What in psychology is called the resistance, in the life looks like multiple unsuccessful attempts to lose weight

Psychological approach to the problem of overweight is increasingly mentioned in the articles and books used in combination with other, more conventional methods. For someone it can be precisely the resource, which was lacking for attaining the desired goal. The article was written based on the materials of my own experience of psychological work with clients. This article uses material from the Internet.

Why do so many people remain full, well-fed, large, nezumi to lose weight, despite all the achievements of science and effort?

To begin with, what in psychology is called resistance, but in real life looks like multiple unsuccessful attempts to lose weight.

Full the woman who is looking for any diet, any new method, tries one thing after another for 3-4 days and then proudly tells her friends that no way she is not suitable. Eric Berne called this game the "Why not...? "Yes, but". In short, when meeting with such people the impression that they want not to lose weight, but just to prove that all of these methods or a charlatan, or for some reason not good enough for them. These customers typically set themselves unattainable goals and compare with the ideals of beauty and harmony.

Another common way of avoiding responsibility - it's all kinds of references to objective patterns of weight gain. Here are a few options:

• I'm nervous, stress,


• this is my hereditary, hormonal,


• I got this from my sedentary lifestyle, work,


• it's all endless holidays,


• this is my mother-in-law was gorge, etc.

This method is to transfer the responsibility for their excess weight to the other, of course, makes it difficult to control my eating, physical activity, and therefore weight. Although the words the client really wants to lose weight. In psychology this duality is called Internal conflict:

One gets the impression that one part of such a person wants to lose weight, but the other desperately resists this tendency. Usually we are familiar with that part (a subpersonality) that wants to lose weight. It says, Train, sit on a diet, and criticizes, blames: again, you got fat, you disgusting to watch, etc.

But we are not familiar with the second part, with the part of personality that criticize, condemn and reject. She in protest overeat, escaping out of control, out of diets and throws a workout. Will have a closer look, and even to make friends and cooperate with this stranger inside of itself is a very important resource of psychological work with excess weight. The conflict between Mind (he's a Supervisor, Trainer, Nutritionist, Tyrant, the Image of the perfect body...) on the one hand and the Body (Fat, Cellulite, Lazy, Glutton, Sacrifice...) incite and support the media industry slimming, beauty salons and fitness clubs. You already guess which side they fight?

From the point of view of psychology in this war will not be the winner. It is not possible for one part of itself to destroy the other. Suppressing the appetite, overloading training and putting plastic surgery, you can only change the appearance, leaving the inside of suppressed feelings and needs. One can understand them, drawing attention to the Body, on the "unhealthy behavior" and "irregular appearance which so want to get rid of forever.

Why our body has weight, and protects it resists losing weight?

Let's try to determine what positive give people an excess of body, exactly why are they going to refuse. These benefits a person receives subconsciously or so non-verbally conveys to others important information about yourself.

1. The weighting body subconsciously associated with the stability, credibility of the person. "Man, who can be relied upon".

2. The broad boundaries of the physical body take away from people, create psychological distance, unattractive rid of unwanted communication. Unconsciously fatty tissue can be felt by our body as protection from the dangers of the outside world. This, in fact, may explain the increased appetite for stress.

3. Weight as a sign of loss of attractiveness may be may be acceptable for women to justify loneliness. Or, conversely, may be a subconscious protection from jealousy of her husband, protection from excessive attention of men. The woman seems to be saying with their appearance, "I correct, you have nothing to worry about".

4. In weight loss the client may find an occupation for life, Hobbies, encouraged by society and the media. It happens, if not necessary to work, the children have grown up and no place to put your energy. It appears the enemy, which must ever fight, interesting case, commonality with other slimming.

5. For our subconscious overweight, weight may be associated with internal completeness, fullness of life, to recover literally understood as "be right" and to lose weight to become thin and poor.

Benefits of excess weight usually are not recognized, but subconsciously the body prefers them so well-known benefits of harmony. Realizing what truly wants our body and the subconscious mind, you can try to achieve this in other ways.

Conclusion: We have discussed a few of the many possible views on the psychological possibilities of weight reduction. If any of the above appeals to You, there is a sense with this work: independently or individually with a psychologist or support group. Psychological work is to understand their own reactions, feelings, habits, behavior, experiments on the search for and selection of new...It may be more superficial and short pay, may be more deep, long and regular. The choice is yours. Good luck!

Author:

Sotnichenko Elena


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