If you believe the modern psychologists and sexologists, sexual harmony can achieve even a serial rapist and his victim. The main thing is to prioritize and work on yourself. To realize your dreams and to respect the needs of the partner. To learn how to talk about "this". And you will be happy.
But the reality is problematic. Loyal and reliable Sasha, always ready to screw in the bulb (to hammer in a nail, to give money not only for you but also for your mother, does not cause any desires, but to suppress the ill-mannered yawn.
Your mind, and your friends and friends of friends shouting in one voice: "are You crazy? Grab this valuable instance with the graduate school, salary and dad is a banker in the asset. What is it with sex? His life to arrange a time." But life without sex it gets.
The reverse side of the coin looks like this: furious passion, hasty marriage, and here you are sitting with nothing, smearing her cheeks not the best mascara. A large fortune, if not roars fruit perfect sexual compatibility.
Irreconcilable contradictions.
"Golden mean" rarely anyone gets nothing. Usually it is the result of joint efforts. But is the game worth the candle? When it makes sense to make these efforts, and when it is easier to retreat, in order not to repeat the fate of the French at Moscow?
Debriefing. Sex - no!
Thus, we consider the two most common situations when the gentleman, perhaps it makes sense to say a last "good bye":
Scenario # 1. He doesn't excite
"Sergei, I really liked exactly to the moment we first kissed, " says Light. I can't even explain what was wrong, all wrong: not so hugs, not stroking, even the language of a rough. And the smell, not unpleasant, but a total stranger".
This situation is most critical, because before sex even is not reached, and you don't want.
What can be done? Maybe say, "could you smell different? To touch me so that was a thrill, but not so that I remember the nursing home".
And all of a sudden? Suddenly, a miracle will happen and from an ugly duckling Swan hatch? 't hatch.
Scenario # 2. Your temperament does not match
It happens that relations are good and the sex was good, but the latter happens less often than you need. Much less frequently. For example, you need at least once a week, and he's a maximum of once a month. In addition to the sexual Constitution (there are strong, medium and weak) this can be explained by lifestyle (perhaps he was a Japanese spy and always stress) and relationship to you.
After all, men too often go the same way: "She is beautiful, smart, loyal, a good housekeeper, she'll do a great mother, and the fact that I am not particularly exciting, it's okay".
Option is not the most pleasant of course. But you can compete. You will have to provide the man of the conditions to make it you wanted to be a knowing and sexual, to organize a "relax" and to invent every time something new in bed.
But at some point even the most stubborn geisha will overtake the question: "But isn't it better to find the man that you want without all these freaks? ".
Debriefing. Sex - Yes!
But in this situation it makes sense to compete:
Scenario # 3. Trick
The most realistic, but not an easy option to improve your sexual life is possible, if your problem is "technical imperfections". That is, in ordinary life, you have a perfect understanding, but when it comes to Dating, it was a complete failure.
Reasons may be many, in addition to the banal incompatibility. This lack of experience and lack of knowledge of own body, and fear to confide in your partner, and the inability to talk about such things.
I personally believe that if people are to each other is really necessary, they will agree. If not the language of words, body language. They must keep each other instinct.
If you need this man, try to make sex with him: prismatrivalsya body consider, nameki, show, speak directly, but gently, be tactful, but honest.
It's difficult, because good sex is largely rests on naturalness. It is the basis of passion.
Relaxed to give a man the detailed instructions to your own body along with obvious lesson is capable of a few. In any case, the most stupid thing is to accept that your sex will always be there. It's like all my life to eat oatmeal in the water.
In any case, you need to change something. Man. Itself. Or your sex.
Source:
WomanJournal
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