About nine years, your child most likely will already have a "best friend" and perhaps this friendship can be maintained for a long time, based on common interests, the same views on life.
Friendship is a wonderful source of emotional strength for children, it helps to develop confidence and implications for development.
Your child can be happy with only one friend, or, on the contrary, enjoying a wide circle of friends. On the other hand, it may seem very satisfied with being alone. While most kids are really upset about the lack of friends, some of this is absolutely not a burden, and they feel great, and without the company of their peers. Sometimes this is because they have interests that differ from the interests of most children their age. It is very important not to react too badly. If the child is happy, that's fine. Many of these "singles" in the future become quite successful and creatively gifted adults. You should worry only when the existence of the outside circle of peers frustrating child. In this case, your concern is quite justified.
Lack of friends, feelings about not only lead to loneliness and low self-esteem, but in the future such problems as deterioration in academic performance, health disorder and depression. Perhaps your child has problems, because of which he cannot make friends.
For example, shy children contacts with peers cause some difficulties, and on the other, overly active and aggressive children, as a rule, avoid.
A few tips for parents whose children fall into one of these extreme categories:
- Encourage the desire for their child to make friends with someone. Talk with him about the nature of these relationships, about how much joy can bring true friendship. Tell us about your childhood friends. Ask what his views on friendship.
- Teach children communication skills. Explain to your child how to use and evaluate non-verbal ways of communication or verbal cues. For example, some of the children smiled at him or made a funny remark, and the child understood the situation and took the opportunity to make friends. Many children may overreact to tease others persistently forced to play with them, even though they say no. You can even play with your child small skits to teach him to establish eye contact and smile, showing that he is friendly to learn to speak the phrase: "Hello! My name is...., let's play! "
You need to teach your child the basic rules of social behavior: do not take other people's things, not to fight, to share, friendly to interact with other children.
- Learn to resolve conflicts. Explain that you want to be able to listen to others. Let's talk about how to assert your point of view and how to compromise.
- Let your child's friends come to your house. Never judge his choice too sharply, and do not force him to play with children, which you choose.
- When you're in school, try to talk with other parents - this will help you to learn more about the families of classmates of your child, and to adjust his choice of friends.
- Locate the place where the child will have the opportunity to make friends with someone outside the school, for example, it can be various clubs or sports clubs.
- Show your love for the child is invaluable because it will help him to have confidence in ourselves, especially when he has difficulties in communicating with their peers. Never otkidyvaete your child in front of other children.
- Try not to interfere in the Affairs of your child, connected with his friends or social life, he should have a chance to solve it on their own.
Bad company
There is another problem, which can make parents worry when their baby gets the wrong friends, or fall into bad company. Any bans, whatever you take, trying to stop these contacts, usually lead to the opposite result - the more determined to continue this friendship. Therefore, in our opinion, it is better to allow your child to communicate with his friends, but keep the situation under control. It is better if they will meet you in the house and comply with the rules adopted in your house, for example, not to fight and not to fight.
And yet
- do not release your child unattended, especially with a friend that you do not trust;
- beware of bad companies. Children, especially boys, polychemie such friends can get into some very unpleasant stories;
- you should always know where your child is. Set a firm rule: children should always ask permission before anywhere to go.
Source:
Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru
Friendship is a wonderful source of emotional strength for children, it helps to develop confidence and implications for development.
Your child can be happy with only one friend, or, on the contrary, enjoying a wide circle of friends. On the other hand, it may seem very satisfied with being alone. While most kids are really upset about the lack of friends, some of this is absolutely not a burden, and they feel great, and without the company of their peers. Sometimes this is because they have interests that differ from the interests of most children their age. It is very important not to react too badly. If the child is happy, that's fine. Many of these "singles" in the future become quite successful and creatively gifted adults. You should worry only when the existence of the outside circle of peers frustrating child. In this case, your concern is quite justified.
Lack of friends, feelings about not only lead to loneliness and low self-esteem, but in the future such problems as deterioration in academic performance, health disorder and depression. Perhaps your child has problems, because of which he cannot make friends.
For example, shy children contacts with peers cause some difficulties, and on the other, overly active and aggressive children, as a rule, avoid.
A few tips for parents whose children fall into one of these extreme categories:
- Encourage the desire for their child to make friends with someone. Talk with him about the nature of these relationships, about how much joy can bring true friendship. Tell us about your childhood friends. Ask what his views on friendship.
- Teach children communication skills. Explain to your child how to use and evaluate non-verbal ways of communication or verbal cues. For example, some of the children smiled at him or made a funny remark, and the child understood the situation and took the opportunity to make friends. Many children may overreact to tease others persistently forced to play with them, even though they say no. You can even play with your child small skits to teach him to establish eye contact and smile, showing that he is friendly to learn to speak the phrase: "Hello! My name is...., let's play! "
You need to teach your child the basic rules of social behavior: do not take other people's things, not to fight, to share, friendly to interact with other children.
- Learn to resolve conflicts. Explain that you want to be able to listen to others. Let's talk about how to assert your point of view and how to compromise.
- Let your child's friends come to your house. Never judge his choice too sharply, and do not force him to play with children, which you choose.
- When you're in school, try to talk with other parents - this will help you to learn more about the families of classmates of your child, and to adjust his choice of friends.
- Locate the place where the child will have the opportunity to make friends with someone outside the school, for example, it can be various clubs or sports clubs.
- Show your love for the child is invaluable because it will help him to have confidence in ourselves, especially when he has difficulties in communicating with their peers. Never otkidyvaete your child in front of other children.
- Try not to interfere in the Affairs of your child, connected with his friends or social life, he should have a chance to solve it on their own.
Bad company
There is another problem, which can make parents worry when their baby gets the wrong friends, or fall into bad company. Any bans, whatever you take, trying to stop these contacts, usually lead to the opposite result - the more determined to continue this friendship. Therefore, in our opinion, it is better to allow your child to communicate with his friends, but keep the situation under control. It is better if they will meet you in the house and comply with the rules adopted in your house, for example, not to fight and not to fight.
And yet
- do not release your child unattended, especially with a friend that you do not trust;
- beware of bad companies. Children, especially boys, polychemie such friends can get into some very unpleasant stories;
- you should always know where your child is. Set a firm rule: children should always ask permission before anywhere to go.
Source:
Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru
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