A lot of our time is typically poor, repeatedly destroyed families. A rare exception is now the ability to keep the family boat afloat at least a few years.
"If everything is equal, then, by and large, no one is not necessary. Hierarchy are available in every beautiful things, such as music"
Whatever people's worldview, whether religious "new acevska or atheistic, allowing multiple experiments on themselves and "partners," it's all the same for each of the tragedy, which inevitably are involved and the children, whose fault is that they are "made" not in time, not with that and not there, and even change your mind "make" making abortion.
In the end, suffering, crippled people, feeling the pain in hitherto unknown to him the body - soul seeking solace and healing in the Church, often coming back for the first time. And we, the priests, have to listen and try to help, based on the experience of two thousand years of Christian tradition, these train accidents, reminiscent of refugees during the war years.
What to do and who is to blame? As if now this question no answer, I guess many of you can agree. No housing? Who will not understand! No highly paid creative work, in which a young mother could implement yourself, not being afraid to be thrown out by the employer? It is absolutely true. The young family could not afford normal "weekend"? In principle, Yes. Mother-in-law and mother-in-law divide spheres of influence? Frequent picture... But still the main causes of divorce is not outside, but inside man. They can show both psychological and spiritual point of view.
The main psychological problem newly-made husband and wife is the perception of future family life as a happy joint flight for which they, in fact, have been created. But marriage in the Christian tradition is a feat, accompanied, of course, happy and joyful moments, but which it is the reward for this feat. People who are preparing to start a family should understand that it is time to tune in patience and constant memory, first of all, about the second half of the. Before making one of the most important decisions you need to be prepared for any major life crises and mentally imagine them, then many bright prospects fade, you will not go astray. Will he love you, beautiful, if, God forbid, you will get burn 30% of body surface or wasp waist will forever leave in Italy at birth and nutrition of children? And if the child you have, God forbid, would be born with down syndrome or even to have it can't decide whether your partner to find yourself another "female"? Look closely at your heart and trust him, especially if it is clean....
Another problem is that even sincere and pure love very often dies, if he does not continue in the children, these fruits of love. She is love - collapses and dies, constrained by the framework of two, chose a fashionable crossover or summer holiday in Majorca instead of the "institution" of the child.
Naturally, though not quite comfortable, for people to have large families. We solved a lot of problems. Well, first of all, satisfied maternal and paternal instinct. Will not be a problem in the future, jealous or authoritarian mothers husband or wife, they lanancuras for his life, will be able to rise above passion possessiveness over their synonymy" and "little girls" because they have a lot of this stuff. And will not be the situation when the man at the Mature age of forty-suddenly finds young-beautiful, willing him to give birth. I do not want to justify anyone, but obviously not the only reason his libido, and sometimes unsatisfied paternal instinct.
Secondly, children from large families are the most socially-adapted members of society, and they are unlikely to grow selfish, and therefore, will not shrug: "We did the best school-University-bike, and he at us "Matryona's home".
Third, let's be pragmatically our generation pension will not be getting. Now, let's say, two pensioners ten working, and when we get old - everything will be different, so that our children, if they are many, perhaps, will not lead to "a clockwork orange", and we will die with his death in his own bed, and not on euthanasia in the nursing home...
Many sums misunderstanding of the obvious things that every home should have one owner, and one owner. Better life without excess, and even starving than economically beneficial stay at "mom and dad". Ideally, the parents of the husband and wife should not know about family quarrels and troubles, and joyful events of the original must also be divided only in two.
Another point: in the family, if we want to see her strong and happy, there should be a hierarchy. It is one of the main conditions of love, and in General harmony. If all are equal, then, by and large, no one and don't need. Hierarchy are available in every beautiful things, such as music, where every beautiful chord consists of the notes that has its place, t. e. built in strict hierarchical order. If the husband is not the head of the family, it is a perversion, which quickly bored woman, previously dreamed of "obedient". It is difficult to raise the "sofa-beer animal", to rise from this bed, if not to give him a taste of leadership, responsibility, and women's approval. It should be noted that the primacy in the Orthodox tradition is primarily responsible. The head is not the one who commands and one who, like Christ, is able to wash his disciples ' feet. What a primitive book "Domostroy", but even there it sounds this thought: "In every house there is only one servant - master of himself".
From the spiritual point of view cause family discord can be summarized in one statement: failure to observe the Commandments of God. There are physical laws, which operates the whole world. They can not believe it, but then it will be very painful empirical fact: out of a third floor window, will have to see, well, if not for the last time, how important it was to trust in the physics textbook. Not opposing the laws of physics, people will save their bodily health. And there are laws of mental health and well-being - the Commandments given by God to the people so that they did not destroy themselves and the lives of their loved ones.
Alas, every perversion and rebellion against the Creator is often one final "to put the bullet in the end...", before destroying many lives and family. The sin of fornication, for example, corrupts the soul, as the rust of iron, destroying not yet had time to create family and destroying normal relations between the sexes in their base. Adhering to the "free relationship", the man eventually frankly dull and done evil, not able to control yourself by Isterika. The gap between the sexes is magnified - men and women completely cease to understand each other, seeing before him is not an interesting person, and a doll, and some women like this role play, and they for a long time, until a tragedy happens, try to imitate the beautiful thing or stupid decorative animal. (It's amazing how a girl should not respect themselves, to both summer and winter to visit public places in the "nightie"). Another direct consequence of the exaggerated value libido is the first of its perversion, and then complete absence. All this negative experience we illustrate t. n. stars of show business, who wondered if possessed by the mind, domestic cats and dogs, living and breeding in the basement.
Today young people and not only people, often more than once made in my life serious mistakes, more and more understand that the best, safest and happy path is the path in which the guidelines are religious imperatives. That is why the holiday of family, love and faithfulness, having religious understanding in the context of sacrificial and chaste love of saints Peter and Fevronia, quickly becoming popular among our countrymen who wish to create strong and happy family.
An increasing number of young boys and girls want to be "informal", not focusing on the examples of "TV as itself is pure, and going long and difficult, but bringing imperishable joy path trodden by our grandparents. Again become frequent examples, when a young couple, nourished by Holy sacraments of the Church, like pious Peter and Fevronia, keeps himself in chastity and purity and not engaging in premarital relationships, creates a family that has a real chance to preserve the freshness of feeling and generosity even in old age.
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