How much is uncertain in this world? Thousands, millions, billions? It seems easier to count the number of self-confident people.Talk with whomever you will find that all are in doubt of something to a greater or lesser extent. Another thing is that not everyone admits it.
Doubt in their abilities, doubt the correctness of the committed acts, no doubt, with whom destiny to join (whether in love, or where the "warmer" settle down). I doubt the heads of States and ordinary workers, professors and students, all in one way or another something not sure... the only Difference in the degree of uncertainty. Absolute certainty is already mania.
However, if you are tired of constant doubt and uncertainty, it's time to change something. Well, first of all, change your attitude to your uncertainty. The realization that a similar problem is perceived by the majority, will charge you a considerable share experiences and voltage, which is a good thing. This will allow you to soberly assess the situation and begin the search for the origins of your insecurity.
The majority of analysts agree that the vast majority of fears, complexes, problems and other "joys of life" is laid in childhood. There lie the roots of our uncertainty. Often the uncertainty was us unconsciously adopted from parents, just as the model of interaction with the outside world. About the same period begins self-esteem. Partly it has been adopted from parents, partly they make it. Now, self-esteem greatly depends on the degree of confidence.
These thoughts are not transcribed by me from clever books. In fact, since childhood being very insecure, I ran into this closely. Many books were read, was up methods that would immediately and effortlessly gave confidence, well, you know... it is, to put it mildly, did not go well... Until then, until I started self-esteem. And after a couple of classes to wave a magic wand still unsure. Now I know how closely they are connected.
People with low self-esteem always need someone else's approval and rarely respect yourself. How can we be certain that if a person constantly thinks about it will say, if he is constantly waiting for approval, rather than having it even more low self-esteem? If with all this focus on our shortcomings, failures and so on, it is not surprising that confidence, to put it mildly, is not enough.
Raise self-esteem and get confidence as a pleasant side effect. Not to talk in vain, I will extremely effective exercise to improve self-esteem and confidence. Imagine yourself among the people, maybe it's your neighbors, and maybe a boss, or is it the Queen's English, then you decide. Imagine that all these people start to admire you, tell you the compliments, praise, just imagine, after all, nothing complicated. Yes, in the beginning creak brakes, but then all the more exciting. The main thing about reality don't forget... after two or three times your attitude will change dramatically, you deserve it!
Do not dwell on his lack of confidence, look at it differently. Maybe that uncertainty will reveal to you an exciting way to itself.
A few tips on how to strengthen their confidence
- use autosuggestion
start right now to respect and love myself a little harder than yesterday
- focus on your successes and achievements
- got on the authorities, you know best what you need
- make right decisions and be sure he is right, at least until that time, until life proves otherwise.
Author:
Stetsko Century
Source:
Female psychology
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