9 months of pregnancy is a period of absolute uncertainty. No matter how nice and smooth it was not the anticipation of the baby, from the issues will not go away. Him if the order? How will the baby? I will be a mother? And many others. The farther, the more persistently they are spinning in my head and scare.When I was not yet a mother, one friend told me that from the sixth month of pregnancy, she began to suffer from insomnia. And not because she felt bad or could not find a comfortable position in bed. In fact, closer to three hours a night on it was catching episodes of mad panic. It seemed to her that the baby something happens. Or with her something happens. Eventually, she woke the poor husband, who, by the way, during the day he worked, and tearfully begged him to bring her to the air. Only after walking closer to hours to five she fell asleep. Then it was strange to hear it, and I was very sorry for her husband - he after walking began to gather to work...
But what was my surprise when, on the sixth month of pregnancy I lost sleep. Head lez wild thoughts that the child could see the pathology. Or that I won't be able to be delivered. And another million any horror stories. My husband and I, however, didn't Wake. But, it seems that the period has completely passed the night: slept during the day, at night, read, listened to music, watched a movie-not-about-children and unsuccessfully tried to prove to herself that adequate adult educated woman should not shake from some far-fetched fears. And still shaking. Finally, exhausted, I went to a psychologist, and at the same time discussed the situation with your doctor.
What a relief it was to know that almost all pregnant women experience such fears mean, I'm all right and I'm not crazy! Here are the five most common fears that torment mothers-to-be:
If the child is "something wrong"?
Looking at the screen of the ultrasound machine, we harmless joke about the allotted amount of fingers at the kid. But actually anxiously peering at the monitor, trying to understand him if in order. The neighbor's child has down syndrome. Baby girlfriend started talking closer to three years. And my friend's mother in the family misfortune - the child is mentally retarded and 15 years developed only 6. How can you not be a cause for panic?
PEACE!
Trust us, and if you want, ask your doctor. Over the last decade, medicine has gone so far ahead that serious pathology detected at the earliest possible time. If your baby something threatened, you would have already knew about it! For the months of pregnancy you will make so many tests that it is simply impossible to miss something important.
You feel even safer, make a three-dimensional ultrasound and ask for a detailed breakdown of all the information that the doctor will be able to "read" from the monitor. As soon as you start worrying, reread and make sure that everything is in order.
How will the baby?
Fear of childbirth develops as fouling pregnant friends. Girlfriend girlfriend gave birth three days, the neighbor turns in female consultations friend screamed at birth, then three days couldn't talk... How many more of these tales you will hear!
PEACE!
The fear, as you know, big eyes. And collective fear they are about the size of the clock on the Spassky tower. Try to protect yourself from idle talk about childbirth - they don't need. Giving birth is a natural physiological process. Your body knows what to do, it is inherent in his nature. Courses will teach you to manage this knowledge. And with modern methods of anesthesia delivery and not the most difficult thing. At one time, when I felt the contractions, then said to myself: "Well, now there is no choice, and therefore face! " So it happened. Often remember that fear is inevitable unproductive. Afraid or not, but time will come and the light will be your baby. When clearly realize that the trend cannot be turned, fear recedes.
I'll be a good mom?
Suddenly my maternal instinct I fail? Or will you come postpartum depression? Or I can't raise a child properly? And not be able to love?
PEACE!
We could reliably answer your question, if someone could say with certainty, and what it means to be a good mother? That's the kind of mother can be considered poor - will tell everyone first. One that does not love his child, does not care about him. Do not feed, do not walk with him, abusing, not involved in its development. But can anyone tell me how much you want to love a child how to care for it to be a good mother? What is measured? The number of kisses? Time spent together? Refinement prepared meals and long walks? Or, can, price and number of toys?
Eminent psychologists argue about approaches to education, and teachers on approaches to development. And I can't agree. So one criterion, obviously, no. Just follow your heart. Love the kid, help him while he is helpless, do what you can to he was happy and healthy. More from you and is not required. And of course, you will be a good mother. Who, if not you?
I cope?
Child us "scare" from early youth. "Sleep-sleep for now, here is baby bear - will you have nedosypa". "Walk while young, that's the baby bear will nasalises home." Not to mention the classic "all my life you put, you know, how hard it is to raise a child?! ". Night feedings, daily walks at least 4 hours, wet cleaning. Colic, first teeth and night terrors... But there are the usual concerns like cooking husband dinners. How are you with all this get done?
PEACE!
Before the kids are really costly to parents: wash diapers, sleepless nights and the need to invent than to feed the baby, were companions for any mom. Now it offers a lot of useful inventions from diapers and a good baby food to blenders and fibrecrete. Moving the seat to allow freedom of movement, and home appliances facilitates farming. So about half of the problems faced by our parents, be solved by themselves. Well, then you don't need to take everything on yourself and try to become superseding and Supermeter. From the first days of life the baby involve the father of the family to help care for babies. Let him have regular duties to perform, for example, evening morning bathing and dressing, Sunday walk and putting on Fridays. This time is spent on a bath, a book, a movie, girlfriends, Yes just sleep. Then you would never think of saying to your child that grow it was a great feat.
What will happen to my life?
Many girls believe that life after the birth of a child changes so that about himself, about a harmonious relationship with her husband, career, friends, travel, night sorties in clubs and other pleasures you can forget forever. Because of this, they postpone the birth of a baby from year to year, and when are all the same at the completion of the family, in advance depressed, believing that their own life has ended...
PEACE!
Your life will certainly change after the birth of the child. But what will she decide only you. You can lock myself in the four walls and to walk no further than the nearest sandbox, can stop for a monitor, my beloved, to disperse friends and on vacation not to go farther than villas. But... and here is your baby? In any European airport you will see dozens of couples who are traveling with children. In any office there are young purposeful mom, who, after serving two years in the decree, continue to love. And so to put themselves in order and look after the delivery much better than you no one will interfere. Only need the attitude and the desire to live a full life. And again, understanding that the child is not a burden or load, as just another person, which, however, initially helpless and needs your help. And, of course, love. Then motherhood will bring only joy, and this is definitely in your hands.
And finally: live on the earth a few billion people. All of them someone begot and raised. And so you, too, will do, and all will be well!
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