Sex addiction: how to know if you are hooked on sex?

Get hooked not only on alcohol or drugs. On the contrary, in our time much more addicted to other people, sex, love, relationships. Meanwhile, it is exactly the same dependence. This is why your relationship with your man resemble a roller coaster or a drunkard with a bottle. You euphoric (sexy-love the euphoria and the truth is something similar to intoxication), and then comes the hangover: you break, and you are struggling looking for a way to return a euphoric state.


It turns out that sex addiction is a "changing relations of physical or emotional pleasure from a partner. Partner is used as a source of pleasure. When according to sex or love become a form of escape from reality. All goals of life slowly fade into the background, and then completely disappear. There is only the endless pursuit of pleasure with the purpose to escape from yourself and reality. Interestingly, no libido and no sexual addiction drives people to have sex.




When dependencies person leads a secret fear. Dependent men usually use sex to assert themselves. And dependent women to get away from real relationships. First time sex brings man pleasure. But farther, the deeper lapsing man in his dependence and the large "dose sex" you want him to feel satisfaction.




Sexoholic can get to a stage where the sex itself does not bring him joy and pleasure, but he continues to deal with them, just to "not broke". Of course, sexaholics no such pronounced withdrawal or hangover, like alcoholics and drug addicts, but emotional pain can be even more unbearable than, because they will not take any pills or drugs.




According to psychologists, some people are more prone to addictions than others. What traits make a psychological portrait of the potential sexoholik?




- Suggestibility and pogruzhaemosti (many girls have enough to see in the series Samantha Jones and immediately feel its a way of life)


- Curiosity, constant search for new sensations


- The appetite (such people are able to botch the entire salary on shoes, or put all your money on red, playing roulette)




Potentially dependent people often are afraid of loneliness. They may be uneasy relationship with the parent of the opposite sex. However, all this is just the "risk factors" - they don't necessarily have to result in sexaholism.




Typically, the dependence provokes a kind of crisis situation. For example, betrayed favorite, and you decided to isolate themselves from the pain with emotionless sex.




If you are prone to addictions, should be careful. Sexaholism better treated under the guidance of a professional therapist: for self-medication instead of really being healed, people often just throws its dependence from one object to another.




For example, you decided to have fun and to receive medical treatment from sexaholism shopping. Alas, in this case you have very good chances to become a Shopaholic.




Of course, every girl herself is free to decide what suits her better: anesthesia from life or the life. Fears or acceptance. Escape from yourself or the search itself. If you find signs of sexaholism or some other dependencies, but I don't see the problem - well, don't Pat yourself on rape. Live as you see fit.




However, if you decide to get rid of dependence, you should know: freed, you will see that the source of happiness and joy is not about the sex and not even in love. The source of happiness and joy in you. And you will be able to enjoy it always, not only when there is a one-time or continuous man! Be independent, and let the sex will be for you pure pleasure, not a way of escape.

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