Dispute: how to avoid

Probably, since people began to think, they began to argue. Of course, in a dispute born truth, but we need an argument, when one of the competitors does not want to accept your point of view just out of spite.


"By the rules"




In order to know what to fight, you should know that there is a dispute actually. The dispute is a clash of opinions, in which one party (or both) tries to convince the other of the justice of their position.




In addition, each party to a dispute, during this action, passes through four stages:




- talks about his point of view


- listens to the opposite


- puts forward arguments in its favor


- puts forward arguments to weaken the position of the opponent




But it is, so to say, scheme dispute ideally, but in practice, most of all, everything is completely different, why? Yes, because in reality we are often meaningless and absolutely no reasonable dispute. This argument is easy to prove. In normal dispute, each party remains quite: because one side has persuaded another, and another, thanks first came to the right point of view. Remember how many times after a dispute you have any scandal, quarrel, or simply unpleasant sludge? Repeatedly? There should just be able to forward the dispute in the right direction.




Simple rules dispute




In order to end the dispute was not offended, it is necessary to follow three simple rules.




1. Often what we say rarely meets our true thoughts. So, first of all, you should find out what the true meaning of your partner puts in it is written.




2. Admittedly, not always the same words have the same meaning. So, before you start a debate, explain that you put in a word.




3. And finally, most of the conflict is born in misunderstanding. So when you have sorted out by means of, you should check whether you have understood the source.




Using these simple rules, you will easily be able to avoid the negative sediment and pointless argument.

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