The reason for the authority
In the schooling behavior of animals, including people, always reveals the hierarchy, which scientists like to pay attention and make her colorful story movies. In the movies, as a rule, the voice-over says with undisguised pleasure - that's the dominant male shows their bodies or hits himself in the chest when it comes to primates. And why he became chief?
The reason the authority is in force, adaptability, learning rules, in the possession of knowledge, age and experience. Among people - of course, money or possess equivalent. Somehow now, in crisis, one businessman told me about the fall of the authorities: "It is particularly evident, as of the official, which was previously not fit, grows usual slimy". That is what had led to the domination has become a source of problems.
The main currency of the authority in the future will become natural values Yes belonging to particular networks and communities, some high position in such a network, even a virtual one.
How people cope with power over them
Once I read of Arnie Mindell about the fact that the inevitability of the authority to accept, realizing it. Authority in the Russian translation sounds like a grade - ability to be steeper than the other for reasons above and even in unusual situations - decision making, escalation of the conflict, in danger. Arnie psychologist is very gentle, not priemlemii violence, therefore, the authority recommends that "to realize". As it is, it is not reported, but are usually modern practical psychology recommends that "awareness" to start with their bodily sensations, then from observation of incoming thoughts and naming their feelings.
When I'm faced with authority, I feel a range of sensations. I worry that I have is red and warm skin. Occurs the total excitation, or, on the contrary, stops breathing. In General, the state of excitation, active breathing is the beginning of a productive perception and contact with your authority. With a sinking and the weakening of activity should compete - you can play the muscles, if they are, do some squats. Imagine, came to an important official of some kind of resolution. And sit down several times. And then talk about the reasons for his strange behavior: "Doc, I'm so excited... I really need this paper, I am really worried".
Transformational trick is not to avoid such contacts, they can pull you to the next social level. Of course, if you want it and not constrained by shame to be more successful, wealthier, or more than that now deserve.
Unproductive path in relations with authority to show its weakness: to be sharp, to raise your voice to make a few awkward movements. Dominant animals immediately feel it and will grow in its reach, and then simply ask out. Sometimes think of that relationship status - a social game for someone with established rules and the problem may only be that these rules are to assimilate or reject, as you seem more profitable. But not everything is so simple, there are situations in which you have to play, " says the youth, anyway.
Label professionalism
In relationship management, when it is necessary to obey and to fulfill someone else's will, there is a very painful component, which is not so easy to avoid, but. That it was invented by the managers? For this invented documents. Having a business plan or raspenava their time on paper or in a computer program, the person corporate partly coped with the experience of the relations of subordination. You yourself have compiled this plan, you obey only him, boss as if nothing. When escalating your boss or subordinate is going to rise or go to another company, all the illusions to survive during the time the same. Bright prospect. Yes, considering that in the modern world, earn money the same way harder then generally becomes sad. Professionalism - the ability to a particular kind of work with maximum effectiveness and efficiency - this is the way to gain credibility. Adhere the label yourself as a professional - and you will soon be deciding what to suppress, and which develop. Your will be.
Wrote the psychoanalyst Eric Fromm, the authority is not property, it is born and is valid in the relationship.
The last refuge or shelter from authorities - professionalism - not an empty word. At first it is annoying: it has some limits, austerity, austerity, austerity on emotions. But it's actually the second way to deal with authority in corporate life, and then become them. May God give you luck and such boss to pay attention to your progress and not afraid to be "overthrown". However, rarity?
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One of the ways to experience strong emotions is the relationship with the authority. I not only and not so much about the big age difference, but rather about the big difference in anything. The availability of senior status makes it susceptible person-oriented success, facilitates its own movement to a higher social status.
Now say more about what a person has to learn for themselves, mostly knowledge. Metanalysis - the so-called emotional intelligence, which is responsible for the successful management of people, for a higher status, authority, charisma, ability to subdue naturally, without pain is to learn only from their parents or mentors. The last - in a large deficit (people defend their position), if you happen to work or live in this., use their teacher.
Author:
E. Vlasov
Source:
Our psychology
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