One woman (in this case her name is not important) worked for many years in hospice. Her duty relief of dying patients. So she literally had their last days and hours.
From their observations, it was a rating of the main regrets people approached the edge of life.
So, the 5 most common regrets of the dying:
1. I'm sorry that I have not had the courage to live a life that is right for me, not the life that you expect from me
This is the most widespread disappointment among the people. When people realize that their life is almost over, they can look back and easily see what their dreams remain unrealized. Most people hardly tried to fulfill even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was only because of the choices they have done or not done.
It is very important to try to implement at least some of your basic desires on their life path. From the moment when you lose your health, is already too late to do something. Health brings the freedom that very few understand, not lose it.
2. I am sorry that I have so much work
"The feeling was every male patient that I cared. They missed their youth and on their relationship. Some women also expressed such regret. But since most of them were older, they mostly did not earning money for the family. All men with whom I worked, was deeply regret that spent most of his life to monotonous work for a livelihood."
Simplifying your lifestyle, you can reduce the income requirements that you think you need. Creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new possibilities.
3. I am sorry that I have not had the courage to Express their feelings
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to maintain certain relationships with others. As a result, they agreed to a mediocre existence and never became who and what they would like to see myself. The emergence of many diseases associated with experienced feelings of bitterness and resentment.
We can't control the reactions of others. Although people can react to changes that you make in relationships that are undesirable to you. Ultimately, this raises the relationship to a new more healthy level. Best one way or another to eliminate unhealthy relationships from your life.
4. I am sorry that I did not have relations with his friends
Often, these people do not even realize all of the benefits of maintaining contact with old friends, until their death, not just for a few weeks, and have not always been able to find. Many were so immersed in their own lives, allowing their friendship for many years to pass them. There were many deep regrets about what friendship was not given so much time and effort that this friendship deserved. All miss my friends die.
Any person who lead an active lifestyle, tend to diminish the value of friendship. But when a man stands on the threshold of death, the material side of life lose their value. Of course, people want their financial Affairs were in order. But not the money and status are ultimately its value. They want to bring some benefit to those we love. But they are usually too sick and tired, in order to cope with this task.
5. I am sorry that I have not allowed myself to be happier
This kind of regret was surprisingly common. Many did not understand that their happiness is a matter of choice. They were subordinated to the habits and prevailing views. They were in captivity comfort lifestyle. Because of the fear of change they pretend to others and to ourselves that were satisfied with their lives.
Source:
Rodrus
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