The return to work after a long break cause women have different feelings - joy, which ended the period of "sitting at home", to the deep sorrow, if the decision to return to work is a necessity dictated by the circumstances. But in both cases the woman will have to see the adaptation. How to do it correctly and with the least damage to yourself, tell the psychologist-consultant Passion.ru.In order for the adaptation to work after maternity leave was faster to sad feelings do not become depressed and joyful feelings is not marred by unexpected problems, it is important to pay attention to the following factors.
Everything has changed... What to do?
One of the main difficulties facing a woman coming out of the decree, is the expectation that she returns to the place where once was gone. Returning to work, a woman expecting that everything will be as before, even if it was not very good.
However, during the time that women spent on maternity leave, time to upgrade the team, the atmosphere in the team, working conditions, responsibilities. In this case, the woman is faced with an unpleasant surprise, which can seriously knock it off.
In order to know what to expect, and to be ready, before leaving the decree will go to work, look where you go, what has changed in your absence.
In the military this is called reconnaissance - intelligence on the spot assessment of the area, its characteristics and conditions. And in this case it is justified by 100 percent.
Talk with your colleagues, find out what happened during your absence, what currently working conditions, how many new people have appeared at work waiting for your return.
Find those colleagues who can support you. Ask them to introduce you the ropes, help you and be introduced to people you don't know.
How to prepare for the problems?
Now, knowing what and who is waiting for you at work, it is important to prepare for possible problems.
Write down on a piece of the difficulties you may face at work, for example:
- ignorance of new employees;
- lack of skills that are now required for the work etc.
Next to each item write one or more options, as you can cope with this difficulty, what or who is able to help you with this. Mark the resolution of problems. Make sure in advance about this.
Maybe you can help refresher courses or socio-psychological training, which will refresh your skills to interact with people and will increase self-esteem.
Remember all that you are able
Conduct an audit of all that you know and can do.
Take a sheet of paper and write down all your skills and abilities in professional and related fields.
Separately write down all your strengths and dignity.
Do the following exercise.
Locate in the area, which will mean a real, current situation, when you go from maternity leave to work. Mark it in any object.
Behind him some distance, put another subject, which will be denoted by the past and you 3 or 4 years ago before you went on maternity leave.
Define a space ahead of the first place, another place, which will symbolize the future and you - for example, through 4 years. Indicate also any object.
Stand on the spot # 2, the place of the past. Remember how you felt at that time, what skills I had, how did you feel in professional positions, which were specialist.
Look out for his present to his real anxiety, worry, doubt. Create yourself the current message, give me some advice on how to adapt faster to work and restore their skills. Tell us what you previously helped on the work that has inspired and delighted.
Return to the first place, meaning you now. How are you feeling right now? Take a look at themselves in the past, realize that since it took a few years, you have changed and gained a new experience. What was that experience? That you had changed during maternity leave? What have you gained during this time?
Now stand on place # 3, future, and test your feelings. What do you feel? Who are you? What you have achieved over the years? Take a look at yourself real and see what has helped you to adapt at work at the moment and to be in that place where you are right now. Tell us about it.
Seek support
Due to the fact that coming to work is a stressful event for a woman it is important to secure in this period support. Support is available primarily in the family, requesting it from loved ones, sharing the fact that you don't.
It is important to understand what kind of support you now most needed. Usually, the woman is important to be able to share with loved ones feelings, to be able to talk without having to be instructed how to behave, and relate to her mistakes or comforted by the fact that she is strong and she will succeed.
So ask your husband to just listen to what you want to talk, to hug you or make massage. Or would you call out for yourself what you want him to say in response.
What should be prepared?
Regardless of the willingness or unwillingness of women to employment, regardless of its relationship to the work ahead, return to work is a stressful event, and it will require women to mobilize its forces and a certain adjustment period.
The reason is that the return to work after a long break is:
change the life of scenery.
Prior to coming to work most of the time the female spent at home. Now most of the time it will be completely different, alien environment.
change status.
With access to work is changing the status of women. He might increase, if the situation of working and earning money for women it is higher than the position of the housewife.
It may be reduced, if the subjective attitude to the running of the fair half of mankind she's worse than a woman, which contains a man, or if she didn't want to work.
However, in any case, it would be objectively different status, because changing economic, social, and professional ranks women.
the change of pace of life.
The job entails a change of pace. Now its basis will be the work schedule, which determines the amount of free time and time for casual non-business Affairs - cooking dinner, taking care of house and family members.
Change the rhythm of life entails changes in the functioning of the organism and its sleep, food, rest.
changing family roles.
With access to the working woman enters into your repertoire of professional role, and the role of wife, mother, Keeper of the hearth continues, but much less frequently. This entails the redistribution of responsibilities in the family and attitude change.
separation from the child.
Coming to work is also a period of separation, separation from each other mother and child. The child becomes independent, does not need the mother, as before, and is in kindergarten.
And for mom and for baby ends a difficult, but very sweet period merge with each other when the mother rightly says about the child "we".
Therefore, it is important to understand and remember that going to work is stressful. Keeping this in mind, understanding that you may happen to survive this much easier.
Sometimes a woman experiencing symptoms of stress, fatigue, sadness, fatigue, irritation, not understanding what was happening to her, at the same time begins to feel guilty. It may seem that such sensations caused by her unwillingness to work, inability to join the team, the loss of skills.
Actually, this may be just a reaction to a stressful event. The woman is adaptation, and you need to give yourself time to switch to a new activity. Often the understanding of this fact already makes the experience of stress.
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