All the best for the children - except nipples

Our sons and daughters suck fingers, bite nails, kovyrâû nose and say bad words. "How many times do I have to say that you can't do it! " - we boiled. Adults often think that the little man is doing this to spite them, and few people think that this behavior of the child may hide very complex, often intractable internal conflict.



Parental Inquisition


Habits of the child nail biting, touching wounds, thumb sucking produce bad impression on others. Naturally, the desire of parents to deal with such unsightly manifestations by any means. Shouting and straightening are not always. And sometimes "creative" imagination of parents can be the envy of any Inquisitor They smear baby fingers mustard, cut the nails to the most do not want" smear sores so badly stung. Sometimes in this way manage to win, but only on the local area.




The child, for example, stops thumb sucking, but immediately finds a new field of action, and plenty of eating mustard baby starts to pull his hair or without end to pull the ear lobe.




In this regard, every adult should know that these "habits" are the result of the manifestations of neurosis. Thumb sucking, Pomerania, scratching and so on - not that other, as a compensatory mechanism by which the child tries to suppress his anxiety, to satisfy the lack of attention from adults or to overcome your fear. Bad habits like honking parents: "the child that something is wrong, he Has serious problems! In this case, any stringent measures to an even greater extent provoke the disease. Because neurosis is a disease.




Of course, it would be good if the child got rid of bad habits myself. However, it is practically impossible, and therefore parents have to be patient and to begin to deal with the root cause, not the consequence.





Peel off the "flies" from "meatballs"!


More parents need to clearly distinguish between Intrusive actions that interfere with the normal development of the child, it is permissible oddities and small habits that, in General, everybody has one.




Let's say someone can't do homework, if writing materials on the table is not laid out in a specific order. Someone collects in pockets or backpack different stones, and someone can't fall asleep without your favorite soft toys, if It is not normal, well tolerated, as others harm does not work.




By the way, for some professions it is the tendency to constantly analyze your actions and to be accurate in the details - the pinnacle of skill. And those same doctors? Those who are called the best clinicians in the childhood had a very moderate anxiety-suspiciousness.




So maybe some light obsession is not such a bad thing as it might seem at first glance. Be wary should, if you suddenly notice that the Intrusive actions of the child to terminate unable.





What to do?


Often take child on my hands, play with him, do him a massage. The baby needed your touch! Most importantly, never scold for this kid.




Do not allow the child to suck on a pacifier or fingers before going to sleep. Overly emotional child can be given a pacifier before falling asleep, but after he falls asleep, it should be carefully removed from the mouth. Not that the child was walking on the street or sleeping with a pacifier in his mouth. Don't let him suck your fingers or other objects (if only he didn't cut his teeth). Odstraniti hand baby's mouth to distract him interesting and enjoyable experience. You can also wear vests with sewn sleeves.

Author:

Melina E.


Source:

Child.Roux

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