I think only women have their secrets that help them to win the hearts of unsuspecting men? Not at all. According to the American practicing psychologist Zoe, Strimpel, men are not so unsophisticated in matters of sexual relations, as is commonly believed. Moreover, in some ways they are even more "crafty" than women, and at the same time managed to convince the beautiful half of humanity in reverse.
So, here are four basic fact about the features of the male consciousness that will be useful to any woman in the struggle for survival and happiness. This list Strimpel leads in his new bestseller "And what he thinks? All the most important questions about men", published so far only in English.
Fact 1. Men's study "women's fiction" and use their knowledge against you
According to statistics, books like "How to find love" or "How to seduce anyone in 10 days" read mostly women. The audience of this literature consists of 70% insecure or desperate ladies; the remaining 30% are men who give "hunt", says Strimpel.
"Unlike animals, men can read and read all that is written about them for women. As a result, they can easily anticipate your expectations and thus manipulating you," quotes the psychologist saying one of his patients, a 28-year-old Tom L. This Volume recognizes that examining female weakness, men use them to "get her", and then can never be manifested in the life of his recent lover.
In General, concludes Strimpel, if a man makes you a constant surprises, surrounds attention and shows miracles of sensitivity in the first days of Dating, that's no reason to wait for a call back from him.
Fact 2. Men are the same "isterichka" as women
He can't understand why you are so worried because of the color of their handbags? Or surprised, as you strained his random reservation? Believe me, panic over small things is not a feminine trait. Men also have their quirks, and if he used some nonsense, this may be the reason for this hysteria.
The difference is that men are more likely to hide their anxiety than acknowledged him as "the weaker sex". And these hidden emotions often manifest themselves in very strange behavior and reactions. For example, instead of directly saying "irritates Me that you have a long conversation on the phone, he will begin you to retaliate, not to pay any attention to you, not to answer your calls and messages, etc. And you'll never guess what it actually hurt. It is better to directly ask, "Dear, what did I do wrong? " or even endure until the tantrum is not going to end by itself. Otherwise, the situation may reach the point of absurdity and will end in separation.
Fact 3. No man really does not want "free relationship"
Polygamy has long been considered a purely male preference and this has its reasons. Even if a man constantly talks about the benefits of free relations, praising polygamy and teases you offer to have someone on the side, believe me - he actually refers only to ITSELF.
Moreover, most men are simply afraid of the idea of polygamy, because I understand that if left will he go the same way will do it, and this male pride cannot allow. Possessiveness overpowers the representatives of the stronger sex, even the instinct of procreation.
"Sounds may be cool, but in most cases it's just bragging," says another patient, Strimpel Max C. "I would in any case did not want my girlfriend met someone else, and this is already the words-L. - Yes, and if the girl can be happy with who she is openly unfaithful, she is clearly not appropriate".
Fact 4. For men sex is not a reason for relationship
If a man openly offers an intimate relationship, you can be sure: no serious you continue with him not threatened. According to Strimpel men initially assign women a role - lover, friend or girl for one night, so to move from one state to another is almost impossible.
"When a guy invites a woman to have sex, it just means that he wants her to sleep, and nothing more," said another patient of a psychologist Anthony A. a Yen H. only confirmed the words of his colleagues: "If you want a girl for a long serious relationship, you will do all the "rules", as it is accepted in society".
In General, to be consonant to all - not the best strategy in the conquest of men's hearts, he Strimpel. Most likely, your "sacrifice" will be taken for granted, and the phone number is forgotten the next day.
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