Life experience tells me that if someone is all that stuff and produces a stimulating effect, only on ourselves, that is, on women. Well, except that the rebound - as excitement as any other emotion, contagious men.
Actually the recipe of sexuality in marriage with experience is much more difficult and requires a very extraordinary efforts. And psychological, and creative, and sensual. To achieve success only by candles impossible.
When a man wants a woman, no "light dinner" he will not wait to be eaten later. And if you lost to a certain lady - often to his own wife - sexual interest, no atmosphere, no new underwear, or even the Jack will not save the situation. Simply because the solution of the problem lies in the sphere of the ideal, not material. Simply put, in matters of love matter is secondary, the primary Spirit.
So what to do? We understand what evil spirit that prevent mutual manifestation of passion, settled in the family and how to replace it with good spirit.
The spirit of Blasphemy and the Spirit of Praise
Instead of hurry to go to bed, husband is watching TV until two o'clock in the morning or sitting on the Internet until the morning. And basically wants only one thing: that when he lay in bed, the wife is already asleep.
Why? Is it not because of how she thinks, her age has spoiled the shape of the breast and fucking cellulite has appeared in the most unexpected places? Yes he is nothing like that and not notice! But the fact that the nature of the wife's age has deteriorated irreversibly, not causing him the slightest doubt. She is silent and does not make him all sorts of claims only in a dream. The rest of the time devoted to the nagging on the subject that he does not know how to deal with teenage son that in recent months began to earn less, that does not find time to go with her to the store. And countless other claims. As if you can find a common language with long-haired young ham who behaves as the last selfish, as if one can manage in a crisis to earn more and to leave work early, when it posts! - to be able to get into some kind of supermarket.
In fairness it should be said that the wife of "zooming in" on her husband, primarily because of their female dissatisfaction, lack of attention. And the husband in response to her claims finally loses sexual attitude. It is a vicious circle. But women that are born to solve difficult tasks and to neutralize any conflicts. Also, do not forget that the offended man long in this condition will not last, will find someone to complain to, to vent the accumulated resentment. And not only them.
Therefore, the concern for harmony in bed - it's not sexy lingerie, and work on the relationship. The man needs to be praised. He right away looking for that woman that is ready to lift him over ourselves, which helps it look better.
The "glass half full" in family life - what "the doctor ordered". A wise woman on the news about lower income spouse, it is able to notice "wow, that crisis has not lost their jobs and continue to provide for his family". And relationship with his son adjusts the step-by-step, drawing the attention of her husband that he does it well: "it's very considerate of you not to Express dissatisfaction with his son at his friends." And to drag on forever occupied the head of the family in the store is the easiest method to stick: "you are well versed in the technique, dear, without your advice I would not venture to buy a dishwasher". Nothing complicated about it, and the man whose dignity and achieve notice, feels happy. And wants this happiness to share with his wife.
The spirit of Indifference and the Spirit of Empathy
Husband recently is home late, not talk about the work that goes dark and deeply immersed in itself. Not even trying to hug you, when he goes, finally, to bed, not to mention more.
Well, you can continue not to pay attention on the spouse or - even better - to move to another room, so he wouldn't put you to sleep when comes and goes. And even smarter to suspect him that he had a mistress and pre-configured for divorce. Mutual unspoken resentment really very soon it will. Especially because only a blind and deaf woman thinks about emerged on the horizon mistress, when it is obvious that her husband had problems. That started to change a man, by contrast, rarely looks dejected. He is attentive, gentle and sexy as ever.
Difficulties in life spouse need to learn to notice, even if he is silent about them, and in any case not to show his indifference. Not to show how much you don't wonder what is the meaning of life of a loved one. It is the spirit of indifference in the family leads to the absolute elimination of any sexuality.
The couple, whose interests lie in different spheres of life, hardly able to keep the original passion in bed. I'm not saying that if a woman, for example, works as an accountant, and her husband paints their marriage prepared fiasco. It's quite possible that this couple will live happily and with mutual understanding and support.
But if the spouse has no interest in the creations of man, and he, in turn, is not prepared to listen sympathetically to the story is a Thriller about the submission of the quarterly report, sexual harmony is doomed. The less attention we pay to each other, the more each of us wants to "get" him on the side. Gradually, the need to communicate at home fizzles and marriage, as is often the case in modern society, is transformed into a dummy. People continue to live together under one roof, but each their independent lives. Sexual including.
Strong and complete family is when two people want the same thing, when they have common views on life and a common goal. To educate children, build a house, create your own company or a brilliant work of art. And in fact, and in another, and the third involved the two. One plays the leading role, the second helps with positive emotions and the Council. Empathy is the Foundation of a strong and sensual quality of the relationship.
The spirit of Stagnation and the Spirit of Change
As strange as it sounds, it happens that everyone in the family well and understand, and support, and General purpose, and with respect to each other. And the sex was gone. To members of the opposite sex for both partners hypothetical desire is present, but to perform the conjugal duty doesn't want. And what we are in this debt, in fact, have not seen? Two pricope, three prilop - that's all, as a long-routine and known in advance custom.
The spirit of stagnation in the family to eradicate difficult of all, because he creeps quietly and firmly holds its position. No offense spouses, no scandals, no hatred. But the bed somehow went about tenth - after children, work, houses, villas, cars and so on plan. And it's like that old joke: "my wife how many times love? - Twice. And You again like more? Who in the summer! "
What can you do? After all, sex in family and in a good mood, and strengthen feelings, and prevention of many diseases. It is important not to force yourself or partner to have sex through force, and to make back the desire. Easy to say! But it is no accident that we are talking about the Spirit of Change.
Put on time out the door all households and join together in moving furniture in the apartment is a joint work brings, and creative efforts that somewhere contribute to the excitation. Send the children to the grandmother and the two go on vacation in the country, which had long dreamed of. And to hell with them, with the money - you can never have enough harmony in the family is much more important.
At least think about the children: they are at the level of the subconscious feel, love each other, parents or not. And if you love, basking in happiness. Do whatever your family life has moved on - sell to new sports, go to concerts, so you can write each other poems, change apartments and lifestyle. The more new experiences you will get from her husband for two, the more will be your sex life.
Most importantly, forget about laziness and not be afraid of the spirit of change. Because in the long and reliable marriage desire for each other is not a physiological condition, it is a state of mind.
Author:
Mashkov D.
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
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