In childhood we are not averse to a fight is a joke or even seriously. Then we grow up and put on something appropriate dress code, and turn it into a battlefield of their own office. Here, behind a building, weaving intrigues and develop strategies. The main prize - the reputation, recognition, and place in the "tops". How to win at office games and neutralize too play colleagues? It is very simple. A woman easily and without risking your manicure.
Gossip
Ten minutes after the beginning of the working day, you already know that Marina husband left her, Lena began repair and Olya clearly recovered.
Word of mouth is the most popular radio station in the world, and if your office has a permanent representative, about the lack of fresh news don't worry. Only you know better than me about your Affairs have also heard all colleagues.
And have gossips another bad quality, which is far more dangerous curiosity, is an excellent fantasy. It is enough only to hear a hint of sensation, so that in the shortest possible time to complete the rest.
The simplest example: a colleague took an unscheduled day off. The women's Council collects an emergency meeting and issues to the surface dozen versions from the secret wedding to receive the inheritance. Variant of migraine is not considered in principle: only encouraged creativity.
A counter.
Never go to an open confrontation, or gossip about you will find absolutely unprecedented paint. However, from time to time to stop the flow of eloquence still stands - response arguments, calm and sensible. In the example about unplanned output enough to remind fantasical about common migraine.
However, if gossip is not from idleness, and with the specific aim is to spoil you the reputation of open maps and openly declare that all this gossip and provocation. The case will not help much, but the next time your colleague is unlikely to blindly believe. Reputation gossip earn very easily.
Strategist and tactician
This is gambling and experienced player that his position achieved at the expense of others. It so happened that in the corporate world there are two options for career development. The first - step by step to go to the goal, the second is to go over the heads. And no aggression, no hostility directed against you personally: the career of such a man builds enthusiastically, as if in a computer strategy.
He acts cold and calculating, as a rule, the course is one and the same proven tactics. Look a couple of Hollywood comedies about avid careeristic that for the sake of improvement and personal pleasure are ready to develop the most sophisticated plan of hijacking office.
A counter. If the strategy does not seek to personally take your place, then you do not worry about than with others he strives to maintain a more cordial relationship. Fear is when career he needs your chair.
Here all the rules of warfare: beware, avoid mistakes, gather around people whom you can trust, and ponder the possibilities of your own career growth. You should become the perfect enemy. These are the "ground game" that are unlikely to receive publicity in the walls of the office, so please be patient and try to look at the situation through the eyes of his "enemy" is all this really looks like a computer game.
The debater
To your argument here is a dozen objections. The debater has no idea how to draw attention to themselves, except louder to say about themselves. You can make the most creative, rational, efficient options, but a colleague will cut up each of them. Familiar?
Countering.
Don't waste your nerves for Challenger this is just usual and the only clear way of communicating. Let him speak, and then try again to Express his point of view. There is another good antidote. Typically, the brilliant debater criticizes, but with their own ideas from him busy. In response to criticism will have to offer the best option.
Also try to promote their ideas to bypass public debate. Believe me, this can be done even when decision making takes place at a General meeting or at a business.
"He first started! "
Among your colleagues sure there are those who have the extra responsibility - one headache. They are not too ambitious, prefer to quietly move towards the goal and not scary like when their own errors have to answer. And then they wakes up bawling baby who is ready to point fingers at everyone with the words "He first started! " Be prepared for the fact that at the critical moment he will begin to shift the blame on the first shoulder. Substitute Lee's own?
A counter.
This is a very popular scene in the movie: the girl manages to thoroughly apartcity with any project, but when it comes time to answer, her colleague nobly takes the blame. The heroine, of course, be sure it will fall in love, and the film will end with a happy ending. You really can take the blame in that case, if the result is really important for you, and I want to avoid conflict.
To explain the motives of his superiors can be later; and it is much more efficient than to figure out who to blame. In addition, a colleague, which completely contradicts the responsibility will probably be grateful to you. After all, despite loud protests we know about all of their shortcomings.
"This is not a feminine thing! "
He's a man, and this fact alone opens up far more opportunities. It automatically puts itself above and allows himself comments about "not for women", "borscht" and "kitchen". You have a presentation, which depends on further promotion, and after you hear a painfully familiar voice over the hall neighbor tells about domostroika truth and the ideal woman is barefoot, pregnant, at the plate". Your speech ends inappropriate laughter of the audience, and the next day a colleague will be innocent wonder: what he said?
Countering. First, big business is traditionally played by men, and secondly, it has been instilled from childhood ideas of superiority, at least at the level of separation "strong - weak sex". Not worth wasting angry: colleague absolutely sincerely believe that it will do much better than you. As the hero of the movie "Moscow does not believe in tears: "On the simple grounds that I am a man".
This is the weak spot of your colleagues: the main competitive advantage he finds his floor and in principle does not accept a woman as a worthy opponent. So you have a huge space for creativity. I think no need to explain what qualities you can prove your competence. Only, do not engage in disputes and open skirmish. Where it is wiser not to destroy the illusion colleagues on the topic of his sexual superiority, acting calmly and coolly.
Experienced
Your colleagues have one, but iron is the cause of excellence in the service record of a little more experience, so you can look down at your career exercises and give invaluable advice. Why experience a little more? Yes, because people with significant difference is unlikely to be on it often to remind you - he doesn't need a daily proof that he is older and smarter.
Countering. Firstly, agree with his sense of dignity and at first really listen to the advice and comments of colleagues. His experience might really come in handy, and you will quickly understand on what grounds he puts himself above you. In this direction you have to move, so as not to remain in the eternal beginners.
Secondly, show your willingness to learn and perceive the experience of senior colleagues. Right and left independence prove is that the adolescents in the period of hormonal rebellion. Under the supervision of experienced colleagues, you will quietly grow and learn. And thank fate for such an unpleasant colleague: the more you irritate his advice, the greater your incentive to rise to his level.
And most importantly, remember: you should always have a clear goal that you're going to slowly, but steadily, as the icebreaker. And in this case, to win you will be practically impossible.
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