How to be a bad example

Bad example - it is known to be contagious. For adults and for children. But with older nothing can be done, and with kids - you can still try.


To be able to cope with bad habits picked up from questionable acquaintances, you need at least to know why our children imitate the bad boys and bad girls.




In fact, the imitation of itself is not so bad. And even, frankly, very good.




Yes, there's be honest - without follow people would not be able to grow as a person. Any cub, animal, and human, closely followed by mom and dad and grows the way he sees first the parents and then other members of the pack. So the example is a necessity of life.




Bad example actually is also a vital necessity, only misunderstood by parents.




A small child, gaining bad, in fact, does not evaluate: how well do what he does, or is bad, bad is an example or model.




Imitation for him is one of the forms of establishing contact with an adult (and for it all except the cat - adults, including poorly educated children). Repeating after them, the baby shows: I like you, I too know how you can with me to be on equal terms.




With the baby it's simple: if the authority of parents for him means something, he will always listen to your strict and absolute "no".




The preschoolers bad example - this is one of the ways of understanding the ways and meanings of human activity. Roughly speaking, in order to know what is wrong, it is not enough just to read about it in the book. Need to do poorly. And to live full and guilt, and shame, and the desire to fix it.




So we remain only with the child to go all the way: from awareness of the offense through guilt and shame to the inevitable punishment and correction.




In adolescence a bad imitation of directed generally to internal or external identification with a certain significant for adolescent personality or social group is the lifeblood of the "grouping" young people are well known and alwaysfalse, as in the good, and for criminal purposes.




Now a teenager all quite complex and simple at the same time: if you act "as usual", that is, to rebuke, to scold, to prevent, punish and to make observations, teen only settled in their harmful habit.




Such a mechanism of resistance to authority inherent in his nature.




Therefore, psychologists are advised not to push and to ignore: as a rule, in this case, the following bad examples is by itself. The efforts of parents should not be directed at combating negative behavior, and to strengthen the positive standard of conduct.




And then the problems of adolescence, when bad example can be a fatal disease, with great probability simply will not touch your family, which I heartily wish you!

Source:

Belarusian women's portal

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