According to statistics from reliable source, about 70 percent of women exposed to domestic violence in one form or another. Assault is a significant part. 40 percent of victims never speak. And what if you have nowhere to turn except to the operator of the hotline. The woman who was beaten by her husband, will not help any one operator. In a situation where the female body was used as a punching bag, a complex approach is needed. This approach should include psychological rehabilitation, medical and legal assistance.
Don't really like to give the example of the US experience, but in this matter we would be able to learn from them. In this country there are urban centers social assistance for women victims of domestic violence. Before trial, the woman can find temporary shelter for themselves and their child. There she will render first aid. Consult a psychologist at the centre. Will give the necessary things. The beating will give publicity. American woman are not alone with their problems. What in such cases, to do our citizen?
First, as requested to recognize the savage? The following classification based on long-term observations. To resist the enemy, we must know him in the face. Highlight two main types according to the degree of danger.
The first type is the knacker. Especially dangerous! Very well camouflaged. It will never say that this man can raise his hand on a woman. You are the perfect couple for others. Right Ken and Barbie, as told a neighbor about my girlfriend. He is the soul of the company, a leader in life. Your girlfriend stand still when he comes into the room. Does not drink, does not smoke, perhaps not walking. Dressed immaculately: he's got good taste. Methods of violence - sophisticated, with imagination and with meaning. Beats sound mind and sober memory. He always has a reason for it. The scheme is as follows: careless word (from your side) - the flash of fury (with him) - beating - the word forgiveness means deserved (in the morning when you're trying to find the cause).
The second type is less dangerous loser. Here everything is simple and difficult at the same time. Just because these men have not achieved what they wanted. Their contributions are not recognized in the society. Their education, and if there is, leaves much to be desired. Drinking, Smoking, povelivaet (the only way to assert). The difficulty lies in the fact that their appearance is not defined.
And if you could not avoid the battering - what to do? If you have nothing to lose, do not hesitate, get your things before it's too late. Can with full confidence say with a werewolf to fight useless. And if there is a huge loss? Then how to behave? Here are some tips. Perhaps they really help in a particular situation, and possibly save.
The Council first. Don't Wake him as a beast!, that is, never to argue with him; to surpass his achievements; to be strong; be smart; to reproach him; to have your own opinion; to share secrets from the past; to forbid him to return home late; to be jealous of him.
You can cite many more situations, but an essence not in it. If you can tolerate all of the above and try to save the family will become neurotic, always sick and miserable. Theoretically you can tolerate, if you inanimate object or masochiste (you can even become such). But if you heart beats, and you are responsible for the child, listen to the next advice.
The second Council. For the sake of themselves, their friends and relatives change your life. Resstance with the past. You only need to be solved, and time will heal all. Put on the scales of love and danger. Choose. Just remember - no one has the right to cause you physical and mental sufferings.
You decided to fight. Congratulations. Here are your steps:
1. Fix the marks of beatings by a doctor (you can call an ambulance, police) for presentation in court.
2. Gather the necessary things.
3. Send the child to rest to the parents.
4. In advance think about housing.
5. Enlist someone's support.
6. All negotiations with her husband lead in the presence of people.
7. Give divorce documents.
8. Don't give up.
From the latter depends, will you be able to follow through. Remember that no man raised a hand at the woman, unable to stop. If there are exceptions, it is likely another story that proves the rule. And most importantly - start the fight immediately. Because you're young, beautiful and have the right to happiness.
Source:
Women's Magazine
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