Why does a man depends on the opinions of friends?

Many women who have recently married or just started to live together with his partner, complain that their man puts the opinions of friends too high. In other words: if you tell him one thing, but friends are different, then listen to it just not you. It sometimes gets to the point of absurdity, and we wonder: how can you be so stupid?


But actually the reason is not stupid men, and that your partner probably misses his bachelor life. No, this does not mean that it is bad to you. But if before he and his friends were "free birds" and listened only to the opinions of each other, but now he is forced to compare their plans with you, to ask your opinion and listen to your advice.




So every time he makes a decision, based on the opinion of their friends, and not on your it a balm for the soul, proof that he can still be independent.




It should be noted that this behavior is not for all men. Strong, confident men rarely guided by such motives. On the contrary - they are happy to consult with their wives because it proves the unity of the family. Those same men, who often listen to the advice of friends, ignoring your likely to have psychological problems or too susceptible to outside influence.




In the first case, most likely, the man was brought up in incomplete or unhappy family. His father told him about how it "cuts" the mother, or he observed parent "disassembly". Since then, and came to the conclusion that to listen to women unworthy occupation, peculiar only to the henpecked husbands.




What to do if your man thinks this way? You can take him to a psychologist, and it is possible to work on its facilities and trying to convince him that the family is a single organism, where all important decisions are taken jointly.




In the second case the man is not able to overcome their herd mentality so common in teenagers. Most likely, he just never grew. In his youth many of us tend to consider the opinions of friends last instance, however, most people, growing up, getting used to rely more on their own judgement. In men, this process may take more time (we all know that men are psychologically Mature slower than girls). Maybe your partner have not reached the same level of maturity as you? In this case you can wait a bit: what if in a year or two he will change. But, on the other hand, it is worth it to spend the best years waiting?

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