Why can't I be Frank with him?! Why do I have to be tactful when I so much do not like?! The list of possible reasons turned out to be small. But convincing:
Fear to hurt a loved one. Suddenly he will feel bad lover? Men are such vulnerable!
Fear of rejection (called into perverted person, maniac, frigid). Men are such touchy.
Fear to spoil the moment almost cinematic passions of his prose: "why don't I have to caress the clitoris? "
Eternal and practice of women's habit to adapt to the partner.
For example, if he likes sex in the light, she will harass yourself masochistic thoughts about how it should be, looks awful, but will not dare to turn the lamp off. If he manages to have fun for three minutes, she every night will portray an orgasm, and not knowing what it is actually...
But a true lady would not show rudeness to another. She would not tolerate rough handling!
Say it politely
You want cunnilingus?
Start doing Blowjob in pose 69. He simply nothing else will, and you'll get your not asking about it.
He doesn't know what to do with your clitoris?
Better show him herself. The probability that such knowledge will be quite useful for him.
You are not satisfied with the pace and depth of pentrace?
Just be on top and control all by itself.
Don't like that it's twisting your nipples as though configures the radio?
Just pokruce him... Surely he will understand...
The Council universal.
Try to caress it as I want it caressed you. Say, this hint comes to men on an unconscious level.
Ethical conundrum
What if you clearly realize what an orgasm today will not wait (tired, not feeling well, and so on), and it continues all over you to work?
Well, simulary: to enter into explanations in this condition is quite difficult. However, if you have a long, stable relationship, it is best to honestly admit that tired and can't wind up...
If this is not your regular "excuse", the favorite will understand and forgive.
What if you were caught in the simulation?
Don't panic! The average man is unable to distinguish between a real orgasm from a fake. Except by circumstantial evidence: you're too was moaning loudly and generally behaved atypical. The best thing you can do in this situation is to hang back and stand on his own: "it was an orgasm. Just was. More powerful than usual, so I behaved atypical. Yes, I do not remember what I did! " Believe me, nowhere to go!
The issue of hygiene
At first glance, everything is simple and logical. You will not come to the office without hair and makeup? And even more without deodorant and dirty head is indecent. Even if you're there for 10 years and you are all accustomed to. Similarly, in bed a decent girl will not go with unwashed head and two bristles on the legs. Even if 10 years is in the same bed with the same man.
But that's the problem: bed etiquette is not as unconditional as office. For example, everyone knows that Josephine had stopped to wash as soon as he received news of the arrival of Napoleon. What to do if your personal Bonaparte, too, prefers concentrated odors? To make it enjoyable - not to bathe at night... But if you feel extremely uncomfortable, until you take a shower? Wash up! Not because the General rule is more important private requests, but because you have to get pleasure from sex and not feel the discomfort in bed - otherwise what's the point?
For the same reason you didn't have to go to bed with dirty man. If he came home from work dirty and tired, just suggest him to RUB your back in the bathtub. He hardly refuse. And if you refuse, then... He goes unethical! And he should be reported.
However, it is not necessary to go too far in matters of purity. No need to run to the shower immediately after sex: consciously or unconsciously, men regard this act as a sign of disgust: "I tell you otherwise, you want me to wash". This is not so? Well and do not hurt man!
Intimate haircut rather a matter of taste than a matter of hygiene. In the salon you can shave and a butterfly, and check, and flower, and everything. The only question is, what do you like more your man. Some openly anyway. And some fundamentally! And if the beloved asks you about the absolute smoothness or, on the contrary, full of naturalness, then why not go to meet him?
You also have the right to declare their own tastes and to follow the fashion. And if, say, unshaven male armpit mislead you with an erotic mood... don't talk about it during sex! And, perhaps, during dinner. Find the gap between these two events and set out your request honestly and directly. What's so bad about that you like shaved armpits? Tell your Tarzan that it excites you.
But one of my friend "divorced" his friend brilliantly! They played "the fool" to desire, and when a young man he played to the nines, she took the razor and expressed his desire. He certainly broke, but not for long. In the end, male honour and loyalty to the word he had more hair. For "feat" the girl thanked him with such a flash of passion, that he never afterwards was not sorry about that bald in certain intimate areas, and supported the smoothness of the skin already own...
Rudeness - fight!
There are times when to educate a man is useless. Easier to run:
"If you're not able to experience orgasm, he calls you frigid.
- Refuses a condom, because it is "healthy", and you "should trust him".
He forces you to do something against your wishes, threatening that otherwise will try it with the other.
He loves to dive into the memories of how he had sex with his ex, analyzing what she was doing better or worse than you.
He seduces you on the first date, but after beginning to talk about the availability of modern women.
- Caressing your Breasts, he advises to insert the implants.
In the morning he doesn't remember your name.
After it was all over, he's not getting out of bed, puts your data in your mobile.
Barely finished work, he grabs the phone and calls his wife to say he misses and how he's sick of this stupid meeting.
He believes that "a good woman should not want sex and to take the initiative".
He flatly refuses to take off socks, explaining that "this is something there" and "in General, then he could not be found"!
Welcome
You, probably in childhood revealed that cultural girl must be hospitable hostess, smiling even uninvited guests and not notice if someone spilled sauce on the tablecloth... But not eliminated, your mentors forgot to mention that the real aristocrat simply required not to smoke in their presence and can refuse from the house, if the visitor bowed courteous enough.
In bed, the same principles: you can sometimes portray joy (i.e. orgasm), in order not to offend and not to embarrass someone. But there's no need to pretend all the time if you are not satisfied with his behavior.
The advertising industry has convinced men that "real woman" gets an orgasm with anyone, anywhere, instantly. What do the poor normal women? To simulate! He was trying so hard! Not to cum with him just tactless of you. And yet... What do you with that? Thirty seconds of unforgettable happiness? And he?
Ivan, 23: "I am against simulate orgasm. It is inhumane - to trick your man, especially if we are talking about a serious relationship. I will fight over your girl, not yet understand what was happening. When investing their energies and talents to achieving the goal, victory seems doubly pleasant".
Alex, 26: "to be honest, one-time partner, I probably would have been grateful for the pretense. All these female oohs-sighs create an erotic mood, even if they are fake. But my constant girl must help me explore her body and her desires. I'm not clairvoyant".
Igor, 25: "I try, try, and what do you get? Talented imitation? I would prefer the truth".
And how to tell him the truth? Reliably triggered honest flattery: don't talk about what he's doing bad. But praise every (every! right action: "Honey, when you caress me here hand... it's just incredible! " Men are more willing to just do those tricks, they are best able. After some time he will do only what leads you to orgasm. And the rest of it away forget.
5 ethical errors
Women
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To think that to take care of the condom - only the male duty.
To apologize for something that has not experienced an orgasm, I do not want to engage in oral sex or don't like certain poses. To apologize is only if you accidentally hit an elbow into his eyes.
- To refuse to go into the bedroom, if you are not too erotic lingerie or pimple on the back.
- Leave your toothbrush in his bathroom. A man may perceive this as an attempt to capture territory.
- An honest answer to the question, how many you've had men. You must say pompously: "You are my only one! " Or: "All that to you, " don't count".
Mens
- Ask how many men you've had. I wonder what the answer would be it staged?
- Flip you on your stomach and get acquainted with anal sex without asking your consent. After this "accident" it is unlikely that you will once again allow you to turn yourself face down.
- Don't care about your pleasure and turn our back to the wall as soon as he received the discharge.
- Too much to care about your orgasm and ask about it every thirty seconds.
- Ignore your comments about their actions. Men don't like to ask for directions in the path, and therefore a wrong route more often women.
Source:
Cosmo
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