All children are naughty? Why capricious children? The answer is very simple - to get your attention.This behavior is very irritating and will continue to do so as long as you will give to the child. Your child understands that it works and successfully uses this "weapon", on this, don'T GIVE in!
One of the most annoying types of children's behavior it whines, no matter plaintive or whether it loud and exhausting. It's unbearable mixture crying with whining that can shift in an ugly temper tantrum. The peak age for this technique to four years, but may continue in the school age. The baby can be weaned off whining, and than you before it starts to do it, the easier and faster you get. If we don't hurry, it will go into the annoying habit.
Four tips for getting rid of the whining.
Try these tips, instruction in the struggle against the vagaries.
1. Don't let your beloved someone who is capricious to win. Install a complete intolerance to whimper. From time to time all the kids whine because this annoying trick often works. As soon as you give up, the child will continue to use this method in order to get what you want. Moreover, if in time not to stop whimpering, it turns into a daring habit to argue, in hysterics. Remember, do not let your child thought whimpering works!
The most effective way in such cases, completely refuse to listen to the requests of the child that are whiny and cut and torn tone, and only accept the correct intonation. As soon as your child begins to ask you for anything in such a tone, say in a firm voice: "Stop whining! I'm not going to listen to you until you say in a normal tone". After that, go away to another room or turn away. Turn around after whimpering stopped, even if it is several-second interval, and say quietly: "Now, when you say normal, I hear you. What can I do for you? " Not in any case do not show the child your irritation.
2. Try to choose a few minutes and calmly talk to your child. Explain to him that whines unacceptable. It is very important to understand the difference between a normal tone and whining. Show the child how it sounds reasonable tone, don't think he knows it. Whimpering and whining can become a habit because the child just doesn't understand that it's annoying. It would be great if you show it on the example. First show as a child asks for something, cut and torn tone, then show a calm tone. Let the child look from such a situation. But in any case not peredraznivaet child, remember that your goal, what would he have understood what they wanted, without being subjected to ridicule.
3. Establish rules of conduct. Explain to your child that each time he whines will be rejected. Completely refuse to listen to him at such moments, when it first sounds. Usually whimpering stops as soon as the child understands that it is to no avail. The child must learn that the rule you entered is not discussed.
4. If you still whimpering continued, type penalties. You must show your child that won't be tolerated. Penalties should be applied immediately, regardless of where you are, and where the child began to whimper. Of course this can cause a lot of inconvenience, but if you really want to end this, you should immediately tell the child: "You whine, we now leave. You know the rule." The rules are effective only when you will use them every time when bad behavior. Remember, if you fail to comply with the rules, the situation will worsen. The child will immediately understand that you are willing to concede.
Note: You should not show emotions, when applied penalties, do not scold the child, do not show anger and irritation. And it is very important to praise your child every time he uses the right tone. Have patience, to overcome the habit, it takes time. And most importantly don't give up and you will succeed!
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