But suppose the elder agreed, and parents are confident that he is quite responsible and will cope. To prepare for such testing should not only young teacher, but also his ward. It all repeatedly to discuss, answer all the questions of the children, to establish what is possible and what is not and why, to plan activities during the day (watch a movie, eat, play) and be sure to verify that both senior and Junior understood.
If the mother leaves the apartment, suddenly shout: "Masha! Amid an hour for Vanka! "the consequences of such frivolity difficult to predict. Children left home alone, many dangers lurking: hot kettle, sockets, open window... But on the street dangers even more: the machine, open the hatches, suspicious people. Yes and in the country in a prominent place can lay the axe or stand in a barrel of water, where the children can dive.
All these dangers you need to speak with children, not only before your absence, but every day, in the process of communication. The child should get used to that a Cup of hot tea can be put on the edge of the table and the door should be opened carefully so as not to hit and not pinch.
The degree of responsibility
Adult and elder brother-schoolboy watching a small child differently. Adult is aware that the child because of their age still has a lot he doesn't understand. Therefore, even if the kid says "I", then it cannot be understood literally. For example, five-year child cannot allow to cook on the stove porridge, even if he really wants. And brother-teen will quietly! Adult foresee the risk, so in time will lead the child from dangerous places taken away from him a sharp or hot object. But my older sisters Schoolgirls intuition may not work, because she has no life experience. In addition, the adult child obeys, and brother or sister is not always the case.
When parents leave two children alone at home, guys often "break the chain". They take what parents they are not allowed out on the streets and go (and sometimes drive) where adults they will never let go. All this is kept in the strictest confidence and perceived by children as an adventure.
Curiously, one child, abandoned houses, is more obedient than two children, which are often daring each other, having decided to do something forbidden.
Therefore, before you can assign an older child to care for the younger ones, need to seriously prepare for this difficult situation. Here are the rules to keep in mind.
You can't do it
You can't trust a baby who has not reached another four years. Why? Babies often need to feed and wash, to constantly make sure that they are not dropped, not turned over a face in the pillow and so on, All this is difficult for the senior.
As for children 1-2 years old, they have to constantly walk on the heels. They can climb on a chair and fall with him, they all pull in her mouth, snatch adults dangerous things. With them even parents cannot relax even for a minute, not that the older child!
And finally, in three years comes first age crisis, when the child becomes terribly naughty and capricious. Hardly a brother or sister will be able to deal with it.
You can, but carefully
With four years younger kids sometimes can be trusted older brothers and sisters. But here we must observe safety precautions. We can distinguish three levels of care older child about the younger:just the presence, the obligation to feed, walk.
The first level. The mere presence
This type of care is possible when parents leave the children for a short time and the youngest child is able to entertain themselves. When the youngest child must be calm and reasonable, not prone to extreme actions, otherwise it is better to entrust adult.
From an older child, it is only required his presence in the apartment that Junior was not afraid. Of course, if he wants to play with the younger is fine, but if not, let them mind their own business. If the kid asks for something, the senior should help.
Of course, it is necessary to hold both children talk about the rules of the house without parents. Senior should know that it is dangerous for younger and younger - which is dangerous for yourself, and most importantly, why it is dangerous. It is necessary to consider what contingencies may arise. Children should know where to call and how to give first aid each other in case of injury. At hand must be adhesive tape, bandages, iodine, brilliant green, hydrogen peroxide, wipes, cotton swabs.
At what age can parents allow children to remain one? Limit age limit: not older less than 10 years younger not less than 6 years. On the age of the children extendible: 12 senior Junior 5 senior 14 - Junior 4. And this is understandable: the younger the child, the older must be his patron. Of course, it all depends on the individual characteristics of children. Someone may be 9 years old, very responsible, and someone in 16 itself needs to nurse.
The second level. Lunch without adults
Sometimes parents are forced to leave their children for a long time, which means that the children must dine alone.
As well, that in our time there is a remarkable technical device is a microwave oven. If the mother prepared lunch, the eldest child does not even need to turn on the stove. The main thing is that he knew what time to put in the microwave for certain products.
The meals should be more or less the same as usual, in order to avoid difficulties with warming. Different experimental dishes parents should serve only themselves. If adults want to assign an older child such a complex event as lunch with Junior, it is desirable that the young teacher was not less than twelve years. I know there are mothers who boast: "My daughter was seven years old she prepares and brother feeds! " Yes, probably there are unique children, but, as a rule, these culinary experiences are associated with greater risk. So do not heaping on children adult responsibilities, once again to show off to friends. Safety first!
The kid, of course, can help senior in preparation for dinner. However, an older child should know, what responsibilities he may pass on to the shoulders of his little brother (sister), and which in no case. For example, an adult child should not trust younger knife and should not allow it to boiling the kettle.
The third level. Walk without adults
I can't help but to tell the story from his own childhood. I was fifteen years old when I visited grandma from the province with two granddaughters - my first cousins five and nine years. For some reason I could trust to take children to the Red square. Now I am horrified to think about how adults were frivolous.
We went to subway. I did everything: holding babies hand on the escalator, opened the door in front of them. But suddenly on the platform of the girls seemed to have broken loose: they had a fight! Junior pushed the eldest in the stomach, and the elder gave her delivery, so much so that the girl almost fell off the platform. I barely had time to catch it. I'm sure the children would not have been assailed, if adults were near.
Walking is the most difficult of all events that can be trusted oldest child. Moreover, you need to dress for the weather and dress younger, so we still have to follow the rules of safe behavior.
Parents should check with the children many questions. Where will the walk? How much time it will take? Senior must closely monitor the youngest, do not put it on dangerous buildings in the courtyard, hold his hand, even when they cross a small road in front of the house. He under no circumstances should not leave the younger one, to be distracted by friends or even on something.
School textbook basics of life safety in this case will be useful as ever! Parents should not only read to his children, but together with them to work out the rules of behavior on the ground. Here's a deserted courtyard. We can't stay, you have to be there, where there are parents with children. Here is the entrance to the staircase. Behind you is a stranger. You cannot sit with him in the Elevator, it is better from the entrance go right, and she said, "Oh, I almost forgot the ball! " You cannot come close to the roadway, walk along the curb. If the machine is trying to slow down the next, it is necessary to quickly step aside. You cannot enter into conversations with strangers. In General, many rules, and children should not only know them in theory, but also to observe.
Allow the older child to walk with younger can be no earlier than fourteen years. Of course, we are talking about cities, in the villages the children out on the street freely, but they need to stay close to home and to avoid cows and other animals, as well as operating agricultural machinery.
Care inherited
How to teach an older child to be responsible? Mom and dad should know: senior behaves younger as parents behave with it or how to behave, when he was a kid. You should show your son or daughter, how do you like them as you spend time with them. If the teenager will feel that you are more like the youngest, and use it as a nanny or housekeeper, he can rebel. It is very important to know that parents appreciate his personality, his interests, and not only economic skills.
Author:
Gum Yu
Source:
At the Desk
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