What begins greed? The child grows greedy, stingy, and parents that are very concerned about. They often feel uncomfortable in front of others who witness such scenes.
- What me some chocolates! I'm hungry! - asked the little fellow classmates.
- No! and the chocolate instantly removed or broken such a small piece that's just embarrassing to watch.
- You can take your game?
- It is impossible! Spoil!
I will try your jacket?
- In any case!
Relationships with people spoil familiar offended not only on children but also on the parents: they do it in such raised!
Greed as a trait can develop the child for several reasons.
The first of them - lack of warm, emotional relationships with people. It happens when parents raise a child in severity, behave with him officially and cold will never caress.
Baby I want to love, affection, and he finds her in dealing... with things. He sleeps with a book, talking with electronic toy, he is in love with his notebook, caressing his jacket. Of course, he will not give it. The word "Mine! " for it is sacred. This is due to the fact that the child cannot be said with certainty about your favorite person: My mom, my dad, my brother! " And this question is not related bond and emotional attachment of these people to him, in their faithfulness.
To help the child in this situation can only parents if they surround him with love and your relationship will prove: "We are always with you, we are yours! ".
The second reason is greed
- payment of their own complexes. The child something behind peers, he becomes jealous, but it has things that they don't have. Maybe it's a computer game, a rare book or notebook with excellent grades, but to share it it will not. We must also do something to hurt these beauties, clever or athletes! He becomes jealous, let them envy him!
In this case, it would be nice to find out who and why the child is jealous. We need him to speak frankly and say that white envy is good, it helps to identify true desires. Only it is necessary not to suffer and not to offend others, but to improve yourself, otherwise it will be black envy. Help your child to catch up in that area of his life where he feels like a loser.
The third reason is greed
- a negative experience, when something is given to someone at the time, was corrupted, lost, destroyed, or simply assigned permanently. This experience leads to fear, what is again powto - Rida. And neat, lean baby, loving manner, giving someone your thing, feels uncomfortable: favorite music CD to lose the notebook will selaput and will not return in time, and a beautiful pin will break. Therefore, it is better nothing to give. So relaxed! Yes, relationships with friends will deteriorate, but in the Affairs of the order.
To help your child, talk to him about his fears. Ask when he first realized that to give things another person dangerous? Who and when it failed the first time? What he felt? Explain to him that occasionally there are dishonest people, but this does not mean that these are all. For example, here he is. If someone will give a loan notebook, how he will behave? Pleasure whether he will, if one shall say to him: "I tell you the notebook will not give! You will ruin or lose it! " What's he going to feel? What is he, when he is suspected of dishonesty?
Is it worth sharing?
Some believe that to share things unprofitable, but they are wrong. Recall the conclusion of the cartoon "the grandmother of the Boa constrictor": "You are somebody that would offer you somebody something to offer". That is, the child not only improve relationships with others, but also have access to their stuff!
Tell your child about the rules of engagement
1. Bailing out his friend, you make him a tacit agreement that he'll help out, if needed. It is important that all was true: if someone takes your notebook, but my notebook doesn't give you, then such a person to help is not necessary.
2. Even if you are very independent and don't need anybody's service, remember the tale "the cat house". The cat refused to feed nephews, but when her house burned down, she had to ask them shelter. No one knows what will happen tomorrow, so you cannot be sure that this person or that you never will need.
3. You should be able to empathize with others. If someone is hungry, cold, thirsty, is it not possible to share with him food or clothes?
4. If it is absolutely scary to give someone your thing, you can always say: "This thing is very precious to me. Please treat her gently! "Usually fulfill such a request.
5. And yet, if the thing to give, I do not want you not to give and help each other way. You cannot go against yourself and allow people to manipulate.
And if you are drawn to someone else's property?
There is another option greed, far more dangerous. This greed in relation to the total, or worse, to someone else's property. For example, at the table, the child takes more delicious, ignoring the others. Student at the rink runs children with their "own " territory. "This place is busy! "is a favorite expression of such people.
If the child begins to manifest such greed, some parents believe it's practicality. Became friends with excellence to decommission homework? Well done! Asked generous boy gift? Too fine!
Thus, it is not clear who is more greedy: one who pretends to be someone else's property, or the one who protects her. Therefore all should know when to stop and not to derogate from the principle of justice. If the child is overly generous, it threatens to further trouble for himself and for his family.
Author:
Gum Yu
Source:
The health of the schoolchild
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