How to overcome the crisis in relations

Of course, when it comes to family, you need to remember that the responsibility for the relationship lies on both spouses. Cannot be guided only by your own emotions. It is important to know exactly what he thinks and feels your husband. Ask him! You used to think that you know everything about him, so many years together. But this is the main mistake. In fact, only your husband can talk about their feelings, experiences and fears. Many wives are afraid to ask such questions in their halves because you might not get the answer you want to hear. But only knowing the answer, you will be able to change the situation.


Deciding on probably the first peace talk with your spouse, you already make a step towards each other, step to the restoration of harmony in the family. It is important that the man took a step towards you, shared his feelings.




Oddly enough, this conversation between the spouses sometimes lead to unexpected results. It turns out that in the crisis remains only one of the spouses, the second quite happy and does not feel the need for change. Perhaps it's just your situation? In this case we are not dealing with a relationship crisis, and a crisis of identity.




Want "spiritual conversations, revelations, romance, mad passion", which was not between you and your man. But have you ever thought, so if you need it in your relationship? The romance is beautiful in the novels. In the real world "passion" often destroy relationships than unite people.




To cope with boredom, you can, paying attention to their own interests. If you find a deal like that to miss it is not necessary. After some time you will see changes in myself, and, quite possibly, will arouse the interest of her husband, to make him look at you in a new way and make a fresh breath in your family life. Remember that you are responsible for your own mind, your own happiness and well-being. Even despite the fact that by marrying you, your spouse promised to make you happy. His responsibility in this matter is reduced to a minimum, not intentionally to cause you trouble.




Always first look for the cause of dissatisfaction with the relationship in itself. Ask yourself what you want, and how can this be achieved? Do not try to lay blame in that family happiness is stalled, remember: someone must take the first step towards unification. But in any case do not take responsibility for saving the relationship. Learn to divide it equally.




To overcome the difficulties together brings people together, gives a common goal. Perhaps now you've lost the need to fight and felt loneliness - satellite external well-being, when at first glance everything is good, but an emptiness in the soul, and it seems that the man who lives next to you, every day becomes more and more strange.




Try to think about what you lack to get the desired proximity. The basis of the family trust. If something prevents you from being fully open to the husband, then, of course, this will affect your feelings for him and your relationship with him.

Betrayal can destroy the relationship in an instant. But most relationships break up gradually: every day spouses are increasingly alienated from each other, no longer share the news or feelings, and just talking about life, stop kiss, cuddle, have sex and become neighbors, leading a joint household, but living in different worlds. Think about how much you value your husband, is it really that important for you, saving relationship with this man. Or you stay with him, because for some reason are afraid to start a new relationship? Be honest with yourself.


Analyze and try to recreate in my soul the feelings that he felt for him seven years ago when we first met. Try to start all over again. Arrange a first date. Make it clear to the husband that you want to update and expect the same from him.

Author:

Etudes M


Source:

Our psychology

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