Dad is the most important person in my life baby

A father's love for a child is even more important than maternal. This is the conclusion of psychologists from the University of Connecticut after numerous studies. According to them, the dad's lack of attention causes children and adolescents deeper injury than my mother's dislike. The reason for this regularity scientists believe a higher social status of men.

Inattention parents destructive to the personality of the child - this axiom psychologists took a long time. Parents for the baby is the center of his personal universe, and remain so until around puberty. In early life they provide him food and the conditions necessary for life, and later open it to the world.

How well mom and dad take care of their child, how much time I devote to its development, the depth of their emotional contact with your baby, depends on many things: the spiritual welfare of the child, his health, intellectual development, and even future career. But still, it was assumed that at an early age is much more important than a child's relationship with his mother.

After all, she is 9 months it is in the womb, and through this contact, their relationship is quite strong already at childbirth. With the father of a newborn baby "meets" after birth. Researchers from the University of Connecticut (USA) reviewed the many works devoted to that as a person affected by a lack of parental attention or a complete rejection of the parents.

Scientists have tried to evaluate these data with position, whose dislike more traumatic for a child. Surprisingly, it was found that the lack of fatherly love child is experiencing heavier than rejection or indifference of the mother.

In total, statistics research covered a family history of more than 10 thousand people from different backgrounds and ethnicity. Moreover, the neglect of the father is equally bad experienced both boys and girls.

The reason of such attachment to fathers? As a possible justification psychologists call a higher social status of men. It is the father is considered the head of the family, its position is more high-level, prestigious, he has a great reputation is a common feature of many cultures and peoples, they argue.

The child sees the importance of the personality of the father, because the father's love becomes more desirable as a love more powerful and strong. This hypothesis, however, requires further investigation. For example, it is not clear why the appeal of the father's love is the same for those cultures where the man is really the center of the family and society, and for those where the status of women much lower than men's.

Another startling fact was revealed in the course of the research: the emotional pain resulting from lack of parental love, the brain responds the same way as on the physical. But if physical pain in our society to pay more attention, the emotional pain can be suppressed - and persist throughout life.

Previous studies show that between emotional neglect and physical violence there is virtually no difference. Experts have found that children are at nursery age resolutely ignored and their peers who have been physically abused by adults, for 4-8 years become equally aggressive and difficult to manage. Ignore the child is to inflict moral injury, which does not pass and by the time when the child becomes a teenager, remind psychologists.

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