Even if the Natalia Starostin had to report to the scene, nothing indecent to it was not. As it turned out, the wedding night is not what people thinkSeveral centuries in Russia there was a fun ceremony the wedding night, which is traditionally held at the house of the groom's parents. Bed Suite on rye sheaves, poker, pans and filled with hay mattresses were preparing girls postelnicu. Their role was played matchmakers, sisters and friends of the newlyweds. After feasting on the improvised bed confused a couple accompanied by specially-trained friend. And to whet the bride and groom, the guests sang after them obscene ditties. During intercourse annoying friend overheard-was peeping under the door and the first told people about what happened. Then lawful spouse brought into the hall, where drunken guests podsazhivali flushed (whether from shyness or the "work done") honeymooners and strongly giggling over them.
Much harsher held a ceremony in India, and Albania, where the bride three nights proudly defended their innocence and strongly resisted the attempts of man to achieve intimacy, thus emphasizing its own purity and chastity.
In Spain, the guests were fooling around in full and on the way to the marriage bed was mending a pair of all sorts of obstacles - connected newlyweds ropes and even harness them to a plow.
Sexual revolutionaries and the most relaxed brides in ancient times were the Swedes. Perhaps the only Europeans, for whom the purity of the bride was considered an obvious defect. Young Swedish girls are often married pregnant that was considered to be conclusive evidence of the ability of the couple to have children.
Gradually worldwide conventions, rituals and traditions associated with the wedding night, was extinct as the dinosaurs. Even in the remote African tribes in the first wedding night nobody pounding groom sticks to tame his temper. And in Japan it is not necessary to give young wife-edged sword (as it was taken just fifty years ago), he will be more happy with the new gadget.
Yes and what I can do if for a happy marriage the modern bride a virgin to be not necessarily. And anyway, what kind of "first" nights can be discussed, if current global trends before marriage lovers for several years, living together.
To find out than in the first wedding night, are a modern couple, it seems we have used all possible resources. We wrote letters to friends, we climbed all the women's forums and groups in social networks, stuck with questions to familiar, unfamiliar and total strangers. Now and then someone from the editorial staff asked couples on the phone: "Sorry for the juicy question, what were you doing the night after the wedding? " Having received dozens of funny, sad and shy answers, we came to the conclusion, Cosmo the phrase "wedding night" today is obsolete or, at best, was transformed into "the first marriage morning".
Waiting for a miracle
In the fitting shop underwear Katya wondered, as will replace noble maiden name Obolenskaya and will become part of her husband's clan Volkov. All was ready. Dress sewn in Italy, the shoes are purchased at the dance club, veil, following ancestral traditions, inherited from my grandmother. According to her ideas about the "right bride", the final conversion Obolenskaya Volkov was going to happen in the room Bridal expensive capital of. And the only thing yet lacked Katusha for "reincarnation", this is a decent set of clothes, to her future spouse novel (five years tried to escape the stamp in the passport) completely lost my head. For my entreaties to choose something classic and romantic - lace peignoir, for example, Katusha called me a nerd and once again convinced myself that vulgar kit - transparent corset and panties with an open crotch and ass" - you need to take. "He's just not do-re-al-s'", - syllable said she first saw the ugliness cream-colored, and even a little shed tears of happiness, just as when the first fitting wore a wedding dress. In contrast to the lush and rich wedding dress "option" for the wedding night did not leave any trace on the chastity of the bride.
In the shop I have stated Katusha essence of my journalistic investigation, the practical part which entirely trust her. Everything is simple: after the wedding night, she followed without reserve to tell me that after all there was. Winged and naked bride not in the least doubted the success of the event and the effect, which should make her outfit for the groom, and report to me. That evening Katusha talked about our plans for the future spouse. "It will be a very interesting investigation! " - wink at Katusha, he stated. It was really interesting.
"It's all nerves, nerves, nerves again! " - while nervous, told Katya Volkova two days after the ill-fated night. "The money we have considered. All took control of the mother-in-law. Lost relatives didn't. They also grazed mother-in-law. In the honeymoon we're leaving in a week, so no misunderstandings in the plane was not. But something happened that we couldn't wait! Rum than was poisoned in the restaurant and spent the whole night in the toilet! And I had no choice as to pick out the figure and pull out the hundreds of pins from the head and go to sleep. One! " - once again wept Katusha. Presentation of the bride's outfit had to be postponed until better times.
Case Volkova-Obolenskaya quite textbook. Numerous women's forums on the Internet such stories are often hidden under the theme of "the wedding night". "My husband believed the money, and what we need to do, we started later... and not even the next day," one of the most popular options.
A large part of the interviewed couples on their wedding night, exhausted fell asleep. "We plopped down on the bed and began to talk and share experiences. Even undress forces was not, therefore, fell asleep in formal attire in an embrace. It was very touching and cute" - describes the wedding experience another modern Russian bride.
In the fight against postsvideo fatigue not help even feminine wiles and most romantic ideas. "My best friend was preparing for the wedding night. With her husband they have several years of living together, regular sex groom was not surprising. And she wanted this night was special. A few weeks before the wedding, she went to dance class on Striptease. Although performance has made her husband a pleasant and exciting impression, at the end of the "rooms" are both so tired, fell asleep together on the couch. To prepared the bed in rose petals were just crawl".
Happy family sleep - not a bad option to spend their wedding night, importantly, together. Indeed, in most cases, this intimate process for some reason decide to "cling" to the assembled guests (come immediately to mind ancient groomsman).
"To me the whole night she was told what and how to feed my husband," complained in "Vkontakte" my former classmate. "My husband with a witness to three hours of the night drunk in the kitchen," he sent a short message to a friend from Vladivostok.
On his page on LiveJournal bride from a small provincial town talked about how along with the groom, they tried first to slip up with your own feast. "We are happy, raced home, but very soon we caught up with witnesses, demanding the continuation of the Banquet. Soon they were joined by my aunt with her husband. Then the parents came. The stream of guests did not stop. Some were looking for lost things, others without asking unwrapped gifts. And all this in a small one bedroom apartment! First, we even had to sleep in different places," lamented the bride. "Must get married on the orphan! "in the hearts of on-MHP exclaimed her husband and grabbed up the phone to book a hotel room. But it turned out that the last Suite in the city also occupied their guests. On the verge of a nervous breakdown husband dragged his wife into the bathroom.
Aircraft-ships
Confirmation of our conjectures we found on the website www.elle.EN, where on the forum posted the special theme "wedding night". One of the readers Kasia has shared his story: "I though twice married, but the wedding night I was never. All the time was the second. Apparently, because in both cases, flew off on their honeymoon the next day. After the first "student" wedding early in the morning I flew to the "student" Sharm El-Sheikh. I remember that I had to get up at 5 am and went to bed 3. I even hairstyle is not analyzed - flowers only took. At the airport Domodedovo some girls looked at me with astonishment, at 9 am in the queue for registration is the girl with the evening laying. After the second wedding the next day we flew to Tahiti. The fun ended at 5 a.m. to 7 assorted gifts and mentally was Frank. Fly had a stopover in Tokyo. Prostasis 9 hours in a giant Japanese Narita airport, we finally got on the plane. Rose in the sky, held there for a half hour and then got back in the plane there was some breakage. It was very unpleasant to urgently return - this time, to sit on a runway surrounded by fire engines and tuples ambulance is two, and do all this in the beginning of a new family life and the honeymoon is three. In the end we had to spend in Tokyo one night, while they were eliminated problems. Reason to fly we could only on the same plane. In the end, instead of comfortably watch TV in the salon business class, looking forward to the honeymoon Bungalow on the water, we were in a terrible microsomes in a hotel near the airport. To our delight in the hotel was good bar. And a comfortable bed. Well we decided: why pull up to the Bungalow? 'll take "romantic" here. And arranged. "
Many newlyweds carries much less. Kostya and Marina and had spent half a cherished night in the taxi, trying to catch the train in Sochi, which was late due to an extended fun. "When we did, it turned out that the neighbor coupe took one of the redeemed us lower shelves. To Wake the snoring man and change linens strength just wasn't there, so my husband climbed on top, and I'm exhausted fell asleep at the bottom", - says Marina.
Sleeping with the enemy
For some couples, the wedding night, and even turns into a serious relationship test. "All night we argued and even fought, the marriage broke up, slept in different rooms with the idea of divorce, and one in the morning, I flew to the city where we planned to spend the honeymoon, without going into the details of the quarrel, recalls a participant of the forum.
One of my friends had even worse. Having returned home, together with her husband they decided to watch the wedding video. Already at the end of the movie on one of the frames of the universal dance, the bride suddenly saw the newly-made husband kissing one of her girlfriends. In the groom immediately flew beautifully packaged gifts or pieces of the marriage certificate, and the last traces of festive makeup washed away by a flood of tears. First wedding night disconsolate bride spent at parents. To convince the wife in the rashness of his drunken act and to persuade her to go to the newly formed family my husband managed only a few days. A couple of weeks left on the restoration of the torn document. Four years later the husband had already gone to another. It seems that in this case, you can paraphrase the famous expression: "celebrate the night of their marriage and family life will". However, this does not mean that those who spent the night at the station, waiting for the eternal wanderings, and counting money promises an easy life. But still there is something to think about.
Author:
Starostina, N.
Source:
Elle
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