Conversation baby can't be stopped, you know, to discourage the child from the wall outlet is not enough to explain to him that it is dangerous. Curse you, the child most likely will not be when You poke into the outlet all sorts of things, but would try to do this when the devil supervision, on the sly. It's logical, mom will yell, it is better that she didn't recognize, and curiosity above, the solution is to make desired until the mother to the baby. And the mother can not always keep child in view, not least because the mother as all the living and the need we have to celebrate (sorry for the gross details, but we're not bigots). In this situation it would be more likely to hide from the eyes of a child inviting holes in the wall, the same fuse. But the situation, you see, there are all sorts, and such, when my mother think that shouting is not necessary.
However we were not wonderful parents, there are statistics indicating that wanting to achieve unquestioning submission and obedience, we often raise their voices to their children, including infants under one year, which, in fact, do not understand. This is especially true with young parents. Than parents of older you are, the slower they are.
The Creek is a shock
Psychologists emphasize that the real purpose of the parent cry - shock baby to get him to obey. But there are times when the Creek is one of the forms of communication. Because we are different, we are very temperamental, scandalous and used to prove the correctness of the throat. There are just bad. Plus fatigue, nervousness. But you never know. I mean it was mentioned that it is not our fault and our problem that we are raising a baby allow myself to cry. We are not to blame, because we are someone's children, and someday, perhaps, as was brought up. Therefore, we are not interested to listen notation more seasoned moms, we want to be for their children best and we, and I will do for it whatever I can.
First of all, let us acquire a critical moment, when the screams again, become a regular, produces psychological stencil, which is then the child will follow in adult life, doing likewise with respect to spouses, partners and their own children. All that is required from the mother to her baby to grow happy, to give him a permanent feeling that love him and appreciate that he was safe. Cry somehow don't fit in with security, isn't it?
In addition, the parent shouting and swearing undermine the child's self-esteem and degrade.
The teacher notes that children raised in a noisy families often experience difficulties in school, as they do not perceive and do not respond to more quiet accessed by teachers and classmates. In addition, it is harder for them to acquire the essential human ability to listen to others.
Unanimously resolved Creek is our enemy. Although if You looked in this article, this idea managed to gain a foothold in You. The main difficulty to overcome their emotions, but it can be overcome.
So as not to break the scream
So as not to break the scream when the child has committed an outrageous act, take a deep breath,, hold your lip before to say something. Do not hide from him that angry, but do not go to the Creek. If you feel that will surely fail, go away. I call it the escape from yourself. Legs in his hands and into another room, silently cursing himself under his breath. How would then not have had to learn to hold back from cursing! The child must understand that You are very angry and deal with it will be when you calm down. If You do not refrain from a shout, try not to say things that are particularly painful hit to human dignity. Talk about what You would like, and don't threaten. For example, "I want you to collect all the toys, but in any case "don't go for a walk until you collect toys".
If in cases of violent disturbances parents have gone too far, it is reasonable to apologize to the child, when the quarrel subsided. So, I know what many of conscientious moms and it was better not to bring to the pangs of conscience, You will succeed.
To learn how to control your anger, you just need to put in front of the goal. I know my mother wished for his child, the better the cake will hurt, and goals to achieve. Well, no need to miss the opportunity to speak and to demonstrate by their behavior that you love your child and be proud of its achievements.
Author:
A. Juric
Source:
mama.uz
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