I am sure that this question is asked every man and every woman. What prevents good sex in the family? ALL!!! And the fact that yesterday helped. And although it is very difficult to clear everything up, but I'll try. So, in order. First. The fellowship. In my opinion, the main thing is common topics of conversation. It is very important that you say before, during and especially after. After all, women love with their ears, and this should be remembered. To think and speak. And the more the better. And the win-win theme - joint "good" the past. Especially women pleasant memories of the fine details of Dating, first impressions, first date.
I warn you, it's not as easy as it seems, because men are to love the little things are not as representatives of the weaker sex. I mean, what woman in any time of the day may all details to describe the event three years ago. And this ability should be used: slowly, gradually, bit by bit, to my favorite't guessed, to build a complete picture of the event. I, for example, could thus be restored in the memory day of exploring. And now, when we remember him both, one could speculate on what would have happened if... and come up with many options. Our story involves a long chain of coincidences that things really could be different.
First - I didn't go home for a student weekend. The second is made perfect order in the room. The third decided to bake a cake (the only one who knew how to cook). Only had to buy a pack of margarine, so I got dressed and went to the store. Still can't understand why among 20-25 people I saw her one. I passed, but her face remained before my eyes. Two hours wandering the shops. Returning, I saw again HER. She was talking on the phone. Never before and never after, I did what I did in that moment: I... pinched and moved on.
SHE did not even have time to react. Went to my room, I got dressed and lying on the bed, turned on the TV. Someone knocked on the door and on the usual "Yes" is entered. I was waiting for anyone else, but not HER. We talked until the morning. And there was NOTHING else, everything else happened then. But the basis of this "later" became the sleepless night, consisting of conversations. And today, we sometimes ask each other: "And try to talk until the morning? " And catch myself thinking that Yes, already weak.
And the reasons for this are many. One of the most important work.
Second. Work. The most difficult thing is to "build" the family (i.e. wife) to his work. For a very long time having to explain to the wife what you have in the office of the Secretary and girlfriend, and what they do. Not so easy to explain the causes of frequent delays at work and travel. But, as experience shows, to house all was well, not only do you need to devote husband in his business at work, but also to be aware of its interests and acquaintances. Only do not need to "pull" work in the family bedroom. Any psychologist will put on it is strictly taboo. So, to summarize: it is important to create what I want to talk about, and this "fact" should not touch.
Third. The conflicts.
Quarrels, scandals and omissions - the first enemy intimate harmony. And women are still able for a long time - days, weeks and months just to be silent... We are trying to discuss the cause of the quarrel. And, as a rule, it turns out that we offended because of different things. Everybody understands in his own way, added a couple of reasoning, and in the erected an insurmountable barrier grievances. And nothing but talk, this wall not to destroy. If your "playing coy" does not allow you to take the first step, try to submit your complaint to the leaves and to exchange them. "Pereverzev" information, you can sit down at the negotiating table". And the more you talk, the less problems.
Unfortunately, no matter how hard we tried, after a quarrel not always understand each other. Tried option: ten numbered notes hidden throughout the room, - "10 reasons that you love her". Under the pillow, sofa, chandelier and so on. When a spouse will find everything in capital letters it read: "I love you". Really after that, she will pout? And don't forget: the reconciliation should be moved to the bedroom!
Fourth. Children. Sometimes you have to put a lot of imagination and effort to be alone. I'm about the most expensive - about kids who Wake up at a very inopportune moment to drink some water, pot, because I dreamed something terrible. And then, as usual, flatly refuse to fall asleep quickly and without mom or dad. To fight this useless and inhumane. There are other methods.
The most common way - the "Grandmother's days." Grandparents, too, were young and, although sex was not, children became pregnant anyway. So I think that they might be persuaded once a week to take grandchildren "overnight".
Another method periodically practicing my friends. They are just renting a hotel room, while children spend the night nurse or someone from the family.
The third way is from my childhood. My friends and I loved going to visit, especially if we were allowed to spend the night there. Once the friend remains with us - next time I go to him. This "exchange of children" was as a reward. We were very well behaved, to perform tasks at home, otherwise, no nights! Now, when I became a father, I understand that, not letting me in, guests, parents punished himself no less than the son. Of course, this time is different, but in any case there will be family friends, whom you can entrust their children for the benefit of all.
Last. Laziness. About it very cool posted by A. P. Chekhov. If you are not lazy - find and read. For example, I know that the surprise in the form of perfectly pure bath increases chances of the "quality" of the evening, but you can do even without that, if anything, to prepare, to think of somewhere to go. Yes, it so happened that the initiator of all this in our family - I. This is my personal experience. Everybody has his own. No, I do not call to arrange your family mini-revolution, everything down to the base. But I think that you should always try to bring to life something new and interesting, because nothing kills the family relationships (including sexual), as the monotony of the routine. And, so you do not hear from the wife that massage is better than sex, it is necessary to think and work. And you will be happy.
Author:
Cherry R.
Source:
Men's Life
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