your goals. There is only one way out - any way to neutralize or completely to protect yourself from it.



Friendship is it?


Of course, the easiest way to do what You make, it is trite to refuse. Eradicate the habit of all to please. Refusing, do not forget to clearly state the reason for refusal. And let will suffer from this "friendship", that is those relationships that linked you.




Those who achieve great success at the expense of the labor of others, for years to hone their skills, so to defeat them in open battle is almost unreal. They have the talent gray cardinal, and therefore the majority of colleagues literally drop them into his mouth, catching every word that's spoken. They skillfully play on others ' weaknesses, skillfully manipulated other people's feelings and can find the "approach" to virtually every employee. They are always surrounded by "friends" that create public opinion, completely in tune with the opinion of more experienced colleagues. This environment creates the impression girlfriends-homotoxic that at the snap of your finger ready to become a pack of angry dogs can samasati You to death.





The principle of gradualism


If You will begin to decline immediately, but gradually, alternating run minor errands with failures, then Your attempts to get away from the influence will not be as noticeable. When comes the turn of the failure, explain to what exactly is now the head caused You to perform urgent work. This works great, especially when You constantly complain about employment and the inability to relax. Works well flattery, not even covered. The praise leader, praising his skills quickly and efficiently to cope with the huge amount of work will soften Your refusal and will blunt vigilance. Praise the business acumen and the ability to organize your time, don't forget about the professionalism and knowledge of all the intricacies of this work.





Move the conversation to another topic


If You find a reason for rejection, try to do it gently and tactfully, emphasizing that You would have done it a small Commission, if they were not so busy. Saying its justification, as soon as possible try to turn the conversation to another topic, which is prepared in advance or improveservice, based on the context of the previous conversation.





Try to find alternatives


This can be some idea that suddenly appeared in Your head. Try to present it in such a way that it is, at least at first glance seemed noteworthy. It is advisable that You always have in stock a couple of ideas. If the "jump" can't, then ask for ourselves assistant consultant, and from there it only depends on You how You will be able to pass on to his shoulders larger piece of work.





Show your inability


If You succeed once well to play his complete incompetence and inability to cope with the tasks, You hardly again will charge. You must use all of his strength, apply maximum effort and perseverance, always consult and check, identify all the zeal You can, and let the job be completed. Encourage all his acting skills to show how You are feeling sad and upset. Macrosites without measure. Blame yourself and only yourself, telling all and Sundry that You are unable to do anything. Next time You are unlikely to be forced to do someone else's work.




Showing ingenuity and resourcefulness, you can find a large number of ways not to do something You don't want to do. Only do not try to open protests, open conflict in this case will not help.

Author:

A. Romanova


Source:

owoman.ru

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