It would be wrong to assume that it is enough to talk with about how him tomorrow to behave. Most of the information will simply evaporate from its memory after a few hours, and the child is nothing left to do, how to navigate by the circumstances.
To prepare schoolchildren
"Sticks-virusologii" for parents of children 8-10 years are fairy-tale therapy and play therapy. Games and fairy-tale characters are still very attractive for the younger student, and it must use.
"Games" option:
Ask the child: "let's play! I this game you know! ". Rare child will not respond to this call. Pick a few favorite toys. It can be dolls, plush animals, men from the designer, and even playing cards. The "main character" should be the most cute baby toy, one with him sex. It will symbolize your "beginner". Also need a "teacher", "new classmates" and "mom" (you can also "dad", "grandma", depending on how the important place they occupy in the child's life).
The first few times you play "hero". Try to keep in the game's plot is intertwined possible problems: children do not immediately talk with newcomers, and he had to start a conversation, etc. Draw, as the new first hesitated, and then realized that the guys are ready to make friends.
Let the "main character" will be the traits of your child: leader, whether he is a modest one, the bully.
Any game should end positively, and the problem, which was solved by "new" must be enabled.
Sooner or later the child will want to play for "main". Your task is to direct the game to give him guidance of correct behavior. Can be interrupted to discuss controversial issues. Play the game periodically during the summer, and in late August, you will only need to "Polish" all learned the final conversation.
"Fabulous" option:
Probably in the summer you will be in the way: train, car, plane. What to do? Of course, to invent a tale! You can offer a beginning, from which it will be clear that the point in the story will focus on "brand new".
Especially good story forest school, where each animal has its own personality. And who is like your child: hare, lion, wolf? Let the selected animal reflects his character. But the tale is a fairy tale: the hare can show their bravery, lion - respect for others, and the wolf - loyalty to friends.
Agree that each of you in turn comes up with only one sentence. As in the games option, you must be sure that the tale was stated and solved some problem.
Well, if you come up with some fairy tales, and the most successful record and ask the child to do the illustrations.
Playing and coming up with the plot, the child would live the time of entry into a new class. The more plays, the more of these "stays", and they occur in a safe child environment. So by the time nastojashego September newbie will not perceive this situation as new. This will allow him to feel more confident, and confidence is the key to success.
To prepare the adolescents
In adolescence foreground relationships with their peers, but because guys much pridirchivye perceived "outsiders." But no need to be afraid. If you have a trust relationship with a teenager, he will ask you many questions. And if not, you can involve him in an adult conversation with friends at a barbecue, going on vacation, the holiday table.
Discuss who remembered his first day of work. Tell us about her troubles in the first day at work, meeting with colleagues, and (necessarily! ) how gradually you won in the team the authority and the location of colleagues.
In casual conversation, tell us how you took the beginners in your class. The child will be an interesting look from the outside, even if it is only a listener.
In summer, you can send a child to camp, preferably in the first or second shift. This will give him the experience of adapting and communicating with new people.
However, if the teenager his vision of how to spend the summer, do not insist on the camp.
Do not think that at the end of August you put your child on a chair in front of him and say, "now I will tell you how to behave in the new class".
The teenager will likely be at this moment more important things to do or he will include pohrustite", as stated in one of the ads, and will miss your speech on deaf ears.
Therefore unobtrusive stories from his own experience during the summer is what you need.
And remember, if the transition to a new school care of a teenager, then he will look for information on this issue: friends, Internet, movies, books.
The question of whether you can trust the information received at various youth forums on the Internet remains open.
Actually, information is hard to call. But the teenager can thus learn how to say "brand new" in the class, what guys are paying attention, as his brothers in misfortune talk about their first days at school.
All this will give him useful food for thought. But in adolescence the child is quite capable of designing situations and play them in your head.
Rest assured, he will be able to find solutions to possible problems.
Well, if you can confidentially talk to a child to know that it excites and scares, to Express their opinions, give advice with respect to any decision.
Source:
The health of the schoolchild
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