About the Domostroy, female education and female infantilism

It is believed that the word hate all feminists and love all of headless men, looped on the so-called "male chauvinism". This word is Domostroy. As a rule, neither ambitious girl, dreaming of the chair, the Director or "brutal" guys who want to have a home obedient cook, Domostroy not read. A few of them, cursing or praising this set of teachings, remember what age he is. Perhaps it's not necessary. In the end, the word "Domostroy" long ago became a household word and no longer has the familiar medieval Kupchina, semantic load.


But let's think on the subject of Domostroy, and at the same time find out - but could this "male chauvinist" or as they say in the West - sexist itself to exist in the conditions of the beloved Domostroy?




First some facts. First, Domostroy is a literary work of the XVI century, and not a legal act, a violation of which was supposed to cut the head or incarceration in the district Indigirka river. Secondly, Domostroy is the product of a particular genre - the "instructions". That is, useful tips on every day. Thirdly, in the Domostroy much more notations, addressed to men than to women and children.




Begins the text of the teachings not with household and family councils, and with recommendations to submit to the authority, for he who opposes their will, against God.




Faithful service to the king - is the first step in honoring the Divine absolute. And only after this "editorials" the author refers to family life and economic issues.




Domostroy addressed wealthy owner who participates in the management of all home life. The author of the teachings tells its readers how to organize your life, how to build relationships with the servants, and how to distribute the responsibilities between the household.




The Domostroy corporal punishment contribute to the spiritual cleansing and awaken the conscience of the women and the younger generation. However, to teach excited relatives followed, observing the well-behaved calm, and not publicly, so that all could see who's boss. "Whip miglionico to beat, hands holding, and anger would not have been, and the people would then have been ignorant and not heard".




By the way, the woman in the Domostroy is called not a slave and not a "friend of man", and the lady of the House.




In General, the book calls for righteous penance, to work and to worship the father, which, in turn, is obliged not only to serve the king and the Fatherland, but also to fully contain their "subordinates" just as the king takes care of every padanna.




Now let's remember those who most of all loves to say the phrase: "be Silent, woman! Your day - 8th of March! " and "Chicken is not a bird, a woman - not man! "




... Not so long ago I happened to read an interesting trade in one of the many Internet blogs. A divorced friend born in 1980 complained about women, simultaneously Recalling that blissful time when men ruled, and an aunt with a smile obeyed. Now, the word "Domostroy" flashed in his speech as often as profanity addressed, as a rule, opponents ladies sex.




Characteristically, the ideal of the family in the eyes of this harsh "Domostroitel" was not the old Testament system, in which the husband would have laboured hard for the benefit of the king-father, and a beautiful wife, eyes downcast, would be his master-boyar with honey Yes hanikami. Does!




It turned out that the wife is obliged to serve the Fatherland, however, if the Fatherland pay for nothing - let it serve some other nobleman, the owner of the company, that is to say, benches or presence. In General, our modern Domostroitel was categorically opposed to the wife sat on his weathered neck.




Yes, to be obedient, well-groomed neat and mysterious Aki Nefertiti herself, a woman, of course, obliged. "But not at my expense! ""exclaimed the enemy emancipated women careeristic.




So for whose account a woman should be obedient, desirable, beautiful and patient? As for his own. Itself to work, myself bought a subscription to a fitness club, then she became chic dress and have it (downcast eyes! ) met her beloved Master at the threshold of purchased yourself living space! Yes, don't forget about prepared by their own hands blancmange with profiteroles.




Characteristically, most men somehow agreed with the raging "Domostroitel". Mol, of course, not all women grebes, but the good wife, which work all the way through, and the soup properly cured, and waist forty-two centimeters, in the afternoon with fire you will not find... immediately wistfully reminisced about what a real woman should be educated lady in the living room, a skilful cook in the kitchen and impassioned courtesan - on the bed of love. It is clear that in the persons of the ladies strauchi and courtesans woman should manifest itself only after making the feat of labour for the benefit of the Motherland.




Where to look for the roots of this social infantilism? Why some men sincerely believe that women they always have? Why in their speech glimpsed absolutely not suitable here, the term "Domostroy"? Psychologists answer this question - it's all in... female education of our boys. So to say again "Cherche La femme".




Let's remember who is engaged boyish education in our families, in pre-school institutions, in schools, in children's health (formerly pioneer) camps? Right - woman. Evil or good, happy or frowning, intelligent and not. Men, as a rule, in the process of education is almost not involved.




At first my grandmother, then teacher, then the teacher. And if "lucky", and severe inspectors juvenile. Even injections in the hospital makes the little nurse. During the Domostroy, as you know, the boys received a purely male education, from childhood they knew that in the future the house will stand on their shoulders, and their woman will be "the husband" and not "with her husband" and not "husband".




Modern boy from childhood, learns that the comfort, compassion, love, and delicious and healthy food, all of it comes from women. However, it is at a certain age gets the news that the Man means the Master of Life. It can be any book, telling about the kings, the conquerors, scientists or great artists, does not matter. This may be all the same information about the Domostroy, with its cult of men as head of household.




And then our boy there is a kind of bias in the mind. On the one hand, he used that cherishes his woman, on the other - he wants it to lead! Of course, with her mother or grandmother he to do so, most likely, will not be - it moves, it is an ambivalent relation to his wife (or girlfriend).




Domostroika tradition implies that the man is full and no one deleau responsible for his household, as the sovereign is responsible before God. Many modern men such responsibility does not accept in principle. To contain their partners want (and can) units. The birth of children aside "for later", and if it doesn't, then avoid payment of alimony, like the devil from Holy water. Believe that the wife is required to combine work in the firm with work around the house.




So what Domostroy even talking about?! Yes. Antiquated tradition allowed the man to speak with his wife didactic tone and even to teach it with lashes. But all this could happen only after a man took care of everything about the software kind. Moreover, no special virtue in that era it was not considered, and the merchant - Lord don't even have thought to boast this fact. It was understood that men Domostroitel era no mistress (the harems of serf Actresses appeared in Russia only in the XVIII century). It was the norm that insulted genine honor (for example, for the torn head scarf) the man went to the "dismantling".




So, domoslawski man is responsible earner and breadwinner. This exemplary family man, who will never throw his wife under the pretext that he was tired of "forty years old" while there are so many nymphs and nymphets. (Divorce, as You remember, was not in principle, and adventures of Ivan the terrible - the phenomenon rare).




In General, does not fit nostalgic for the old office of Pai-boys in a rigorous way Domostroitel of muzicini. So Domostroy is fine.




At whose expense he so beautiful? And for your, dear men!

Author:

Basket Z


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