Husband says not what you wanted to hear, or even silent, her face buried in a newspaper. Children prefer to play with their peers. And you are increasingly sorry for myself, starting to MOPE over the fact that nobody cares about your sad thoughts...So, to become happier, we need to change something. Whatever happens, do not stand still. Just go ahead, do something, in the end, and do it with a smile. Not forgetting even for a moment, that to achieve success you need three things: understanding of the family, irrepressible optimism and moving forward.
Our consultant
the President of the International charity Fund "Putorti" and the International Academy of technology development "Avatar" Liana Musatov
Delicious dinner, the perfect figure or mind Commerce?
Of course, you're not a Jesus who could heal the day before yesterday dead Lazarus. Your husband, thank God, is alive and well and just lying on the sofa, and then all is not lost! The main thing is not to fear, in spite of not the correct actions spouse (or children), to "grow" their own happiness. Immediately warn to do so, as the old proverb, "he writes on your head, and you say, "Rain," has no prospects. Such a sacrifice to no good will not. It is necessary to make the husband... correctly wrote.
And for this you just need to be a star. What do you do besides that to be smiling, kinder, more beautiful and slimmer? How to understand what they need to do if...
- Your neighbor, and so is twice as thick as you, goes into a shapeless robe, which lacks the four buttons (you counted and remembered that under the right circumstances, to give an example), and day sweats at the plate. However, her hubby is flying on the wings of love home and calls her a goat, blissfully gobbling up a hearty dinner.
- For the wife of your brother, divine beauty which is achieved through detachment (no division! specially trained people, to discuss the deeper issue than it is a new tool from wrinkles (and where she finds the person as a heel) is a real torture. And your have a degree brother weleetka the charm of the wife 24 hours a day!
Is your employee, otita bitch, moreover, that work brought 110-pound boss till he fainted, and filed for him in court because he fell, hurt her big toe! And the house that fear is not the time to sneeze husband calls her " darling, cooks dinner and does not cease to admire her temperament in bed.
You try to be slim, as the deer, gentle as a kitten, smear on the night face with oatmeal, cooked cabbage and marzipan, washing and cleaning... And the husband does not even notice that children for a week the parents took and the time for romance.
And in fact!
His stomach bothers you for him to cuddle and chronic facial hair leaves room for a kiss only in the region of the eye. And we want him to be your legs after a hard day massage, and that a firm male hand bulb was funneling in the pantry (for three weeks without light) - in the end, it's not women's job!
What to do? Here's what: to determine what you really from each other need. For this couple can pass a simple test. Take a sheet of paper, a pen and sit at different tables. Now honestly write what ideally you see your soul mate. It is best to list the qualities in a column, starting with the most important. And then, together, read and draw conclusions.
Maybe then you will finally understand what he or she needs from you actually. Most importantly, do not get hung up on the top of the list. After all, if the husband above all else appreciates my wife, for example, her beautiful body, but she is his sense of humor, this does not mean that it can be removed from the household chores, going under the eighth paragraph, and for him to stop shaving (item No. 12).
Laughter is the best medicine
Under the current situation, it's time to learn to smile more often. By the way, despite the fact that our people are usually proudly declares: "I will Not make stretch lips in a smile, it's unnatural! "he, oddly enough, not quite right. Judge for yourself: when you feel sad, all the muscles of your face hang down and become flabby. But when you smile, the muscles are set in motion. This uplifting and stimulates the active work of the whole body.
According to scientists, even insincere smile has almost the same effect on the body, like the most that neither is true. As a result of active work of facial muscles dilate blood vessels, the brain receives more oxygen, and cells of the Central nervous system secrete hormones joy that kill microbes and bacteria, strengthen the immune system and prevent the emergence of cancer cells. Studies have shown that after watching Comedy number "joyful" cell-techs are considerably increased.
There is even a special science, which studies the impact of laughter on the human body, Hepatology. It says that laughter improves blood flow to all organs, normalizes blood pressure, eliminates spasms of the intestine, accelerates the natural processes of cleansing the body. And the air coming out of the lungs during laughter at a speed of 100 km/h, frees the bronchi from accumulated there mucus and eases breathing, for example, bronchitis or asthma.
In the 70-ies of the American psychologist and journalist Norman cousins laid the foundations of smehoterapiya - at the University of Los Angeles established the Department of the study of problems of laughter and treatment options they patients. And the reason he was! It's very original recovered from the complex bone disease, when he almost had no chance to recover: could not move, speak, even to chew. After the doctor told him that one of the reasons this disease is the sadness and anger that cause failures in the immune system, the cousins decided: "If the sadness kills the laughter should cure! " Norman moved from the hospital to the hotel, ordered in the room overhead projector, and a nurse by day "whipped" him gay movies (almost all the doctors then it already refused! ). As a result, the cousins not only survived for a few years for him to fully returned to health, he was again able to move, work and even play the piano. In the end, cousins and even wrote a bestseller about his miraculous recovery and earn a lot of money.
By the way
Now in the USA, more than 600 experts sloterplas, and in Brazil there is a medical Center for patients suffering from depression, stress and even diabetes, where people are treated not with pills and injections, and laughter!
Training "Smile"
After this introduction, critical look in the mirror at myself sad (well this was you day today) and dim sight of her husband (how else is your view ought to act? ) is the time to do the training. It is recommended that at least a few hours daily.
So, determine the time (for example, from 19.00 to 21.00), when all family members will be banned... not to smile. In a prominent place (the mirror in the hallway or fridge) hang a sheet of paper with a list of his household, which mark all the episodes of the lack of smiles on the faces of their neighbors.
After the training, check out who has more "negative" points. The loser has to do something nice for the family business. By the way, could be interesting if before the game on the reverse side of the above-mentioned sheet to write something that will do the losers: from the banal to "bake a cake" to the original "kiss on 30 times each member of the family". Can be split into two teams - parents and children. The main thing - even if you first just artificially stretch lips, still remember at this moment on something fun. And by the end of the training you will have to laugh without restraint. This therapy does not require a trip to the therapist and spending money. But it will refresh your relationship, will rejuvenate the body and just cheer up.
"Rays" desires ignite "the Sun of the new features"
How often do you sigh: "So many goals, so many desires, how to make?! Unreal! "and... desperate. But nothing is impossible (unless of course, you set goals easier, than to become the President of America or to fly to the moon). The most important thing - you must believe in yourself. First of all, ask yourself what you cost your pain, what price is paid for waiting until someone else finally take full responsibility for enhancing success in your family? And if you really are ready to increase happiness and abundance in all, it means only one thing: you start by itself to create it! But what if your seasoned diary a complete mess in my head does not fit the entire list of urgent matters, the important idea is forgotten at the critical moment, and in a piece of paper with you made plans for the future husband wrapped can of worms for fishing?
You will help "the Sun of the new features is a method of psychological impact. On itself. Draw markers on a sheet of construction paper large circle in the center is another, a little. This is your "I". A large circle was stripped rays on several "slices" and note in each that have long wanted to do but did not meet. Don't forget about the dream. So are you going to represent your desires. In "ray-slices" for example, you might enter:
- make peace with your mother-in-law;
- to lose 5 kg;
- to learn English;
- to implement a new idea at work;
- send the children to the mountains;
- finally make repairs in the bathroom;
to buy the precious coat;
- to go on vacation in Turkey.
Here is a picture - ask me how!!!
In each sector make a brief summary: what is the timeframe for each dream what you want to achieve it. Then put the "sun of new opportunities" on the door (preferably on the input) and perform scheduled. Remember that, making this scheme, you did that really lives in your soul and cries out! For our dreams exist precisely in order to accomplish them! So we shined! By the way, remember: learn happiness - they increase your health! When early in the morning you begin to realize his dreams, as a duty of happiness in your family, in your heart explodes inside source fills life with the energy of joy. The beam, the "filling" which remained unrealized until the appointed time, erase eraser. And immediately their eyes will see, as in the whole "I've got a hole in which there is no power. But you decided to be improved - means no holes in your "I" should not be! (Only in case of loss of relevance of any item you can replace it with another).
And most importantly - grow further: outlinei new rays purposes at its "sun". From each sector draw continued with new plans. Thy radiant "sun" success is the real Love. Its rays and will warm your family!
Nodules on the memory
- Every morning, stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself: "I love life! "and then list what you love her, and smile.
- Ask your missus for help, support, ask what you can inspire, it brings, so you will be better to understand each other.
Not through the code yourself: "I can't", keep looking hands this negative energy can "break" your positive force.
- When you open the door of his apartment, forget about their discontent, irritability, indeed, in a family you have to bear inspiration, joy, support and happiness.
Author:
Smereka M
Source:
World family
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