Humor nourishes the self-esteem
Around my childhood friend always had a lot of people in school, College, at work, in companies. The secret of its success is simple: she knows how to joke. Her sense of humor easy, inoffensive, but always able to improve your mood. Katya and she enjoys it a particularly good observation causes an explosion of laughter. Undoubtedly, her ego at this point triumphs: witty person other perceived not only as the Joker, but also as a clever and subtle psychologist, capable of easy and funny to talk about what bothers and disturbs everyone. And to open up to people, and making them more open.
Good joke - moment of glory for the narrator. Funny jokes - a work of art. These little masterpieces of our self-esteem instantly flies up. Special pride we feel when we are able to laugh at disturbing or unpleasant situation. We not only restore emotional balance - we suddenly feel that we have become smarter. "When we enjoy a good joke, it is easier for us to solve their problems, because the left hemisphere (reason, logic) is more active, " explains neuroscientist Frederick Rosenfeld(Frederic Rosenfeld). Moreover, when we laugh heartily, the brain is more plastic, which helps to establish new relationships".
And again, whoever has the most valuable gift to make people laugh, attracts listeners to his side. No wonder the best speakers, political leaders and business executives begin their speeches with funny stories, humorous observations or a good joke.
Humor protects from stress
Disaster, ironically, lead to a wave of puns, anecdotes and jokes. Humor helps us cope with stress. Thanks to him, we can relax a little and even for a time, to distance themselves from the situation. Sometimes this allows one to take a new look at what is happening (and yourself) to see the output, find the solution to the problem. Those of us who are in difficult moments allow yourself to have fun and easier than others to deal with stress". This is the phenomenon of humor, able not only to please but to call in our soul genuine catharsis.
Humor breaks taboos
Humor, like dreams, releases our most secret impulses, causing complaints from our chief censor - "Super-I", argued founder of psychoanalysis Sigmund Freud. That is why most of the jokes exploit the "indecent" theme. They allow you with a clear conscience to Express what not to say and what is more you cannot do our aggressive desires, sadomasochistic fantasies, contempt for the opposite sex...
Forbidden is an area where we can most easily get into the "ridiculous" position. With respect to "basic instinct", has a number of social norms and prohibitions. And because they are an endless source of humor.
The impact of stories and anecdotes and jokes on our perception of the world is so great that they almost shoot taboo even frightening themes of death, representing our care not so mysterious and irreversible.
The biological sense of humor to make the brain more efficient training to resolve an ambiguous situation. To grasp the sense of urgency, need some time. In every joke there is ambiguity, which arises from the meaning of its constituent words. This means that every funny phrase lends itself to multiple interpretations, among which only one is correct. And our brain is forced to choose, instantly comparing options.
Humor unites
Humor creates empathy, empathy. When we laugh at the same joke, we feel the similarity of our vision of the world. And feel close to the person, if the person laughs at our jokes, and we acuity seem ridiculous, shared experience strong feelings in common. Humor makes you wonder about his life, his values, wishes and feelings of the other person. Good-natured humor is a unique means of communication and conflict resolution. The world remains the same, but we at some point become more tolerant, more loving. We think not only about themselves. It is therefore not surprising that, for example, married couples there is a direct relationship between satisfaction with marriage and how often spouses kidding, as expressed both a sense of humor.
Sense of humor can be developed
We cannot say that the face of the jokes are all equal. Those whose sense of humor is lacking, psychologists are advised to keep in mind funny scenes that played out in those circumstances where difficulties arise: at work, at home, in communicating with loved ones. For example, you can submit foolish head in a ridiculous situation or to make a comic collage with his photograph. However, aggressive laughter over the offender has only a temporary effect. Productive jokes related to the situation in General. They help to look at it from the side, to relieve stress and otherwise to interpret even the most dramatic events.
Author:
Skochinsky A.
Source:
PSYCHOLOGIES
No comments:
Post a Comment