He is kind, smart, cute, you've been together. He knows what flowers you love, do you remember how many lumps of sugar to put him in the coffee. People think that you are the perfect couple. But you feel that the relationship is something left. Avoiding his touch, dodging arms. His jokes don't seem funny. And you mentally begin to convince himself: "He is good. He is a good. He loves me. All good, but every day relationship is getting colder and you're the unhappiest of all.How to understand whether or not the relationship itself was exhausted and it was time to leave, or it's just a one, three and other years of marriage?
In the West there is such a good habit - to the family psychologist, if something has broken in the relationship. The psychologist does not give advice, solves nothing for you, but it creates an environment in which you take the right decision for yourself. Unfortunately, we no longer popular "kitchen introspection" and "men's talk".
If you are in doubt - go or to stay, to go back, forward or to stand still - just go to a psychologist.
Universal recommendations it's hard to give each story is unique, each pair special. But, of course, there is a General trend for most relationships.
In particular this applies to those couples who live together. To want to marry and be married - not one and the same. As long as you meet, you spend together only pleasant hours - have fun, go to parties, Dating, give each other gifts. When you start to live together, appear household complexity, the total budget and the total time, which was lacking in the relationship before and so abundantly now.
When a crisis in the relationship, it may mean that you simply were not prepared for the fact that your partner throws tropici socks around the apartment, Smoking in bed, and flowers gives only on holidays - after all, when you met, it was different.
And then options. You turn around and leave, or begin to understand, to speak, to explain that the place for socks - basket, and if you cry, then you want to now he came up and hugged you. You learn to be together and appreciate each other.
It so happens that people live together for 5 years and then "chemistry" disappears, leaving a feeling of novelty, and it just becomes boring. Really, sometimes with the extinction of the original passion, it becomes clear that you are total strangers, each of which have to be going his way. But often after layer of resentment and a wall of indifference, the couple may be very many warm and sincere feelings, but to get to them, only saying all problems. And here, of course, a direct path to family problems.
If you do decide to leave, get away better. No need to cut the tail piece by piece, so will only hurt more. Do it right, and your partner will thank you for it. Do not torture him, forcing him to throw you first. Imagine doing with you. Never throw by SMS or phone - it is very painful. Find the strength to talk in person, explain why you quit, it will help him in the future to build relationships with others. Let's support him, he needs it.
If in doubt, talk to him openly, explain that you feel, tell me honestly, what confused that I don't know what to do next. Give him a chance to speak. Maybe he will say something that will affect your decision. In any case, in these two relations, and the decision should be taken together.
5 resuscitation Council relations
Spend with each other more time: have sex, enjoy, share tips and experiences, thoughts and opinions not only about the dinner or repair of machines;
Do what has never been done before - go together on a pottery course or in the gym, Hiking or to a football match. Common hobby and change impressions will help to look at the partner on the other hand.
Invent your chips and wordsincomprehensible to others, create your own legend, clear film on your love - memories of how it all began, awaken your senses.
Make a holiday out of nowhere: mark the date, first kiss, first date, birthday, cat.
Do not hang to detailnot zamalkawy serious offence, talk about their feelings - every problem we need to speak. This is a cool refreshing relationship.
In any case, crises are inevitable, and the sooner you realize this, the easier it will be to overcome them. Almost any relationship can be saved into a Cup of glue, one river to enter twice. Under one condition - if you both want it.
Source:
Encyclopedia of women's life
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