Children jealousy

For many families who just had a second child are familiar with the problem child of jealousy. And, as practice shows, are equally affected as little children, and adolescents. Only the latter jealousy, often does not manifest itself openly, and becomes a cause of aggression, unwillingness to listen to parents, runaways from home, etc.

Naturally, equally divide their attention between children, especially when one of them really tiny, no one's parents. But to let things take its course impossible. And here the question arises, how to deal with a child's jealousy?

First of all, is to prepare in advance of the first child to the appearance of his sister or brother. To tell my firstborn about how fun it is to play and to walk with the baby not worth it, because in the first months it is impossible. Better emphasize the helplessness of the baby, its based on an older child. Let your firstborn will feel important, however, and particularly to load it cares about the kid is also not necessary.

Give the child attention during pregnancy, do not neglect communion with him, do not send to live, for example, my grandmother. Let the child feels that they are necessary and important for you. Ideally will include it also in the process of preparing for the birth of a little - let you design, how to decorate a room, what clothes and toys to buy.

Problems usually start after the birth of the youngest child, and here you should try to behave correctly not to provoke conflict and jealousy. Do not ask an older child, so that he constantly talked about his love for the younger, more likely it until it feels. Wait, it is not necessary to put pressure on him.

In addition, an effective approach is one in which for each of the children have their own privileges, but to equalize their rights cannot. And exactly the same can not in which case to compare children with each other. Just love them both and don't let your kids forget about it.

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