Someone gets pleasure from regular sex, and someone from sex with an admixture of pain... we are talking about a phenomenon called "masochism".Said to be the first lover of Friedrich Nietzsche, married 30-year-old Countess (attracted by 15-year-old future philosopher), strongly mocked him until until he grabbed the whip for riding and did not beat her. And this is not the only example of its kind in world history and literature.
Recall that the term "masochism" comes from the name of the Austrian novelist - Baron L. von Sacher-Masoch (1836-1895). In his book "Venus in furs," he detailed the "sweet pain". Among the modern "followers" Baron has both men and women.
Where it takes the roots
Here are just a few factors that can cause cravings for masochism.
The desire to feel his weaknessand to feel over an unlimited power partner. Often this is typical of the women who work feel "cool" boss and severely communicate with subordinates. The house they develop a desire to change the role, to become humble and to submit to the authority of men.
The same often feel and women who dream of a strong man, but next to which such men do not. In this case, they sometimes imitate such relationship in bed.
The desire to absolve themselves of responsibility. A woman with bound hands and feet do not have to do anything - she's completely given into the power of fantasy partner. Of course, that it shifted the responsibility for what happens.
Exaggerated sexual temperament. Yes, some sexologists believe that mazohistki - it's just very temperamental woman... a Controversial issue.
From childhood
One of my friends, which in my childhood was regularly punished strap father, confessed to me that a similar action she waits and from other men. And waiting with pleasant feelings. And achieves its desires. Moreover, it specifically creates a situation of guilt, which seeks to punish.
The desire to experience the unknown. Want to try - and what is the "sweet pain" - catches up at some stage many women. The question is, how far will they go in their desires... Someone just will be put on the line, and someone goes on...
Want to know what you can do. "The thing I trembling or right", as they say. Some want to experience the pain and see, will suffer if they or even experience the pleasure...
Extreme thirst. I had one friend who was in bed love unexpectedly put to the forehead of a woman... a gun. However, the weapon was unloaded. But his partner didn't know about it, so the thrill of which they were so anxious, they were provided with.
The desire to Eclipse the pain of inner. In the inner discomfort and depression comes a feeling that the physical pain is weaker than mental. So is a kind of substitution.
The desire to make in a relationship is an element of theatricality
. People who have sex with sadomasochistic "tricks", as a rule, fond of role-playing games. Sometimes about the "scripts" agree in advance, it is sometimes the improvisation... This may be the game of the prisoner and slave, strict parent and a rebellious child.
The desire to add variety to their sex life. Sometimes people just get bored of sex "without salt".
Interestingly, girls with masochistic tendencies are not always easy to achieve mutual understanding with his sexual partner. Because many men offer on delivery of even minor pain girlfriend confused and, for some, simply appalling.
However, sometimes mazohistki able to help others favorite on sadomasochism, as often in men there is an internal setting that to refuse a lady in bed is impossible, and her sexual desire is sacred.
Whether masochism perversion? There is a theory that everything that suits both partners are OK. The main thing that it was not dangerous to their health and life.
Author:
Shcheglova E.
Source:
SuperСтиль
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