Contact between parents and children - joy, convenience and guarantee the prevention of conflicts and misunderstandings. How to keep it from infancy for many years? Is it possible to maintain reliable contact of parents and children even in difficult adolescence? In many families this is also helped by the usual rituals every day, passing through life: the ritual of the "Good morning" and "good night" ritual "Sweet fingers" ritual "15 minutes before going to sleep".
A ritual is an action (set of actions) that have to be done, because you just have to do - because it does everything, because it is here accepted. Swearing-in ritual handshake is also a ritual to say Hello, that is, to desire health - all the usual ritual.
Good morning!
Curious: not all know what to say to each other in the morning, "Good morning! "it is not just good feelings from the heart, it is a ritual. What seems normal families so natural (and what could be more natural than a morning greeting, "Good morning! "? - when something so natural was not. This ritual is someone, some creative person, invented and introduced. I think it was first artificially, and then became a familiar and natural. Thanks to this wise man!
So, the ritual is that in the morning all with a warm smile say (not burnout and warm and with a smile say to each other "Good morning" kiss you (here in different ways - in the shoulder, cheeks, lips).
This is the format that is a mandatory requirement of the relationship. You may not be awake and resentment, but to say "Good morning! " you have in any case.
And when the child grows up in this environment and will get used to that, it will be completely natural for him. It will cease to be the ritual and become just good feelings from the soul!
Good night!
In the same way. Go to sleep, not going to other family members and tell them with a smile and a kiss good night! "we have not accepted. A simple habit, a kind of ritual.
Cute little fingers
The morning of the child begins with the fact that someone gently stroking his toes. That someone sneaked in under the blanket and not ticklish, but nice stroking his fingers. Large finger, next, next... a little - all get their fingers stroking and kissing. "Good morning, darling! ", "Good morning, dear! "the voice of mom (or dad) accompanies this soft morning massarik.
Here important caution - each child has their own sensitivity, and for some even soft strokes can be felt as sharp tickling. However, as experience shows, soft and caring hands of parents feel that now it is a pleasure to the child. It is important that the child has not learned, even in game mode to draw back legs on the type of "Well tickled, go, do not want! "is he this smiles and knows that mom will still be his stroke and he is really nice, but then this game may this ritual to completely destroy.
Always and all the children for this ritual to teach? Unfortunately, what is lost, to fill it is not always possible. If the parents taught the child to this ritual from childhood, it is usual as well as to breathe and wash. Accustomed to this ritual of first graders already difficult teenagers is rather inappropriate, they are not the same age. See their situation themselves, think. But if your children are still small, the ritual "Cute toes" should be in the family way of life, to become entirely natural and internally required, the same as the morning, "Good morning! "
15 minutes before going to sleep
Wonderful thing - fifteen minutes of communication of the child with dad or mom before going to sleep, when the child is already in bed, and mom or dad sitting beside him and something quietly talking: ask, listen. There may not be shootouts and morals, in the extreme case (after a fight), you can just sit next to Pat the handle, to kiss her fingers and say, "I love you. Good night! " What is said on the night, remained in my heart and on my whole life. Tell each other warm words!
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