Family woman, you first need to decide what is more important - family or work, and, judging from the response, to build a personal strategy of existence. Striving to be at the height of everything, being in the power of public opinion and ad scans, we sometimes lose the simple human happiness and not see the sun, see the smiles and feel no joy from the production of victory. Essentially, you need to find a middle ground, to the extent possible, in the morning happy to get up for work, and after work with no less pleasure to go home. But life is a difficult thing, and not always so, as we dream...
In fact, on the theme: "Women, family and work", there are three main public position:
Biologically-family position
The main vocation of women, family and children, which should bring it to the mother, not the nanny, grandmother, or a kindergarten teacher. Working woman deliberately impoverishes the family life.
Comment: Sit at home, cook borscht, erasable and educability. Well if a woman is willing to take this position, and not under pressure from relatives and spouse, then there is no conflict. And if a woman wants to succeed professionally, she has to face serious resistance, additionally disturbing challenging the existence of working the Keeper of the hearth.
Forced social position
A woman born to be a housewife, but circumstances force her to earn a living.
Comment: it's not so sad, if the mother-wife pleased by their work, distraction from everyday routine. And if a woman strongly against leaving the house, if it works only for money? Then the family always felt discontent personal share or spouse who are unable to provide for his wife and children.
Feminist-career position
A woman must become a specialist. Only then will she be respected and her husband and children and society. And financial viability women can ensure a decent standard of living.
Comment: "I Want to work and work to make a career". If the family actively supports the woman and is trying to help her, then all is fine. But if the husband resists, and children grow up without proper care and attention of the mother, family problems often lead to disasters with offspring and family breakdown.
Each family has its own scenario of existence. If the opinions on the problem in the household are the same, then the problem is almost solved. And there is no agreement how to be?
Successful career of one of the spouses is always a test of relationship strength, even if the family seems strong and friendly. If career makes a man, then it is normal and natural. But it is necessary for a woman to hold the post, just above the head of the family... it all welfare can crack at the seams. Because of this, many women tend to stay in the shade, not to make professional surges and tactfully called reduce the amount of wages, if it exceeds the income of the spouse.
What is the principle of organizing family life - only you can decide! Do not look at public opinion. Today is increasingly common for couples where not necessarily the head of the family is the man. And both are happy.
If family problems existed prior career history, very often it is the dissatisfaction with personal relationships makes people concentrate on work. As promotion gap is growing, especially when his career began to build only one of them. If both - then the wife should understand each other and don't simmer with section authorities on domestic violence. Who should bear the trash, and who will go for bread is easy to solve. The main thing is to divide responsibilities. But if, in spite of that, the relationship became unstuck, it will annoy literally everything, down to what the partner is at work.
When a spouse for whatever reasons, does not allow a woman to make a career, and it's full of ambitions, a woman can throw a family. Especially often it happens when the girl successfully begins to move up the career ladder, and then - marriage, child. But then, having reached the top, she is unlikely to feel the fullness of his triumph, not splitting it with the native people. Often, throwing the family as interference in the Affairs of, the woman regrets what happened. Comparison of ex jealous, Tirana (egoist) with other, not necessarily candidates for her hand, is not in favor of the latter. Yes and for a child, not understanding the act of the mother, she becomes someone else.
Needless career such victims? Of course, something will have to give up, but not the most expensive... the people that hinder career spouses, I want to say: "Love me, love my career! " And those who want her to do: "do Not put yourself in a dilemma of choice. Its right on the success of the work we have to learn to defend bloodless, not rushing into extremes.
Help yourself and your household!
- Family and work should be combined, not to oppose.
- Get rid of the guilt complex in front of the children and family.
- Bury the hatchet. If you are accused of something, learn to calmly accept objective criticism, and arguments to refute undeserved accusations.
Not harnessed to the work 100%. A work day is over, smile and close the door in the full sense of the word. Thinking about service problems is postponed to the morning of the next working day. Download professional difficulties his family.
Discuss with loved ones, what sacrifices they will need your career growth, but obrisovyvali and positive aspects, for example, increasing your salary.
The time remaining after work, spend together with your children and spouse. Better to sacrifice the cleanliness of the house or spend money on coming the cleaner.
- Organize the life and economy of the easiest and most convenient way. Try to shift purchasing products on the husband or domestic helpers, write lists of errands, get simple and healthy food, equally accessible to adults and children (of course, from a certain age), don't try to be the perfect hostess - better be good wife and mother.
- Make time for family in the morning before work, this is the closest and intimate contact hours, although they will require sacrifice in the form of a sweet morning sleep, Breakfast with the newspaper or watching television. Just go early and give 30 minutes to her husband and children for a quiet Breakfast.
In the evening, set aside the cooking, cleaning, washing and other activities on the farm at that time, when the children are asleep, to make time for reading books, quiet games, bedtime stories. When the kids go to sleep, turn on "2nd space velocity", and you will find that things go much faster; and besides, there is a lot to do around the house that you can do together with children, for example, to cook, to put clothes into the washing machine, dusting and so on, the main thing is you next.
- Try not to arrange a weekend break from her husband and children. The temptation to devote a Saturday and Sunday shopping and girlfriends very large, but family is more important. Also do not devote weekends entire home. Spend time relaxing in the company of family from everyday worries, more walk, talk, animates.
- Think about work at home, free graph or partial employment. To work a full day, a woman is not easy, and stress can lead to a nervous breakdown. Consider all possible options.
- Always try to spend holidays with family and children.
Remember, the main thing - to live and work happily!
Author:
Moskvina A.
Source:
GreenMama
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