Children jealousy

Very often, many parents with the advent of the second baby's face with a serious problem is the eldest child began to strongly show signs of jealousy. It can manifest itself in harmless pranks, and sometimes lead to these tragedies. To prevent this feeling is impossible, but to reduce it - easily. So if you notice that your older child is hostile to the younger brother or sister, not wanting to share toys and sometimes behaves aggressively urgently take action!


Work should begin even before the birth of the child, namely: first, gently let the eldest of the speedy advent of a new family member, and then try to convince the older that your love will be enough for two. To the child it is very important not only to hear but also to understand. What causes jealousy? Not because all the toys and attention to get the smallest member of the family and that the child is afraid to lose the most precious thing he has is the love of parents. If the baby received the news about the new family member is not a joy or even aggressive, it is worth remembering funny stories from your own life, associated with his brother and sister, and to show the child the benefits that he is not alone. Try to convince him that he in no case will not be one you will always be there.




After the birth of a child will try to make time for an older child - he in no case should not feel alone and useless. Very often children are asked also to buy them, to feed, in a word, to do the same thing with the younger. Take it with humor - very soon the kid will get bored to play these games. And if you start to stress something that is very proud of the fact that the family is the senior assistant, child and completely forget about their whims. The most important thing is to make him feel that he is a full member of the family and entitled to vote.




Many parents, in virtue of employment or other reasons often make older child to the nurse, thus creating a childish jealousy. Remember: the child, the child should be associated with games, peers, toys, but not with diapers and feeding. If you decide to have a second child, then be prepared for the fact that you have to sacrifice something. But not his older childhood!




Also try not to compare older and younger children, because each of them is unique. Even twins are often radically different from each other in character and vision of the world - so no need to bring high standards to the kids. If you witness a quarrel, don't immediately blame the older that he is guilty and hurting small - sometimes the situation may be drastically different. Therefore, the most reasonable in this case to punish both children, explaining exactly what you do not like in their behavior. You should not trot out the phrase "I will not love you if you...". Children too imagination, and these words can cause a child and really believe that your love he gets less than his brother or sister. Thus, you are to sow strife in his family.




Children sometimes difficult to get used to each other, especially if their interests, personalities and demeanor are very different. In order to avoid conflicts highlight each child his own space where he can be alone, to do what he likes. In short, only depends on you that what kind of relationship will develop between children. And in your power to prevent the escalation of conflict.

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