You fell in love, but somehow don't feel happy? Then it's time to think about how to get out of this cover, and return to normal life.This love breaks into your life like a tornado and you are no longer interested in the reality without Him. One sight of this man are you ready to give everything. Even if you are married. Even if it's wrong for you in the sons. No barriers, obstacles, moral standards you already didn't exist.
You console yourselves: it will pass. Laughing, telling friends: “Yes I am well I can without him.” When left alone, crying because cannot do without it. You understand that these relationships lead to nowhere. I know that he not hold a candle to your husband or boy-Frendo. However, you can still sit for hours near the phone and start each call: what if he is? You, as a detective Pro, catch him at the office, pretending that you have met by chance. You promise yourself: “This is the last time! ” And you know that you're lying. You become nervous and irritable: break on loved ones, crying over nothing. Do you feel that has driven itself into a corner from which it cannot escape. And he'd done nothing.
True love is constructive. She inspires and inspires. She pushes you to new achievements, filling the heart with warmth and joy. True love changes your life for the better. But if pain and suffering is the constant companion suddenly hit you sense it's time to think: where are you going? And what will happen?
Psychiatrists call this state of neurotic love. It is like a disease: being in love fog, you can't manage yourself, difficult to control their emotions and make rash actions. - A few sweet moments can be a neurosis, depression, insomnia, loss of faith in yourself. Take the first step to recovery: admit that you were involved in the dependency.
So, ask yourself the question-the litmus paper: what changes occurred in your life after meeting Him? If all that you can list with a minus sign (worsened relations with home, slack work or study, and there were problems with health, there is no personal growth, no longer interested in books, sports), honestly admit to yourself: you're trapped. For the beginning try to understand why it happened.
If you managed so much to fall in love, forgetting everything, it means that your life is missing something. Most likely, emotions and warmth (this is typical of female nature). Perhaps the thrill of good sex regardless of whether married or you don't. As a rule, strong passions vulnerable girls and women, tend to romanticize the reality. Separation and expectations, recognition and mental anguish - you subconsciously crave. At risk are those who have less fatherly love in childhood, or, on the contrary, was too spoiled by dad or older brother. In any case, a strong feeling you're trying to fill the void left in your soul.
At the age of 17 to suffer a little - okay, if you do not reach masochism. When you're 30, life happened, and at home waiting for her husband and children, everything is much more complicated. If you're a wise woman, you probably can turn love inappropriate for the benefit of himself and family. Now your task is to go from a state of passion, to take precedence over their emotions and to fill your life with something productive. First, promise yourself that no longer will try to snatch even a modicum of attention to the wrong entity to each of the next meeting will only further immerse you into the swamp of unrequited love. Give vent to emotions, cry a few days. And then pull yourself together and take it on themselves.
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