Is it possible to prepare for treason?

Statistics show that more than half of men cheat on their wives and girlfriends. Knowing this fact, no woman can feel completely safe. For what reasons we can determine that we change, and what to do if unpleasant truth is out?



How to understand that your partner is cheating on you? Many women feel this intuitively, but there are some signals, which is worth a listen.



- changes in emotional state: your partner became angry and cold for no apparent reason, or Vice versa - has suddenly become soft and flexible, buys you gifts and recognised in love, though such gestures behind him was not observed



- changes in sexual behaviour: now your man need a lot more or less sex than before, or he wants to try something never mentioned before



changes in appearance: for example, clothing styles, hairstyles. The man could exercise to lose weight to pump up muscles, though he didn't care.



changes in lifestyle: he suddenly began to stay at work late or on the contrary - to spend the evening with friends in night clubs. Or go in the evening, ostensibly to each other to help in something.


Of course, much of this subjective signs. The jealous women they can cause suspicion, and Derevnia may not even pay attention to them. More serious symptoms are disturbing comments from friends who had seen him somewhere with another woman, or a large number of calls to its number (if you take the tube - that is, "not be there"), ambiguous (or even explicit) SMS in his mobile. However, sometimes strange things happen. For example, the woman with whom he was seen of your friends, will be the cousin, and ambiguous in your opinion SMS was designed for an old friend. So until then, until you get real evidence of treason, does not make any rush decisions and to start packing your suitcases (or their). If you are plagued by doubts - try to talk openly with their partner. This conversation may or dispel your suspicions, or opposite - confirm.





What to do when cheating is detectedand to doubt this sad fact is not necessary? In order to decide how to act, is to first understand - what prompted your partner to change. Consider the most common causes of infidelity.



- the fear of commitment. This cause indicates the immaturity of men, but it is possible that he has serious psychological problems.



- the reason for separation. Sometimes a man does not dare directly to say to the woman that wants to get away from her. In this case, he can change her, not really hiding it. And when she wants to go, not hold it. Very often the woman had committed adultery, hopes to keep a man. However, as a rule, it does not. Using it to solve their problems, the man throws her.



- revenge. Although vengeful often referred to as women, but some men can give them a head start. Such men are changing in response to the betrayal of their ladies - in order to punish her and to obtain the evidence of his own attractiveness to women.



- your partner is bored with you or he is unhappy. Men can tire lasting relationships that turn into routine. If they are accompanied by sexual problems or problems with communication - they can search all this on the side. In this case, most often the man does not want just sex he wants warmth and attention, which he loses with a constant partner.



- self-doubt. If a man suffers from an inferiority complex, it is likely he will need to find new evidence of their sexual attractiveness. Those who are the least scrupulous in this matter, will change their partners. The rest can just to torment the woman jealousy.



- selfishness. Some men (women too, but it is not about them) believe that the world should revolve around them. And that means they should have whatever they want, when they want. Men who think so, treat women as things, I wanted one won it, then wanted another easily changed former partner.


Depending on what reason prompted your man to change you, you must decide what to do. Largely your decision depends on whether you are able to forgive the betrayal and so you are jealous. If you even glance men at a stranger woman seems a betrayal, the fact that this betrayal will bring you to a state of this shock. The chances are that sooner or later you will forgive and forget, is scanty. If the reason for the treason that your man is unhappy with you - you need to be aware of their share of the blame and take measures to address the problems (of course, if you need this man). Well, if the reason for the betrayal, selfishness or fear of commitment - not even worth wasting strength on such a man! try to forget it and live on because you are at one.

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Woman To Woman

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