We all consider ourselves modern and educated people. Science has done a great leap forward. Haven't heard about cell phones and computers, nanotechnology and bioengineering... that's only in the upbringing of children, we use the "prehistoric" methods with all the confidence in its modern Outlook on life. Yes and how could you have knowledge about education, if no one teaches? Although this science is one of the most important.All parents want to see their children happy and healthy. And deep in parents hiding the main priority is the complete obedience of children. The amazing thing is that with the best of intentions we KALEKIM and break the most expensive us people - their own children. Good intentions...
Feel the outrage of the parents in my address... those parents who believe in their infallibility! How do we educate children? Endless moralizing, cries, someone hand applies. Reproaches, accusations, criticism, manipulation, blackmail...
Let's imagine a typical situation. The son of a bummer. And what he says daddy? "I was your age... And you... you, nothing good will happen, you do not learn, do not exercise..." This list can be continued indefinitely. And, it would seem that parents are right. I want my son and daughter did well in school, played sports, and most important, again, listened to the parents.
I wonder whether Pope himself, when his wife says that he is so-and-so little money he earns at home doing nothing? Dad, husband immediately rush to look for another job, wash dishes, clean socks, or was angry? This means that adults shouldn't, and this scheme does not work and will only lead to a scandal. But with your child, please immediately perevospitaesh. Criticism will listen or will get a kick and immediately nauchitsya on five. Where did the poor guy do? Can't go but, as in the soul only, and dreams about it. So we have to break ourselves.
We have a school program one at all. And a large part of knowledge is forgotten immediately and never come in handy. And учитьflickr.com somehow necessary. How not to teach? It is supposed to. How to understand what the child wants, as to consider it a talent? There are no worthless children, are worthless parents who are in pursuit of estimates forget about more important things.
He doesn't like mathematics, physics, chemistry. Read love or draws well. But don't have time to develop in your business, if for three in mathematics will punish you. So children were sick, that they will remember what THEY loved.
Big load at school, a large amount of home work. Hands adult fall, and then the psyche of the children! Here and spat the boy to school, but it's still impossible to learn. Yes, and believe that he is a fool. Adults, and You do differently? Shouted the boss, You the whole day out of it.
Constantly bad talks to You, You will be looking for a new job. You're upset about, You're wrong, You proud. And that, children are not the people do? Or we can say, think, scolded, reprimanded, only will benefit? What is the benefit? In school children scold, with friends, too, the problems are. Go home, and then we, the parents, padidam to their portion of insults to throw.
We had one guy in the class. Once I did, and was known as a bully. If another hand went, then it was necessarily punished. School teachers, house parents. And we, classmates, has warned that bad it is, "difficult". Teachers are smart, know how the child's psyche to break. In General, believed the boy that he is bad. And became bad. I know that after school to prison pleased. It turns out, were right teacher?!
Only nobody paid attention that the student drew on the lessons, wonderful painted - we, the teachers, the nature of that window seen. Bored he was in the classroom. And teachers, admittedly, in most cases, are not interested in the material presented. I met him many years after school. He's famous fashion designer. Well-read, educated, erudite. He had a family. To his son cares. Understands. It is good that so ended, I had found myself. And could be quite different.
Here still wonder why my parents thought it was OK to hit a child? Will come the same dad-educator to work, and his head also sincerely wrong deems, Bach and a slap in the face to work better! Mom the best of intentions daughter criticizes the hairstyle you're in a bad, terrible behavior, you're lazy.
The same mother knows that her friend wrong. Think twice, what to say, how not to offend. Politique it your friends as the daughter, one will remain. And nowhere to go, have to endure. Mom, dad believe that then say thank you. For that only? For disrespect, for the constant criticism?
How do you raise?
In my school, the teacher of history was TRUE, to which children are more important than ambition. And the subject was very enlightening. It is for every child approach is found. Gave me to understand that I am a good girl and that she is proud of the kind of student. How could I have bad lesson to learn?! Tried not just to learn perfectly, and even teacher to please, something not from school to find. Evdokia Romanovna knew who how to rate that the disciple faith in yourself is not lost. She Twoness tried, didn't want to disappoint. It is because the parents did not complain, we are not screaming. Was just upset. Himself vinyl that failed to interest. We have extra lessons begged.
But the physics teacher, we decided that the class average, not outstanding. All the screaming and the parent meeting was arranged. Shouted at us, and the parents got. Fought for progress! But the more he fought, and was brought up, the worse we had studied.
So how NOT to educate? Yes it is necessary to love, time to find the children! To shout is easy and fast, but to talk, to explain the approach to find much more difficult. My mother's friend call waiting. It is more important. Dad - sofa and TV waiting. The kick gave, cried on the sofa. And the ungrateful children don't want to listen to.
flickr.comradely try children from errors to keep on the path of true guidance. Everything seems to be correct. But I don't want children to avoid mistakes and not learn from YOUR experience. They have their own experience should be your mistakes. Well, then the child is still not Your copy. Perhaps they and their opinions are.
The first time I'm with my daughter the lessons did, then explained that she's already big and clever, I needed to try. The whole conversation with her had, explained that will help, if not cope. But I believe in it. The only one that asked my Princess: "But deuces to blame? "
Twos she had not received, and I was very surprised to find such a question. Asked her. It turns out that her mom's friend came to school and scolded his daughter for a d in English language with all the class. Can you imagine what that little girl survived?! Is then a mother for a long time to "thank". Well, what in the competent school psychologist has helped. I am his daughter explained: what to scold her, she herself behind the deuce will be disappointed. On the contrary, should help to understand. Trying my baby. Not because he is afraid!
Another problem parent - "to beat" hurts. We're fed, clothed, treated. Life on thee laid, and you're ungrateful. So it is the duty of parents. And they give birth to itself. The idea is that joy should feel towards the child. As it turns out, the children as a duty or obligation. And were born solely to the will and desire of the parent to perform. Don't like the word GRATITUDE. If you love doing something, do not expect gratitude. Together with your child grieve and rejoice. Well, if on duty, then, of course, without gratitude is hard.
At meetings of the parent adopted children to complain - don't want to learn, for the money the plan to take exams, diplomas actually buy. Oh, poor nowadays the children. Who they were made? Who is to pay bribes to give taught? Even younger children? Or is it good for adults? Who on TV about sex constantly says, debauchery shows? In the family, roughly speaking. In school terrorize. With friends goes wrong. Well, nothing, you're a child will survive!
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