Tug-family rope or Two leaders under one roof

Two captains in one ship

Imagined such an option? It is clear that nobody wants to obey, in the end, the boat will successfully sent to the bottom. And when the family two captains, two leaders, each of which does not want to release the helm of the family ship out of hand, the result with high probability will be the same.

My friend married couple - two active, self-sufficient people, successful in career, with overflowing energy, with many interests met, fell in love and got married. And here began...

Each of them, are accustomed to in their lives to solve it and to do everything yourself, from the first days waited partner unquestioning obedience. But the submission did not succeed, as each of them considered themselves, saying the army language in a couple of the titles above, and by all means tried to prove it.

Of course, the conflict began that first time living together still suffering from passionate love. But eventually the feeling subsided, and the characters stayed the same. Of course, tensions in the relationship.

Well, this couple and the husband and wife were not only strong and independent personalities, but also intelligent, tolerant people, so they could of antagonists to become partners. They all discussed and decided by the family Council to delineate spheres of influence in the family and identified a range of issues, decisions on which shall be adopted only at the family Council. But most importantly, they both Holy comply with this agreement.

Unfortunately, often in such families, the husband and wife is a strong, independent personalities begin to conduct with each other endless, exhausting war, which was then involuntarily addicted children, relatives, and all around. This family must be saved!

If you do not suffer from excessive softness of character, used to decide everything and all to yourself, and the companions chose a leader by nature, then, first of all, you will have to learn to give. And there must be a stop to cherish pride and not be considered a concession of passivity and weakness. Much better to pre-allocate roles, influence and government institutions in the family and not to take other people's powers.

Don't be afraid to be weak, because along with your favorite man, which itself is destined to be your support and protection. Try to be Frank and sincere, do not hide their problems and concerns. This will help you much faster to understand that your spouse is not your enemy, not a rival, but a partner, and friend.

The ability to take another's point of view - is the key to a good and respectful relationship, harmony in the family. If you connect love and respect, you will be able to find this harmony. The family home is not the battlefield, and the rest of the warrior". And this focus should always be warm, cozy, peace and understanding.

Lyudmila Zorina

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