Why Andrew this humming? Why is she such a bitch? Why thin, sensitive Lena married a cruel Stas? Sergey is an intelligent, educated man, and all life awry. Why do I still worry (explode) for nothing?. Familiar thoughts? We all lifetime trying to understand the origins of behavior. Its the people around us: family, friends, work colleagues. Maybe that's why so popular horoscopes. A weak attempt to explain why such a man. It is a pity that astrology during his thousand-year existence and have not found scientific evidence, otherwise, the right way, she would have benefited!
Meanwhile, there are accumulated over centuries reliable, collected and systematized data: what is the nature of what the characters are, what you can change in the character and what is not, and so on, Reliable means confirmed by scientific research. This is when you take, for example, ten thousand people and study how they think, feel, act. Therefore, this classification is not a fiction, not a guess. This is the result of serious research, which showed that one type of personality is different, as different countries. And in each "country" mentality: language, culture, values, ideas about happiness.
Type of personality (character), despite the strange name (psychasthenic, schizoid, epileptoid and so on), is not a diagnosis and not a nickname.
This personality characteristics, including emotions, will, thinking. Each type of personality this system works differently Why are there problems with people? Because each of us is sure what other people think, feel and should do the same as we are. The familiar call: "Our Misha absolutely anyone of us don't like". My dear, how would you be shocked if he knew how much difference he perceives the world!
The lack of understanding of other people, their feelings, actions lead to chronic stress. We injure their loved ones, and they hurt us. While nobody wants evil. We simply could not grasp that one good, the other is absolutely not suitable.
What a pity that the typology does not take place in school, in College, what about it don't talk on radio and TV it is a Pity that they do not know the full extent neither teachers nor doctors nor psychologists. It is a pity that, if you are going to marry, we have little idea of the nature of our second half. The amazing thing is that typology is not taken into account even in business. Then what business coaches do not know her. And people who are her own, don't go into business coaches. Actually this knowledge need absolute all - from oligarchs to janitors. Because we all live among the people. You could send investigators to the literature. But! Despite the abundance of intelligent and literate books, written in simple language, very little. Or they are smart, but full of indigestible terms. But the mass of primitive literature, the so-called "Freud for Housewives". There you will be asked to determine the nature, for example, on clothing or on the body. If small and thin, so the sort of character. And thick and large definitely another. Was this theory in the middle of the last century. Not confirmed. Still on the magnitude of the nose men to determine the value of... you know what.
Yes and with clothes pitchforks in the air. Because at all times there was dresscode, which did not allow to show individual characteristics. Nobleman or peasant, the Soviet party functionary, the representative of the "Coca-Cola" or glamorous party - everyone is obliged to conform to his circle. Therefore, a person's appearance often does not reflect the nature of, and belonging to the class.
But back to the nature. So, each of us has a set of certain personality traits, this nature, the Lord God, and genetics.
There is no "good" and "bad" type of personality. But during the life - depending on education, environment, temperament, circumstances - the nature of change in one direction or another, with a plus or minus sign.
When traits are sharpened, carried to extremes (very disturbing, very impulsive, very vicious) - this is the pathology called psychopathy. (And we this word thoughtlessly swear.)
To change from one personality type to another is impossible. But you can make your character candy. The trouble is that this is a long, painstaking work, which finished a few. Besides so sweet to assure everyone and myself that this is my personality. And to say: "the Main thing is to be yourself".
"Pure" personality types are extremely rare. In most we are a cunning mixture. But you can highlight the dominant, which is the basis of character. But the intelligence and stupidity, meanness and generosity, creativity, science, or arts do not depend on the character, which is very comforting.
In the magazine we are going to tell you not only what kinds of characters, but what a mixture is possible, who often married, who is some worker, from whom you can expect, and what to expect is not worth it.
And we will make references to books and movies, which clearly outline any type of personality. Because real writers, playwrights, filmmakers themselves, without reading, to acquire this knowledge, because they know how to watch people, to notice the nuances and details of their characters.
Of course, in order to understand the characters, not enough to read a few articles or smart books. All this and more, bigger, harder... But at least we will get in touch with to this interesting material. Knowledge typology will reveal to us the secrets of the attitude of other people. And it will become clear why Andrew - humming, Tanya - bitch, but smart and educated Sergei life awry. And your withdrawal (anxiety, grudge, suspiciousness, stiffness - underline) can cripple your life. Despite the best brains. Because the character determines destiny.
Author:
E. Belyakova, psychotherapist
Source:
Our psychology
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