All parents will sooner or later face the fact that their kid is having psychological problems. For example, when he begins to be greedy, to Snitch or just shy of other people and be alone. All of this suggests that it is time to pay more attention to his education. If this is not done and go on about the whims of the child, the conflict will be fixed, but in the future it can grow troubled teen. And at that age to deal with the correction of defects of his character may already be too late.If the child...
...Greedy-beef
1, 5-2, many parents are faced with the so-called problem of greed. If earlier the kid simply gave toys and didn't pay any attention to who they are playing, but now he can yell at his colleague in the sandbox, and roughly push him for what he grabbed his property.
What to do?
- Allow the baby to protect your toys from other children, as they attempt to pick them up from other kids is perceived by them as an attack on himself. But along with this, learn it and share them on time.
"Whatever he did, don't get angry or yell at a kid - so you will only scare him. Diplomatically ask him to share ("See how Sasha was upset, maybe I'll show him your tank? "). If this does not work, you can offer "obydennomu" child another toy instead controversial, but always asking the consent of the little holder.
- If you are "zooming in" mother of the kid who wants to take away your child a toy, with the claim "really sorry to share? "then your best answer is "if he wants to, he will share". This strategy in the future will be very useful for: people whose parents followed her, will be able in the future to defend their rights, interests, honor, and property.
Home talk about what is "it" and what is "foreign" in this age, he is already able to understand it. Show them by our example that we should ask before you take someone else's toy on the street. So, you lay the respect not only for her but for others ' property.
...Became shy
In 4-5 years, parents are often faced with the fact that their baby at the sight of strangers shy, pressed to the mother, not responding to questions from adults. He may be offended by jokes in his address, to be constrained in the manifestation of emotions. In the kindergarten the child is shy to approach a group of peers, does not dare to join in their game.
What to do?
The cause of shyness is the lack of attention from parents. The child, with which adults spend a lot of time, always sure of himself. So pay attention to what your kid, and let's encouraging comments. For example, seeing how the baby was building a house out of blocks, you can turn to him: "You must build a castle for the hero? You do it so well". And seeing as a child persistently tries to put on and fasten shoes, praise him: "You tried so hard to put on boots, and you did. Clever! ".
- If something does not work, use humor and play - so the baby will absorb information better and it will be a lesson without consequences (psychological complexes). For example, if he fails to build a city from the constructor, type in game character pest, which prevents the construction site.
...Rolls up hysterics
When the kid turns 2-3 years, many moms and dads are witnesses of children's tantrums. This is when the payment for nakoplennoy toy or other failure is falling on the floor, screaming and kicking movements of the legs.
What to do?
- Think it's normal in 2-3 years the kid is inclined to carry out psychological experiments. It does not give the child, even if he cries crocodile tears, otherwise it will lead to what his reaction will be fixed next time I will repeat a similar, but even stronger. Explain to the child why you will not fulfill its demands. If the scene is played in the room, stand up and come out of it. Because the show is designed for the viewer, often in a few minutes, the child calms down.
"Tell what awaits him, if he did not stop a tantrum. For example, tell me what house you will be deprived of all his soft toys for three days. If a tantrum does not stop, will perform his promise.
- Try to divert the attention of the baby. Young children are more likely to respond to the request of the parents to do something, so-called command "forward" than to ask her to stop doing something. Therefore, if your child cries and cries, ask them to come to you and give him something in his hands, instead of requiring to stop a tantrum.
Home clearly define the list of allowed and prohibited items, and always adhere to the established prohibition. This will help to establish a system of rules, which would be able to comply with the child. Make them the same for all family members to avoid that for the coveted second candy, which do not give mom and dad, the kid went to the grandfather or the grandmother.
...Sneak-karabuda
With 5 to 7 years, children can teach adults on the other: "And nick broke the typewriter", "Mary poured the juice", and so on, While the present bednesti implies that the child receives pleasure from the fact that their words were the reason for the punishment of another.
What to do?
- Often Abedi - failed leaders. And they believe that bednesti will help them to gain importance. Explain to the child that this is the wrong path, threatening the loss of friends and respect.
- Bednesti may arise from feelings of envy. The child is experiencing a shortage of good quality toys, clothing and entertainment, and may envy those who have it all, and through bednesti try to recover known only to him "justice". Talk with your child and find out whether it has an object of envy, what it lacks, and try to compensate him missing.
The most ineffective way of dealing with Benicassim - direct prohibition: "do not abednico" and "you". It explains nothing, only blocks confidential communication between a child and an adult. Externally, the problem may appear to be solved: you stop hearing from the child's complaints. But actually questions only driven deep into the psyche, and the problem is compounded by the fact that now the child will be afraid to consult with you and why you can't do it".
- Listen to the words of the kid. Sometimes "Abadi" convey important information - for example, that someone fell from a tree and broke his leg.
Thank you for the help in preparing the material child psychologist Tatiana, Mikheenko
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