Modern man lives more in the field of culture, rather than in the field of nature, even in a "physiological" area of sexuality. It is culture that defines the system of landmarks, signs, a certain semantic field in which it exists. Sexual behavior, the notion of norm and pathology, preferences, elections, the so-called sexual taste, behavioral acts - all this greatly motivated by culture.
This convinced the doctor of medical Sciences, Professor, rector of the Institute of psychology and sexology lion goldfinches.
Shagreen forbidden
This trend is very clearly illustrates the thesis of academician Dmitry Likhachev in relation to culture in General, voiced in the late twentieth century: "Modern culture is first and foremost characterized by narrowing of the forbidden". Then you can go assessment: what it's good in something bad... that the narrowing of the forbidden gave our people a chance to talk about their erotic experiences and consider them quite natural, normal, is a definite plus: silent Soviet society began to speak. What this leads to the disappearance of the concept of pathology, is definitely bad. I already faced with genuine amazement 20 years, when the reception to inform them that sexual attraction to women or real and not a game of bdsm is pathology: "As you are the modern man, and even a specialist, what is pathology?! "
Polarization and individualization
Before sexual scenarios was from the power of three: the husband and wife, secret lovers, komandirovochnaja meeting. The second and third scenario, the Soviet society was condemned. Today only motifs of sex, there are about fifteen, it could be the assertion, and the reaction imitation, and self-esteem.
The change of values
In recent years the number of divorces is growing rapidly, so some experts have begun to argue that the institution of marriage has become obsolete and it's time to honestly, without hypocritical gesture, show the truth: the stamps in the passport is no longer needed, and in relation to possible child can enter into special contracts. My point: the institution of marriage will not go away, just now we are in a period when many completely unnoticed changed the intrinsic value of marriage is what he actually is.
And this in history, it happened many times already. Once the marriage is pursued purely political goals: the tribe must live in peace with other tribes, neighboring Principality don't want intestine wars. There were times when marriage was focused only on the material and the matter was decided by the parents. Individual choice is generally a question of the last century and a half, if we talk about the European community, it is very recent history, but we are not very aware of this report.
That is why the situation described in the world literature, where the marriage was the result of love, not a tool for achieving other goals set by parents, priests, or politicians - end tragically. Where love is there betrayal, blood, death, betrayal. The first civilized war - Trojan - because of the lovely Helen, Quasimodo goes to the corpse of Esmeralda, Romeo and Juliet, too good not finished.
So, the value of marriage has changed more than once. And today we also live in a time when the traditional values on which stood a marriage last hundred years, and it's still four or five generations - that is why it seems to us that it was "always", - go. Someone, mostly young people in big cities, almost "moved" to new values, someone, mainly elderly people or living somewhere on the periphery, still focused on the old values. But the vast majority would be "transplanted" from one to the other, though horses in midstream and do not change. Drops a lot, alas, but life can't be stopped... and So the number of divorces in the near future will only grow. However, the institution of marriage is not going anywhere, just with time will change its orientation.
I would like to mention another interesting detail. The greatest value of marriage last - sexuality: I want to have regular sex get married or get married! Today it is not quite fastening value: public morality takes a sex life outside of marriage. Even older people are now safely say, "My 25-year-old daughter lives with a guy, rent an apartment. If they all will, marry". Thirty years ago, it was impossible to even imagine! My daughter?!! Without the Registrar's office with some type of lives?! Shame, shame, nightmare!
Such is the eternal youth
Even in the USSR and sculpted hard plaster of Komsomolec-athletes - "explicit" girls with a paddle, but it was not as good as today, rampant idolized youth, heavily drummed into the mass culture in the minds of the population, especially women. Now we are seeing a completely different behavioral reactions: delays-lift, liposuction, body shaping, "beauty injections". Cosmetologists, makeup artists and stylists twenty years ago there were exotic animals, their number today in our country is already comparable with the number of doctors and teachers. This all-consuming race for youth leads to many problems in women. When it comes time developing the so-called "complex of fear closing doors": supposedly one door you closed - appeal, another door is the interest of the opposite sex.
Anticipate objections: but isn't it always been? Absolutely not! In the ancient world age was considered a remarkable period: you have succeeded, the students you heed, even Aristotle wrote about freedom from passions. In many cultures, praising the average age and youth are considered to be "so-so-period". We are mesmerized by the mass culture, believe that old age is generally time "on release". Therefore, the rapidly growing number of involutional depression, the essence of which is that the person begins to realize that he is already 50. The stress factor is the feeling of the age, which, alas, is not young. In sexual behavior that leads to what used to be seen as the beginning of a mental illness, when, for example, 40-year-old woman actively Molodets that this is a psychiatric hue. Or wealthy, in years, so-called "grandfather", and next always - thin, long-legged, on 20 cm long and twice as younger. It's like mark's car: he bought a product that emphasizes its status. The funny thing is that the vast majority of these men truly believe that it's just their personal sexual tastes. And really: how can like that for 40 and in which the proportions are not the same as in a glossy magazine? This is the "nafarshirovannye" culture, which I said in the beginning. Individual choice is not here, there is a set of stereotypes that are associated with the fact that youth is not just desirable: it is a cult, a deity to be worshiped and periodically sacrifice.
Remounting body
The next trend is associated with technological progress. Mankind has entered a very strange phase, when all is lost the notion of what is man. Modern medicine is able to replace joints, vessels, diseased bodies so that people actively lived on. And it's great! But in the realm of sexuality is fraught with great danger. For example, endotheliopathy - roughly speaking, is inserted into the male member of the special materials that make piloerection eternal: a man is ready to copulate at any moment of the day and night, you do not have any desire, any complex biochemical processes, signals that come from the brain. I know more than a dozen people from different areas of show business, which has made this surgery, even though I tried to dissuade them.
Today's man is more inclined not to delve deeper into himself, and to take and ReWire. This applies to quite pathological things, such as sex-change. Now medical centers, surgeons use these operations is absolutely not for those who need it. Even in Soviet times, experts have developed guidelines for such cases, was a complex procedure, requiring space in the hospital and serious examination, in order to begin to understand that before you really a true transsexual, and to give permission for the operation. Today you need only one thing - money. And help from a psychiatrist, which is issued after a 15-minute formal talks... How-to mistakes already made, how many lives broken and how many will be broken yet?
Sexual confusion
Transsexualism is a private manifestation of a more General trend: today gender roles democratic in principle. For Russia is very characteristic broad sweep of the pendulum: either the limit in one way or another. For example, Domostroy, when the woman was ordered to behave only in this way, and in any case no more "masculine" activities. Today, as women can behave like men, and Vice versa - men do not deny themselves the pleasure of constantly whining about how nothing can achieve in life.
Sex roles began a strong confusion. Even young children who undergo compulsory stage of discernment sex attributes: girl pigtails, boy - short hair, girl dress, boy pants. Today in children comes tremendous confusion, because even we adults can no longer from the back to understand who is both in jeans, both in sweaters, hair length is about the same, both smoke, he says, "fuck you..." and she said to him: "you went..." Symmetry behavior! There has never been a man and woman could be symmetrical, from primitive fire. Were male roles and attributes - clothing, hairstyle, spirits and were female... I can't say that this phenomenon is terrible, but that is a subject for reflection and serious scientific analysis - no doubt.
Women
The displacement of the centre of research with men on women in science is a very interesting phenomenon. In proceedings of the first USSR conference on sexology (late 70-ies) of the 30 articles in just one or two were "about something female". Then it became 10% 30-40%. Scientists became apparent that male sexuality is more linear, women also attracted researchers because it contains many surprises and discoveries. For example, amazing scientifically proven fact: today reduced the number anorgasmic women.
Serial monogamy
Another tendency of the sexual life of our "advanced" youth is called "serial monogamy". At one extreme the petty morality "one sexual partner for life", another full sexual promiscuity and the "bouquet" of sexually transmitted diseases. Here is the Golden mean: a man and a woman live together, but they don't cast the vulgar Comedy that "before you there was no one after you, nobody will". This fixes the word "series": both accept the rules of the game, understand that this series, some series were before you, and possibly, if we do not approach each other and will leave, will be another series. But within that we are faithful to each other. This behavior is observed in the intellectual, independent, modern young people. I think this is a very positive and promising phenomenon.
Sex with computer
Appeared conditional term "virtual sexual obsession". On the Internet, which can give feel close to the real, today many Teens realize their sexual impulses. This becomes a problem, and it will deepen. This is especially dangerous for teenagers and people with personality defects. Someone the computer does not "eat", but those who are compensated in this way, gradually lose their ability and desire to build close relationships in reality. The saddest thing in this situation is that parents she is satisfied only: not "shooting", well, sitting quietly at the monitor, the doorways are not staggering - that's nice.
Erotica boredom and sexaholism
According to recent statistics, nearly 5% of men and 35% of women aged 20 to 30 years make sex less than all other values in life - 5-6 place. For them a delicious dinner, socializing with friends and making money is more important in importance and "taste" shade. This trend has been called "erotic boredom".
In parallel, many people have compulsive sexual obsession, when the desire to satisfy sexual desires becomes the main, self-sufficient, like alcoholism and drug addiction. A sort of pseudo-Casanova and don Juan today. And this can be about a specific manifestation of compulsive obsession as one of the types of neurosis.
Erotica-replica
There is also a completely new form of erotic, which twenty years ago was not in sight. Infinite beauty contests, Striptease, erotic show, piercing, body art, peep shows, sex shops, phone sex, swing clubs, and so forth. This phenomenon in our society is quite new and very widely and rapidly spreading throughout all layers of society.
It is our children
According to the interior Ministry, over the last five years the number of criminal cases on paedophilic acts has increased seven times. And the number of registered cases of homosexual pedophilia ever castleway, either by force or somehow tricking a man commits sexual acts of any nature with a minor boy, has increased 129 times!
It is obvious that some of the identified trends are due to a complete absence of sexual education, education, education.
We have to admit that today neither the school nor the family as social institutions of personality in the formation of sexual culture does not work! The main source of information about sexual life for adolescents remain peers. The situation only worsened yellow-glamorous press and TV, and today for schoolchildren main "sexologists" is "House-2" and Anfisa Chekhova.
One young creation for advice tells me: "there Were three group sex, I didn't like". She even thought there is no that is not cool! And all this against the background of complete ignorance in matters of intimate hygiene. For example, birth control pills are taken on the advice of a friend, although today such an Arsenal of drugs that clear to all, who should appoint.
If we could, and wanted, you could make "environmental adventure": in many European countries, 15-year-old volunteers go into schools and informal groups of teenagers, sit them in a circle and tell them, for example, about AIDS. Why not run such a program in the field of sexual education in Russia? If our society will bespokoitsa, it's time to act!
Author:
Devyatova So
Source:
Our psychology
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